Flagpole wrote:
Runningart2004 wrote:
We victim blaming now? At risk for what? How about we blame the predator rapist not the potential victim. Thanks.
Alan
Yeah, stop the victim blaming. Women should dress how ever they wish according to the law. Decency and those who actually love FREEDOM, should never blame a woman for being assaulted based on how she dresses.
I don't think anyone was victim blaming in this string. At least I read it as this: There are guys who act disgusting/creepy and will harass you. That's not a good thing, and it's not your fault that they're doing it, but it's most likely that the next time you go on a run, there will still be men out there harassing you. It would probably be safer if you wore more, even though in a perfect world, you could wear whatever you wanted with no threat. I think that's at least a more charitable reading.
As for the OP, I don't think they were thinking of you as a skank. They were probably just looking to get your attention/trying to hit on you in a weird way. Unfortunately, if your friend group allows you to catcall people, there's really no reason you would think it's wrong. I'd think guys who do it see it as harmless, even though girls I know say it makes them uncomfortable.
Also, as a side note, when people talk about toxic masculinity, it's about stuff like catcalling random girls on the street who are running and minding their own business. If you see someone do it, tell them that it's not okay.