Guys make big deal over girls running in sports bras/spandex

are they actually calling you a whore, slut whatever? I don't see this behavior, but I would believe it. Guys are hyper visual creatures tho. They are going to like what they see, even if they just view it as necessary running attire for the weather.

Women never overtly show interest in someone they're attracted to. Thanks for confirming.

ashcash23 wrote:

I’m not saying all guys of course but i’m a female that lives in florida so it gets pretty hot here in the afternoons. I wear a sports bras/nike pros or just regular nike tempo shorts and in the past 2 weeks 3 men have approached me and one has whistled like i’m some skank or something. Guys are able to go shirtless and be fine but I swear some females wear a sports bra running and we are considered the “whores” and men think we are wearing that to get there attention. LIKE NO ITS JUST HOT AF lol. Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this? The 3 men were older (maybe 40s) but the one suprisngly looked in his early 20s.

I totally understand that it is hot and you want to stay cool. Me being a guy though and knowing how guys think, I would never dress like that as a girl if I was running. Like another poster said, men are very visual creatures. Whether you are looking for attention or not, you are receiving a large amount of attention from guys whether they make it apparent or not. You are potentially putting yourself in a place of danger by dressing like this.

I don't think a woman is necessarily in danger dressing like this. But it is a sad fact that in some parts, they will have to be more choosey about when and where they run. (ie, not at night, not in remote areas)

We victim blaming now? At risk for what? How about we blame the predator rapist not the potential victim. Thanks.

Alan

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Runningart2004 wrote:

uhhhh wrote:

I totally understand that it is hot and you want to stay cool. Me being a guy though and knowing how guys think, I would never dress like that as a girl if I was running. Like another poster said, men are very visual creatures. Whether you are looking for attention or not, you are receiving a large amount of attention from guys whether they make it apparent or not. You are potentially putting yourself in a place of danger by dressing like this.

We victim blaming now? At risk for what? How about we blame the predator rapist not the potential victim. Thanks.

Alan

Literally nobody raped anyone. Hyperbole much?

Runningart2004 wrote:

uhhhh wrote:

I totally understand that it is hot and you want to stay cool. Me being a guy though and knowing how guys think, I would never dress like that as a girl if I was running. Like another poster said, men are very visual creatures. Whether you are looking for attention or not, you are receiving a large amount of attention from guys whether they make it apparent or not. You are potentially putting yourself in a place of danger by dressing like this.

We victim blaming now? At risk for what? How about we blame the predator rapist not the potential victim. Thanks.

Alan

Not victim blaming, sir. I completely agree, we should blame the predators. But simply ignoring the idea of predators existing everywhere and the chance of being attacked is foolish.

Plenty of guys go running in hot weather with just split shorts and running shoes. Nothing wrong with wearing what works for you as a woman.

Some men just can't handle their testosterone and the effects it has on their urges and behavior.

uhhh guys? wrote:

Some men just can't handle their testosterone and the effects it has on their urges and behavior.

Your intentions are good but guys definitely can resist their urges and behavior. Not to do so would be sexual harassment and is illegal. Theres just an issue with qualifying men being creepy and gross as just something that just is, and cant be changed, I know you don't have any personal connection here but this sort of rhetoric is part of why theres such deep rooted issues, people think this sort of behavior is just part of being a guy.

byron evans wrote:

Women never overtly show interest in someone they're attracted to. Thanks for confirming.

POV: you've never had any woman interested in you

FutureOldHead wrote:

byron evans wrote:

Women never overtly show interest in someone they're attracted to. Thanks for confirming.

POV: you've never had any woman interested in you

Whenever I run by your mom's house on my 10k she always invites me in for an old fashioned.

FutureOldHead wrote:

uhhh guys? wrote:

Some men just can't handle their testosterone and the effects it has on their urges and behavior.

Your intentions are good but guys definitely can resist their urges and behavior. Not to do so would be sexual harassment and is illegal. Theres just an issue with qualifying men being creepy and gross as just something that just is, and cant be changed, I know you don't have any personal connection here but this sort of rhetoric is part of why theres such deep rooted issues, people think this sort of behavior is just part of being a guy.

Deeply rooted in genetics, hence why we have had these issues since the beginning of time. A sad reality, but true. Most men can control this, absolutely, but ignoring that such men exist who cannot is not the solution either.

ashcash23 wrote:

Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this?

unfortunately the only answer to this is that there is an abundance of double standards, sexism, and casual sexualization of women in the world. You aren't doing anything unusual, those guys were just creeps. If its most comfortable for you to run this way, do it. Just as another poster said, make sure you stay safe, if you have a group to run with do so and just to be careful. Sorry that this happened to you, sadly it almost certainly wont be the last time.

byron evans wrote:

FutureOldHead wrote:

POV: you've never had any woman interested in you

Whenever I run by your mom's house on my 10k she always invites me in for an old fashioned.

POV: youre well into adulthood and have never kissed a girl before

uhhhh wrote:

Deeply rooted in genetics, hence why we have had these issues since the beginning of time. A sad reality, but true. Most men can control this, absolutely, but ignoring that such men exist who cannot is not the solution either.

Almost entirely untrue tho. Guys who are creeps aren't creeps because of testosterone or a higher sex drive. Theyre creeps because they've never been made to feel that that kind of behavior is inappropriate. And no, especially in the short term there isnt a solution, but I'm just saying writing it off as genetics is further normalizing those kinds of actions. Again, I don't think you meant anything by it but its just something to think on.

FutureOldHead wrote:

uhhhh wrote:

Deeply rooted in genetics, hence why we have had these issues since the beginning of time. A sad reality, but true. Most men can control this, absolutely, but ignoring that such men exist who cannot is not the solution either.

Almost entirely untrue tho. Guys who are creeps aren't creeps because of testosterone or a higher sex drive. Theyre creeps because they've never been made to feel that that kind of behavior is inappropriate. And no, especially in the short term there isnt a solution, but I'm just saying writing it off as genetics is further normalizing those kinds of actions. Again, I don't think you meant anything by it but its just something to think on.

Good point. Thank you, I appreciate you staying civil in our conversation. We need more interactions like this on letsrun instead of becoming emotional or personally attacking each other. Have a great day. You as well, OP.

byron evans wrote:

FutureOldHead wrote:

POV: you've never had any woman interested in you

Whenever I run by your mom's house on my 10k she always invites me in for an old fashioned.

Well this negates your original claim, doesn't it?

Probably because you're in Florida. Most places there aren't exactly sophisticated. Certain places also don't educate people not to do stuff like that. So you have situations where a bunch of losers feel free to act like disgusting pigs.