How to date women when your finances are in order and theirs are not?

There is a reason the dowry traditionally came from the bride's family. This problem is as old as time so the parents of the bride paid for it in advance. You can get around it. Make sure her parents has money and use a prenuptial agreement.

If the woman goes to nuts, quit working for a while, or threaten to do so.

Don’t worry about dating women. They are a money pit. As said before if you aren’t financially compatible then the marriage won’t last.

Second. Avoid marriage. It only benefits the woman. The reason men pay for escorts is so that they leave afterwards.

The last several comments are incredibly sexist. Please, Brojos, clean up your website. This thread is trash. This entire place is becoming trash.

Date people who are in the same financial zone as you. Recipe for disaster to date people who are bad with money, much less get involved with them.

NERunner053 wrote:

The last several comments are incredibly sexist. Please, Brojos, clean up your website. This thread is trash. This entire place is becoming trash.

Agree. A bunch of women haters hanging around.

Not so fast bro wrote:

So don't mix finances.

Married 12 years and still don't have any joint accounts. I pay the bills, she pays me. We split the mortgage based on who makes more (it's about 60-40 with me paying the higher percentage). Other bills we split equally. She's GREAT with money but we never saw the need for joint accounts.

Married 9 years, and all accounts are joint. I pay the bills AND pay her! Then again... she is a stay at home mom for our children. So many people are so worried about equality with the money, my money is mine, hers is hers. When you are married you are a joint team with the same goals, same assets and same financial responsibility. It's called family.

Coffeegirl123 wrote:

NERunner053 wrote:

The last several comments are incredibly sexist. Please, Brojos, clean up your website. This thread is trash. This entire place is becoming trash.

Agree. A bunch of women haters hanging around.

Truth doesn’t imply hate. I don’t think anyone has said that they hate anybody.

Not so fast bro wrote:

NewtotheSouthSide wrote:

How come we only see threads like this on LRC where the male has it together. Plenty of women have their finances together and plenty of men don't.

It's because lots of young, insecure men post here. Women make up nearly 60% of college graduates now, and are achieving at rates higher than ever. This makes young men uncomfortable, they're busy playing video games in mom's basement with no future and women aren't attracted to them. So they find ways to knock women down in their eyes, whatever, it's very transparent.

Yeah, if we knew absolutely nothing about the actual income distribution in the U.S. or anywhere else in the world, your comment might make sense. But we do and it doesn't. Men make most of the money because men pursue the most lucrative careers. Men do more difficult jobs and work longer hours when they have the same jobs as women. As a result, we make much more money.

There are a lot more broke women than broke men. Sorry to break it to you.

I'm starting to understand why there are sugar daddies and sugar babies.

Makes me sad :(

Well it seems like you are attracted to the financial opposite of yourself then. If you keep trying to date women who you disagree with completely on finances then that would be your problem now wouldn't it. There are plenty of women not like you describe, but you are apparently attracted to the women you are complaining about.

Maybe don't go after women who seem high maintenance? Perhaps you are picking women to date by seeing them all dressed up in expensive clothes and looking real nice or something, and somehow don't realize that means they spend a lot of money buying crap. I dunno, just a guess. But clearly you are seeking out this one type of woman that you later on realize you wouldn't want to date seriously due to finance differences. So...look for different kinds of women or accept that you are attracted to spenders and deal with it.

bigly finance guy wrote:

Any thoughts? Yeah, don't date those women. Not that hard to determine those who you wouldn't be compatible with on a physical / emotional / values level. Obviously you value financial independence and intelligence - narrow it down from there but understand that you're never going to find someone that's perfect and you will need to compromise on certain things. Common sense.........

+1

One other likely problem that I don't think anyone has mentioned directly - if she doesn't value saving and the security it brings, she'll feel like you don't really love her if you'd rather save money than spend it on her, or even on the two of you.

OP,

It all depends on if you are a Red Pill male or a Blue Pill male.

If you go into a prospective relationship thinking that there is some kind of equal partnership at stake, then yes a woman's finances are important to consider. That's the Blue Pill approach.

But if you're on top of your game, and realize that prospective relationships work best when you are the Alpha and she is the Beta, then as long as she's not bringing any personal debt or cra-cra baggage into the mix just go with it. A responsible Beta woman is willing to at least pull her own weight and not treat you like her personal ATM.

NERunner053 wrote:

The last several comments are incredibly sexist. Please, Brojos, clean up your website. This thread is trash. This entire place is becoming trash.

The brojos use this website to perpetuate misogyny. They won't clean this up. In fact, they started this thread to generate traffic and fuel the hate. Typical storyline: Women use men for money because they're incapable of supporting themselves. They're small minded, lazy, users, vain, etc.

Guys- you are the company you keep. And judging from your experiences, you're keepers of $hit. Keep slogging.

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Typical storyline: Women use men for money because they're incapable of supporting themselves. They're small minded, lazy, users, vain, etc.[/quote]

True.

43% of Americans do not have $400. in the bank. Over 50% live paycheck to paycheck.

If you are online dating, only date women with a graduate degree.

Or, date strictly for hotness and integrity. Also, make sure her mom still has a thin asss.

Mojo Jerkin wrote:

Financial stress is a key component of many failed marriages. I think OP is right on all accounts. You don't have to find someone who totally gets it financially as you do, but you need someone who understands the value of living below her means and saving. If not, love will not conquer all, and that stress will come into your marriage at some point or another.

And don't have any kids.

90%, 90%!!! of marriages with kids, 4 years after the first kid is born, become...loveless marriages. (Dan Gilbert.)

Get snipped guys.

Friend of mine had to talk to 5...count 'em FIVE doctors before he found one that would give him a vasectomy at age...21.

Financially Astute wrote:

I'm struggling a bit with what to do about these women if I ever enter into a serious relationship with one because a) explaining all this stuff feels to me like explaining addition and subtraction to a 6 year old, and b) there's such a mismatch in our financial habits and mindset that even the decent ones are still going to be an enormous financial burden if we start mixing finances. I don't really know how to think about all this or how to strike a balance.

That situation certainly is still well established at my age. Browsing the dating sites such as pof shows that most women's ambition in their 60's and 70's is to indulge in wine, go to parties, go on cruises and/or travel the world. Plus nearly all of them are severely out of condition and not even aware that they're a few steps away from being in a nursing home or worse.

My very responsible spouse passed away a few years ago, and I honestly don't find any woman in this area who is suitable to be with. I would like to be in another relationship, but not with some loser who can't even take good care of herself.

Lol. Is this a joke? Most people don't know that stuff. Just get you a hotty that runs and will do whatever you want in bed.