again to carthage,
This is kind of redundant since I posted in your earlier thread about this. The link is below. In any case, to repeat...
I am a former prez of an asian student association. From that perch, I have seen far too many asian students forced into a course of study for which they have no desire (foremost: pre-med). Some accept their lot in life and do fine, however some do not. A few things happen to those folks:
1) They perform poorly academically despite being very bright students
2) The smart ones quit their pre-med studies early and earn say a business degree instead
3) Many do not end up in med school in part because they have poor grades, low MCAT scores, and overall not qualified to be accepted at good med schools.
4) They spend countless years trying to figure things out, going from one odd job to another
5) In the end, they are listless for a few years and managed to still disappoint their parents
I can count on more than one hand, asians that follow this path. #5 is worth repeating. If you do not follow your passions, you will disappoint yourself and eventually your parents anyway.
Asian parents have an obsession in wanting their kids to be doctors and lawyers. Part of it is they want a good life for you (to be a professional versus a middle-class worker like themselves). I would say though that a bigger part of it is very selfish. One of the most prestigious things an Asian parent can claim is that my child is a doctor. It gives them immediate status and provides "proof" of how well they have raised their children. This kind of bullshit external validation in Asian society is part of the culture - for better or worse.
I'll give you an example. I know this one guy. He designs autos for Daimler. In fact, he designed the ML (I used to have a copy of the concept design which was far more radical than the existing version). He is one of only a few hundred such type designers in the world (the idea is that it is a very exclusive fraternity). He drives a new Benz every few months. He works 40 hours a week tops and makes a sick amount of money. What a freakin' dream job. He was mad in love with this one woman. She however broke up because her parents wanted her to marry a doctor or lawyer instead. WTF, most would say. Almost unbelievable unless you've seen or heard about this over and over again as I have.
You MUST, MUST take a stand against this. Your future is your own. I repeat from my previous post:
-There is an inflection point in every relationship with Asian parents where you break their will and dominance over you, and they realize that you are responsible enough to make your own decision and learn from your own mistakes. I advocate that point should come earlier sometime in HS rather than in college or post-collegiate in some cases.
-Clearly, you are not there yet, but you need to be soon.
Your parents are grandstanding. They will push the most extreme argument to make sure you adhere to their wishes.
Do you really think that your parents love you so little that they will really disown you? They insist on this only because they love you so much. Prove to them that what you are doing is right for you.
It would help if they thought you were more responsible, but they simply don't believe you know how to make good decisions for yourself (I think they may have a valid point here, but more on this later).
Take the consensus advice of the people on this thread. Do what you want. If you think the risk of "disownership" is too high, then make this compromise: go to UW and earn a teaching degree. In fact, you can still dupe your parents that you are still pre-med for the first year or so. You don't have to start taking specific courses until your second year anyway. By then, you will get more time away from your parents and show them that you can make good judgements for yourself. You can delay the "disownership" this way for another year or so. Who knows? You may like biology afterall.
If this is not palatable, your only option is to bear the risk and stake a claim for your own life. Get the scholarship, go to the other school and prove your parents wrong. Just be ready for an extended resolution period that may stretch years.
Email me if you want to discuss. I can get you in touch with many of my friends that had to endure what you went through. tdinh125 at dinhtoc.net.
Good luck.
http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=669629&page=4