I know I have posted a topic about this before long ago. But I must be gthe question again because the problem arises again for me. Thank you for your responses. I truly mean it.
You see I have a big problem on my hands.
My parents have always wanted me to become a doctor or dentist of some sort. They have preached this since whenever i was growing up. Reluctantly just so they would shutup I would say ok. Sometimes i would say ok because I didn't know any better. I would also mention some other fields, but they would get mad at me saying they didn't immigrate all the way from Korea for me to become something else
I want to be a teacher. An english teacher. But you see im too afraid of telling them this. Along with the next big problem, college. You see my parents are dead set on me going the University Of Washington because it is a good school. But, i dont want to go there (plus i want to escape away from my parents seeing how we only live like 20 mins away from the UW) I would
rather much be going to Western Washington University. It is the top school to become a teacher from on the west coast. They are ranked #2 for their masters programs on the west coast. But you see, I have already discussed this issue with my parents a little. They think it is not a good school.
The kicker, i am getting some scholaships from Western Washington because of academics. So I would't be dependent on my parents in any form. I have told my parents this but they dont seem to care. Plus any college i go to, my parents ARENT going to pay for it. They said i have to pay for it.
They basically said they will disown me if i goto Western Washington University. And to change my last name if i do.
What should I do. I would really like to go to Western because of what I am planning to achieve (teaching) and seeing how they are a better school for that. Also I just want to get away from my parents, but they will never let up. You see being in an asian family like mine is a pain in the *** because of the high stresses on academics. It is like I am trying to make them proud, when in reality I am not satisfied with that they want me to do.
What am i to do? Should I risk it all and just let them disown me. After all isnt it not fair that they are trying to live their dreams through my life? And isn't it not fair that I dont have a say in what i want to do/where i want to go? Once i do become succesful wouldn't it be safe to say they might come around?
You might be saying this is an unbelievable situation. Yeah it kinda is. Thank you very much.