Okay for a girl to propose?

Well before thinking of an exclusive dating paradigm the end game of marriage should be discussed. Have you even had a serious discussion about the direction of the relationship?

Let me pose this question:

How did you come to decision about who gets the honor of sleeping in the wet spot?

My personal opinion, I would never propose to a guy even if we dated for 5yrs. At this point in my life, I like the feeling of being "unattached" or in other words not be binded by legal documents. The older I get and having experienced a painful divorce, I would not allow myself be subjected to that pain again. Just saying. Just be happy and allow the relationship to grow as is unless it's not fun or you've lost interest. Best of luck to you.

had me mildly interested until you asked if you were too slow for him. 2/10

Girl? No

Woman? Yes

You need a stimulus. Get an out of town job offer. If he sees a problem with it, then he wants to be with you. Then you should discuss the specifics of the things that are important to you and be thorough.

Have you ever hear the ball-n-chain thing? It has something to do with the dude not having a choice in any part of his life. You propose to him, he will think about that and you will get your no.

Shoot me his email. I will handle it.

I know of 1 girl that proposed to her boyfriend, even got him a ring. Turned out as soon as she showed him the ring he pulled out the ring that he had already purchased for her.

Moral of the story...be patient

After hearing about this couple, I told my fiance I would have said no if she pulled this type of shit with me

That's actually a farming term. Why would children be talking about rings?

0/10

future mrs short shorts wrote:...am I just not fast enough for him? Is it okay for me to propose?

This comment alone reveals the post as an obvious troll attempt, but I'll bite just for the sake of conversation.

Anyway, speaking as a guy who always treated women well but always got burned, I don't even go on dates unless the woman asks ME out. Granted, I don't get a helluva lot of dates (nor do I care much as a middle-aged man), but when it does occur I can be confident that the woman is genuinely interested in me and it usually turns out well.

Obviously, a proposal is infinitely more significant than a date, but I think most guys would love it if the woman took the lead. It sure relieves a lot of insecurities on the guy's part.

Both of you should first consider what they expect from the relationship and what your common goals are. Then, think about whether marriage can help you into that direction... it's a civil matter (a contract) but it also carries a lot of symbolic weight.

Why do you want to get married?

Seriously. A lot of people mistakenly think that their life doesn't start until they've checked the marriage box. If you don't have good reasons to get married and you're just trying to check the box, you might want to re-think things.

Also, if you aren't comfortable talking to you partner in a straightforward manner about marriage, why on earth would you think you're ready to get married?

I think she means not fast enogh like he likes running more and its a big part of his life because of the running in colege thing. I had a situation where i liked a girl and we wanted to take it further but im more of a hobby jogger and she was a d2 runner and took it serious, it was just too much of a gap in our competetiveness in our personalitys it ended up showing us some other problems we had

Pics ?

andicamp wrote:

Why do you want to get married?

Seriously. A lot of people mistakenly think that their life doesn't start until they've checked the marriage box. If you don't have good reasons to get married and you're just trying to check the box, you might want to re-think things.

Also, if you aren't comfortable talking to you partner in a straightforward manner about marriage, why on earth would you think you're ready to get married?

+1

One night many years ago my gf at the time casually asked "where's my ring?" We got engaged the next day. True story.

The female winner of this year's Hartford Marathon proposed to her boyfriend earlier this year. His first name happens to be her last name, so one could argue that they did this so he could take the name Ryan Ryan. But that's probably not why. He has beautiful long hair. It would be a fun wedding to attend.

pics?

you know just so we can eliminate possible reasons he might be saying no

truckdriver got it right

I was similarly sluggish and my girlfriend sent me a letter (this was in the age of an actual letter with a stamp) with an ultimatum of sorts. It made me take notice and I got my act together.

Its time for you to stop hinting ( although your hints are pretty clear hahaha)

and make your hopes dreams expectations KNOWN !!!

and decide what your going to do w your 3 options

either

He proposes ,

He does nothing ,

or he lets you know he is not .... (ready, interested, etc)