I thought it was just cold feet but it's only getting worse. I don't want to be one of those guys who is on my deathbed full of regret over the one that got away. Any one have any insight? What should I do?
I thought it was just cold feet but it's only getting worse. I don't want to be one of those guys who is on my deathbed full of regret over the one that got away. Any one have any insight? What should I do?
you jerk
why did you propose?
why didn't you propose to your ex?
break up with ur fiance before its too late. u dont want to be stuck in an unhappy marriage b/c ur inlove with someone else. after u guys end it then talk to ur ex.
It would be pretty damn unfair to your fiancee to marry her when you're in love with someone else. She deserves better, and so do you.
seriously do not come to this message board for advice on something like that, go to a friend, your father, someone in your church
you are one or more of the following
a troll
a fool
a coward
you know exactly what you need to do.
I would bust your jaw if you were within a 20 mile radius of my computer. It would be pretty hard to go through with your wedding with a busted-ass jaw, wouldn't it?
You can love more than one woman at the same time.
Bring them both in and use a power point presentation to compare the merits of each.
I recently departed the ranks of batchelorhood myself and I can attest that its not unusual to think the grass is greener elsewhere when you are faced with the start reality that the woman you are engaged to is probably the last gal you are ever going to kiss.
You'll look at previous relationships through rose tinted glasses and gloss over the bad times and only remember the happy moments. Pretty soon you'll have forgotten why you even broke up with all those exes in the first place.
You need to do two things....you need to ask yourself if you are in love with the woman who you are engaged to. If not, break it off immediately.
Second you need to find out for sure if your feelings for your ex are genuine or just a cold footed fantasy. If they are real you have some tough decisions to make.
Bottom line; don't dick around with your fiancee. Either marry her and forget the ex, or cut her loose and let her get on with her life without you.
Suck it up and go through with the marriage and be miserable like the rest of us.
Don't worry about it honey. I hav been cheating on you since before you proposed. I have slept with any creature that had two legs and a pulse. Last night I even slept with your ex.
It doesn't really matter anyway...you'd feel the same about either one of them after about 5 years of marriage and 2 kids...lukewarm, hum-drum, boring day-to-day existence.
If you want something else...don't get married. Marriage is NOT for the adventuresome type..you'll only end up divorced and miserable.
The Truth wrote:
If you want something else...don't get married. Marriage is NOT for the adventuresome type..you'll only end up divorced and miserable.
I disagree. You'll end up divorced and getting more tail than you know what to do with. In about ten years you'll be a lot more attractive to the ladies if you have a couple of cute kids, proving your reproductive fitness, than if you're some middle-aged guy who's never been married and therefore is either gay or totally immature and unwilling to commit. The only downside is that divorce and child-support is expensive as hell.
hahahahahaha
Q: Why is a divorce so expensive ??
A: Because ... IT'S WORTH IT !!!!!!!!!!!
Don't worry man. Once you get married:
The inlaws are so nice to you.
The sex gets better and more adventurous.
The blow jobs never stop.
You never bicker anymore.
She does everything to make you happy.
She stops spending so much money.
You never do anything wrong.
It is great man. Just marry her and have some kids. Kids make any relationship easier to deal with.
I agree with whom ever said that once you are about to get married, you always thing the "grass is greener." That is very true. And you might love your ex, but you probably aren't still IN love with her. I have had that same problem. i thought for a long time that I would get back with my "ex" but then I just stopped thinking about her, stopped comparing her to my present fiance, and just things develop with us, once I did that, my problems disapeared. I speak with my ex frequently, and I just don't have the same feelings as I used to, b/c I let them go away, instead of trying to keep things going, wishing that things would work. I wasted a lot of time focusing on that, and not on the girl that is the most important to me, and turns out, the right one for me. so, the obviuos answer is really with-in yourself. Just really think about it man. Love is a tricky thing, and its hard to know for sure what's right, sometimes you just gotta go with the gut feeling.
Laters man, good luck to ya
by the way, don't listen to these pompus assholes who call you out and say what a bad person you are and say they would punch you in the jaw or something like that.
Never get married
Show me a married man that doesn't have fanatasies about getting back together with his ex and I will show you a liar... it's just cold feet, brother- we all get them. The greatest thing about being married is your wife will take you bank account, your self esteem, your balls, etc.- but she can never take your imagination...And, for the record,I am HAPPILY Married.