SMJO wrote:
If you believed your BS you'd still be a coach because you would be quite comfortable taking those "rumors" to court and proving your points there.
See how that works?
You seem a bit bitter that life has locked you away from society because you are worried that people might make up stories about the best child soccer coach to ever live.
You seem to have missed...well, pretty much everything.
So, hopefully you will have that experience of actually thinking something before you die.
In the meantime, allow me to summarize what you have missed.
1) This thread is all about gossip - people talking out of their asses about something that they have no real information on.
2) This is basically the same thing that happens everywhere that you look, including local communities.
3) People have a difficult time saying that simple phrase, "I don't know". For some reason those words are foreign to much of the human race.
4) So, they talk out their asses.
5) People also have a hard time separating the horribleness of a crime (child molestation, serial murderer...) with the completely separate question of whether or not that crime was actually committed by the accused. For some reason, 'if a crime is horrible enough then he/she must be guilty' seems to be the modus operandi of much of the human race.
6) We see "guilty, guilty, guilty!" right here on this message board all the time with no real knowledge of whether or not it is true.
7) Of course this is not a phenomenon unique to this board. The gossip lynch mob mentality is alive and well in communities everywhere.
8) As a result of this, the notion of "taking those "rumors" to court" is absurdly, embarrassingly naive. Folks are guilty in the court of public opinion based on the same talking out their asses mentality that has been so thoroughly demonstrated in this thread.
9) I have seen more than one coach have his reputation completely ruined in this way. There is no trial, there is no serious investigation. But hey, according to folks like you who needs one. He's guilty, guilty, guilty!
10) I have never been accused of anything except by folks like you on message boards who have zero information - but hey, why let that stop you. Or even slow you down.
11) I am not the least bit bitter about anything. And I am far from being locked away from society. I am an active businessman, father of four, very happily married, active in the community, and helping to teach math for the gifted in a parent participation school that my kids attend. In short, I am loving life. But I am no longer contributing as a coach because of wonderful people like yourself.
12) I never claimed to be the best child soccer coach to ever live. But yes, I was very, very good. I won coach of the year every single year that I coached, had virtually every single parent whose kid was ever on my team ask me how they could get on my team the next year, and was asked every year to run clinics on positive coaching by the local soccer organization. So yes, I am quite confident that I was a very positive influence on a large number of kids.
13) But then there are folks like you, (lots of folks like you), for whom gossip is the holiest of holies, who cannot seem to grasp the concept that they don't know and therefore should not contribute to an atmosphere of 'guilty until proven innocent.'
Now, this time I will try to remember that you are a child and I am coaching you. Have I been gentle enough on you here? Do you need that rephrased to allow it to sink in? How can I help you?