larrybalzari wrote:
Old and slow wrote:
No, it is not overrated. Sex itself may fade in importance, but compatibility is unchanging.
But can a couple abstaining until marriage possibly know if they're compatible?
No, but compatibility itself is dynamic, not unchanging. Even most compatible partners don’t have fabulous sex from day one. Just that some are much better much earlier than others. Once you’ve had sex with a few partners, you start noticing that good satisfying sex comes more naturally with some partners than others, but it almost always gets better with every partner over time (unless there is a physiological medical problem).
If your wife is the first person you are having sex with, you won’t have any baseline calibration for how good things could’ve been, so it may not matter in practice.
I doubt most couples have any reliable way of predicting how many times a week they will be having sex 5-10 years after marriage no matter how sexually compatible they feel before marriage. Sex just starts to matter less with age for everyone, but the dynamicity
sexual compatibility, at least as reflected by its frequency, is pretty mediocre for most couples after a few years of cohabitation.