notbuying it wrote:
Treading into new unfamiliar waters.
My son just turned 5 is starting flag football practice. He is one of the smaller kids. I am realizing that he isn't super tough or resilient, by watching how he deals with losing or not scoring a touchdown. I'm not sure football is his thing.
Seasoned parents:
Do you try to build toughness and resiliency or just enroll your kids in activities that play to their strong suits and interests?
Did you notice that your kids (boys) changed a lot related to these behaviors as they aged, or was it consistent with how they acted in their 3-6 year old formative years?
Thanks in advance.
Enroll him in a wide variety of activities to develop all physical aspects (assuming cost is not an issue). Think agility, balance, coordination, speed, running, jumping (and landing), skating, skiing, swimming, gymnastics (a great thing for kids to learn to control their bodies and learn how to be in the air), throwing, catching, tracking objects, striking objects, etc. Also let him try team and individual sports. Great lessons to learned from both. Some people will gravitate to one over the other.
Remember this is HIS FUN not your fun or your expectations other than giving effort. At this age short seasons are probably a good thing too. Honestly, flag football at 5 seems like that is way too complicated for a kid that young. Let your kid be the guide though. Focus on him learning the skills and getting better rather than if the team is winning or not. Do your best to find coaches more interested in the kids having fun and improving their skills rather than the team's won-loss record. It may sound weird, but early success at most sports does not lead to success in that sport later. Also, few kids get college scholarships and even fewer become pros. If it happens to your kid, great but probably not at the expense of them being messed up the rest of their lives (see Todd Marinovich or even Andre Agassi).
Looking back on my 16 year old son, he showed tendencies to give up on things that did not come "naturally" to him. Another dynamic was not trying things that he thought he would not be good at. It took a little patience (and a big sister nagging him) for him to find his groove. My daughter, now 18, was willing to put herself out there. She went out for the swim team when she got to high school having never really swam. Her stroke was not pretty, but she got better and better and eventually it became her favorite sport.