Serious question...How many "real" dates should two people in their 20's go on before having the relationship talk?

I have a sample size of one....but in all my friends, and my own experience (I'm in my late 20's and have been with my partner since college), is that dating becomes relationship organically if it is going to. I mean I guess it used to be when it was "facebook" official. But I don't know that people pay that much attention to that anymore, in particular 22 year old, perhaps she isn't even on facebook? (I'm not, but most people in their late 20's are).

but perhaps asking a bunch of dudes on a running forum isn't the best place... maybe someone on reddit has your answer...

The fact that you put "real" in quotes, and have set a time line before means that you are not there now, and probably not in the near future.

I would tell her that you are looking for relationship advise on LRC, and to run away as fast as she can.

Let me guess: she saw you at the grocery store wearing half tights, sans underwear ;) with a your daily 30-40 bananas in your shopping cart. She sees your red blooded american schlong, you lock eyes and say "i'm glad jamin won the hokas"

Happily ever after.

Not sure if Hitch is the one to listen to wrote:

Okay I'm done. Next person to mention insistigate gets to feel my wrath.

Doesn't matter when you instigate your little girly talk. She is going to fck other dudes because you are a chuck.

1) You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

2) However, you can hit that person in the head with a lead pipe.

Before we here at the Letsrun dating app can make any judgements on your question, we need one thing.

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Not sure if Hitch is the one to listen to wrote:

Do you struggle with your vocabulary? I literally typed instigate.

Are you not familiar with what it means? You are the one to create this random gibberish. Go back and read my post again, and you will see the word you have apparently never heard of before, "instigate".

Glad I could enhance your vocabulary.

I'm pretty sure he meant inseminate, bro.

take notes wrote:

Listen up. All of you! "The talk" is the domain of the female. She'll hint or bring it up when and if she's ready. Men should be busy out doing man things, NOT worrying about female things like this. You'll come across as the feminine one if you bring up this topic.

A real man is direct about what he wants. He doesn't passively avoid talking about something because he wants to SEEM like he doesn't care, even though he does. If you're into a girl and have reason to believe she's into you, just sack up and tell her you want to make it real.

Also, if you are worried about coming across as feminine, I'd strongly suggest that you not refer to yourself as "the prize."

third time's a charm!

How was the instigation?

BrynRunning wrote:

How was the instigation?

Now you are just being an insistigator.

Define "real date". From LRC standards, I'm assuming you mean a few happenstance meet ups at the local Carvel and a long-standing streak on Snapchat?

Guys,

Want to be happy forever? Be selective. Choose. Don't settle. Like someone who cooks, and cleans? Marry someone that cooks and cleans. Want a liberal feminist? Marry one. (Good luck)

Bottom line; Men own everything. Men have the big boss jobs.

Make sure you know that and that she knows that, before starting. you will be happy forever!!!

Trust me.

3345 wrote:

Bottom line; Men own everything. Men have the big boss jobs.

Make sure you know that and that she knows that, before starting. you will be happy forever!!!

Trust me.

Sound advice from LRC'er who knows what women really like. A carvelanche with extra topping at the local carvel store. He be the MAN!

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OP, your mistake (which I've made, too) is to ask a serious question on LRC.

LRC is not a place, 'where your dreams become reality.' It's more like a place, 'where your dreams go to die.'

3345 wrote:

Guys,

Want to be happy forever? Be selective. Choose. Don't settle. Like someone who cooks, and cleans? Marry someone that cooks and cleans. Want a liberal feminist? Marry one. (Good luck)

Bottom line; Men own everything. Men have the big boss jobs.

Make sure you know that and that she knows that, before starting. you will be happy forever!!!

Trust me.

This person has it correct.

Reminds me of the Office episode where they make Jim & MIchael Co-managers....and then Oscar makes the sarcastic comments about every great organization has two leaders....like 2 presidents.

In other words, there can't be two people "wearing the pants" in a relationship. Someone has to take responsibility ultimately. So unless you are a very passive male, don't give up your responsibilities - choose your partner carefully.

You don’t have the talk late 20’s bro, it just happens. You go out all the time, she stays over and you do what you do. It’s implied exclusivity.

But she sounds insecure or likely she has a few dudes on the side, so you may want to have the talk.

Insistigate sounds like it could be a political scandal of some type.

Not sure if Hitch is the one to listen to wrote:

Okay I'm done. Next person to mention insistigate gets to feel my wrath.