Getting enough guts to approach my crush...(D1)

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Come on kid- how bout an update? You better talk to her tomorrow!

Starting to think he approached her, immediately assumed it went poorly without so much as a response by her and then committed seppuku on the spot. I can't say for a fact this didn't happen.

I'm still here..just have been busy with running and everything. I haven't done it yet, and I have been seeing her around less and less for whatever reason. Not going to lie lost a lot of confidence / "desire" (still want to do it and wish I just did it already) over the past several days / week. Really at a tough point and not sure what to do now.

I do appreciate all the advice nonetheless, but I really just think she's out of my league and nervous to do it despite thinking I am good looking / good personality (definitely not weird). But obviously I am not everyone's type, and the fear of "rejection" or embarrassment really gets to me in this.

MWRunner wrote:

I do appreciate all the advice nonetheless, but I really just think she's out of my league and nervous to do it despite thinking I am good looking / good personality (definitely not weird). But obviously I am not everyone's type, and the fear of "rejection" or embarrassment really gets to me in this.

I've been trolling these forums for 10+ years and this is a serious contender for the absolute saddest excuse for a thread, ever. You are a poor excuse for someone who identifies as "male." Sub-beta. Enjoy your life of low paying menial jobs, getting conned at regular intervals, and if you're lucky maybe boning the occasional fat chick. All because you lack the courage to act on your own behalf. This is sad.

MWRunner wrote:

I do appreciate all the advice nonetheless, but I really just think she's out of my league and nervous to do it despite thinking I am good looking / good personality (definitely not weird). But obviously I am not everyone's type, and the fear of "rejection" or embarrassment really gets to me in this.

Just go up and say, "hey I'm doing x on Friday night, do you want to join?". If she says no, so what. If she says yes, good luck.

Just get a little buzzed before going up to her. That will help you think less. Or get a lot buzzed. Just don't puke on her you clown lol

MWRunner wrote:

I do appreciate all the advice nonetheless, but I really just think she's out of my league and nervous to do it despite thinking I am good looking / good personality (definitely not weird). But obviously I am not everyone's type, and the fear of "rejection" or embarrassment really gets to me in this.

Bro, just tell me what school you go to so I can hook up with this girl. You're obviously not ready for a relationship at this point in your life so let someone who is have this girl.

Draco wrote:

Bro, just tell me what school you go to so I can hook up with this girl. You're obviously not ready for a relationship at this point in your life so let someone who is have this girl.

Draco: Hi.

Girl: Um, hi.

D: I heard about you on LetsRun

G: ...

D: Want to come back to my place?

G: Sure. Why not? My only other choice is some loser who keeps following me around campus looking at me out of the corner of his eyes. I even smiled at him yesterday, just to be nice, and he looked away. What a creep. What did you say your name was?

D: I didn't.

G: Oh. Cool. Let's go!

MWRunner wrote:

I'm still here..just have been busy with running and everything. I haven't done it yet, and I have been seeing her around less and less for whatever reason. Not going to lie lost a lot of confidence / "desire" (still want to do it and wish I just did it already) over the past several days / week. Really at a tough point and not sure what to do now.

She probably gave up waiting for you to ask her out, so she changed going out of her way to pass you or be in the same place as you. The fact that you are seeing her less is a sure sign that she was interested. At this point you may get one more chance, if you do, you better go for it.

BIG UPDATE:

Like I said school is almost over but with regionals and NCAA's for track, I am forced to stay here. I haven't seen her really anymore (about a week), and not sure what's up with her. I think she actually might have headed home for the summer to be completely honest. At a cross roads because I actually wanted to talk to her...not sure what to do now and sort of felt like I missed my chance

MWRunner wrote:

BIG UPDATE:

Like I said school is almost over but with regionals and NCAA's for track, I am forced to stay here. I haven't seen her really anymore (about a week), and not sure what's up with her. I think she actually might have headed home for the summer to be completely honest. At a cross roads because I actually wanted to talk to her...not sure what to do now and sort of felt like I missed my chance

There are many fish in the sea, don't become like Charlie is in it's always sunny in Philadelphia and become obsessed over the 'waitress'. Go find other women, go out on a few dates while she is away. If it is meant to be, you'll see her after the summer break and ask her out.

man...that's months...

Hopefully you never get gender tested in your racing career because the results certainly aren't coming back XY.

MWRunner wrote:

man...that's months...

I'm sorry kid... I can relate to what you're saying. When I was in college there was this cute girl on the tennis team that I always wanted to talk to and go out with. I used to see her around everywhere just by coincidence but I was too nervous to ever say anything to her. Eventually I never saw her again and she ended up marrying some doofus with a cheesy smile and a dad bod. Looking back she probably would have gone out with me if I just had the gahonies to talk to her.

Sometimes you only get one chance...

I could try and DM her or something...but don't want to be a complete weirdo about it. Should technically not even know her name....

Either DM her now or wait 4 months until you see her again. However, when school starts again you'll probably end up chickening out once again. It's up to you.

MWRunner wrote:

I could try and DM her or something...but don't want to be a complete weirdo about it. Should technically not even know her name....

Just cut your losses now and go find someone else.

I want to make sure she has actually left...but yeah. I just think its awkward that we saw each other around a lot; she finally goes home for the summer, and then I DM her "out of the blue." Kind of makes me look weird...