Getting enough guts to approach my crush...(D1)

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as much as i hate to say it, adding her on social media first is a way that I know lots of other people have had success in before.

if not, try to bump into her at some social event like a party

Haha like the username. I've had friends suggest just following her on Instagram..but I don't want to make it seem like I've been stalking her. We've never met and normally with people I don't meet, I don't follow them first on Instagram. I "shouldn't" know her name if we never met / don't have any mutual friends...

It's getting into the heart of the track season so I haven't went to any parties.

That is why I am stuck..I really don't have many options besides just approaching her out of the blue, and trying to not bother her..

What's your 5k time and what's her batting average or ERA?

Listen to this before asking her out:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=1fKlgxSKNdU

Have to make a move. I never did. Blown opportunities where I could/should have. Easier to get rejected then to keep wondering.

Need advice instead of you creeping. Not her btw :)...

It sucks to keep wondering but it feels really uncomfortable to go up to someone without knowing at all if they are even slightly interested....

How is she new in school when the semester is almost over? Anyway, there is almost no chance she's interested.

this just in wrote:

Anyway, there is almost no chance she's interested.

You might just be trying to be mean, but this is absolutely true. We can generously assume:

* 50% chance she already has a boyfriend

* 50% chance she has incompatible life goals regarding career and family

* 50% chance she has differing religious views (unless you're at a religious college)

* 50% chance she just doesn't find you attractive

That's 0.5^4 = 6% chance she's interested, assuming you do everything right in your control (have a confident personality etc).

That's why it makes no sense to get fixated on one woman. You MUST play the numbers game.

what is the relevance of you attending (or competing) for a (D1) school?

First thing, if you read Rollo Tomassi's book The Rational Male, you'd already know what to do.

As it stands, the things you posted lead me to believe you are too blue pill indoctrinated for your own good. Get deprogrammed first. Rollo's book should be required for every man.

Dude, just go talk to her. Otherwise you'll be watching others through the curtains.

Get one or two of your buddies and go to one of her softball games.

Remember something good that she does in the game.

Next time you pass her on campus say "good game" I saw you do x

Then: I'm Joe. I am on the track team.

If she seems interested keep talking.

Name your first born Johnny after me.

Your welcome.

This isn't bad advice...but I reallllllly don't want to mess this up. I was hoping we could just bump into each other with mutual friends, etc. but it doesn't look like that will ever happen.

I just wanted the readers to better understand my situation, and also realize if I am at a big D1 school, being on the softball team is a big deal to everyone..versus track no one really cares about regardless...

She got in this semester. She transferred from her previous school.

MWRunner wrote:

This isn't bad advice...but I reallllllly don't want to mess this up. I was hoping we could just bump into each other with mutual friends, etc. but it doesn't look like that will ever happen.

Mess what up? You have no relationship to mess up. And like I showed above, there's a 94% chance it's a non-starter.

Some sincere advice from someone who's had similar chances and blown them due to youthful inexperience and anxiety:

There's nothing between you and her except air and opportunity, and you won't know if she's interested unless you approach her. Next time you see her, walk confidently up to her, smile, look her in the eye, introduce yourself, ("Hi, I'm so-and-so from the track team") and ask her out to coffee or lunch or whatever after the following day's practice. You're both athletes at the same school, so you've already got at least that much in common.

If she's interested in you at all, she will respond positively. Attraction, or lack thereof, is a visceral thing that people decide on in seconds. Forget all this social media or hoping to meet her with mutual friends nonsense. Man up! It will take a lot of guts to do this and you'll probably be terrified, but even if you get rebuffed you'll know you tried, and you won't waste time wondering about might-have-beens.

And if you do get rebuffed, politely excuse yourself with a smile and move on. If you run into her again, just be as civil as necessary; no need to hide or avoid her.

The longer you keep orbiting her without acting, the worse your chances will get.

Best of luck to you.