I keep being warned about post-nuptial shut off, but it doesn't make any logical sense to me?

Re-read this.

Great post.

Shoebacca wrote:

Two years?! LOL. You've barely been together.

Two years is actually the right amount of time. Before that is too soon and longer is bad. If you don’t know if you want to marry her within two years it’s time to move on. People who date for years and years and then get married usually end up divorced.

Inconsistent wrote:

If you have energy to have sex more than once a day, you are either unemployed or aren't training enough. This is LRC, not Runner's World, right? I guess OP works 4 hours a day down at his local Starbucks and then hobby jogs his difficult 15mpw training.

Something between what JoeDirt posted and this. Also, let's not be sexist. Often it is the man who loses interest or both partners. The shutoff is only a problem when the loss of interest is one sided.

"logical sense" hahahahaha

sternburg wrote:

"logical sense" hahahahaha

What?

In the main, the answer here is kids. Raising kids is extremely tiring and time consuming. Even today, most of that work ends up falling to women. This is probably especially true in the marriages of the type of man who complains about the "post-nuptial shut-off" (i.e. the type of man who doesn't have particularly enlightened views on gender roles in a marriage).

When you are raising young children, every day is just exhausting. If you are doing the childcare, at the end of the day your going likely be as physically exhausted as if you'd just finished a 20 miler. How into sex do you typically feel right after such a run? That is how your wife is likely going to be feeling come bedtime - especially if you are not pulling your weight with the kids and housekeeping.

Sure kids eventually grow up, but if you have a couple then your likely going to be heads down in intense parenting for 5 or 6 years. By the time all your kids are sleeping through the night, not puking or crapping themselves several times a day, and beginning to have enough reasoning ability to not try to kill themselves ten times a day, you and your wife are going to probably be knocking on 40. Needless to say, neither of your libidos are going to be what they once were by then.

I'm sure you've heard that marriage is work a million times, but it really is true. One big part of that work for both partners is doing what it takes to ensure that physical intimacy doesn't fall by the wayside. Good luck.

Inconsistent wrote:

If you have energy to have sex more than once a day, you are either unemployed or aren't training enough. This is LRC, not Runner's World, right? I guess OP works 4 hours a day down at his local Starbucks and then hobby jogs his difficult 15mpw training.

+10

pretzel man wrote:

Inconsistent wrote:

If you have energy to have sex more than once a day, you are either unemployed or aren't training enough. This is LRC, not Runner's World, right? I guess OP works 4 hours a day down at his local Starbucks and then hobby jogs his difficult 15mpw training.

+10

I'm a lawyer, I run between 60-80mpw, we have three kids (albeit in their teens now), and my wife and I still often will have sex twice in one day.

You people have some serious time management issues. Get your priorities right. The only thing I don't do is watch TV and haven't watched a TV show or sporting event on TV in years.

With regard to the OP - if you marry the right woman, truly love each other, have similar sex drives and are open and honest with each other (talk to each other a lot every day), you shouldn't need to worry. There will be low periods, but averaging over the year and years, you'll have plenty of sex. Marry right, don't listen to people with shit lives and who are too stupid to prioritize their time.

If marriage problems, then you have to go to "hell" before things get better, meaning argue things out, meaning each has to recognize need of each other.

Means 30 day sex challenge

Means after 2 weeks you are exhausted but keep going.

Means 30 day sex challenge turns into sex everyday for as long as you want.

No lie

Enjoy a daily climax

She will too

Get Married

Trump Wins

John 3:16

Romans 10:9

this guy gets it

"logical sense" is the flaw in your logic...

sad lives wrote:

pretzel man wrote:

+10

I'm a lawyer, I run between 60-80mpw, we have three kids (albeit in their teens now), and my wife and I still often will have sex twice in one day.

You people have some serious time management issues. Get your priorities right. The only thing I don't do is watch TV and haven't watched a TV show or sporting event on TV in years.

With regard to the OP - if you marry the right woman, truly love each other, have similar sex drives and are open and honest with each other (talk to each other a lot every day), you shouldn't need to worry. There will be low periods, but averaging over the year and years, you'll have plenty of sex. Marry right, don't listen to people with shit lives and who are too stupid to prioritize their time.

Wait a minute. If you have 3 kids, when the heck are you having sex the second time (in addition to at night)? Do you wake up in the morning and do it before you get ready for work and the kids wake up? Does it take you like 30 seconds? Do you work from home?

I just threaten her with public embarrassment or hit her on the mouth. That usually gets her to go down on me at least.

I am not the lawyer poster, but there are a LOT of other options that allow sex twice per day. I am 50 and sometimes I have it on Saturday afternoon and then again in the evening. Sometimes twice in the evening, that happens a LOT if the kids are at their friends house or at a game, or just generally GONE. Sometimes I have it Sunday morning and then again Sunday night. Before kids, if I was not running in the morning we would have it twice on Saturday morning and twice that night after "date night" (dinner out and a movie at the theater). I will say that this was probably not her ideal, but she was coming 7 or 8 times per intercourse, so I felt it was fair for me to come twice.

This is go for 15 minutes vigorously and collapse, sweaty on top of each other sex. Then after 5 minutes, she can tell, and she says "Do you want to do it again?" Just like we are 19.

I do realize that this is not regular or everyone's experience. My friends when I was 40 said that once per week was "normal" and they had to make sure they took advantage on Saturday as every weeknight was a no-go. When I turned 50, they said once-a-month was more like it. These are smart, fit, organized people with wives who are the same, so I am not going to point fingers at women or men. I just wanted to refute the guy that said you could not possibly be having sex twice in one day unless the conditions he listed were in play.

For the unfortunate people who are not having sex but once per week or worse, they will find reasons that sex twice a day is impossible.

Probably many individual reasons why this happens, but it is a fact that it does. Those of you here and on the PNSO thread bragging about being married 25 years and still doing it 4 times/wk are so far outside the normal distribution you're irrelevant.

Kids are a big part of this. It's a distraction and an energy sink. The women just want to be left alone to wind down a little bit before they go to sleep and start it all over again in a few hours. So then the question is, well I have my needs, why can't she just lie there. Answer--cause this is not your fathers oldsmobile as they say, they aren't a semen depository and find it degrading to be seen as one. If they aren't into it its a no go

I have a Theory=my wife likes sex

I have a Belief=my wife doesn't like to have it with me

I will soon have a Fact=I set up a secret camera to see if she is banging the Pool Boy

sad lives wrote:

pretzel man wrote:

+10

I'm a lawyer, I run between 60-80mpw, we have three kids (albeit in their teens now), and my wife and I still often will have sex twice in one day.

You people have some serious time management issues. Get your priorities right. The only thing I don't do is watch TV and haven't watched a TV show or sporting event on TV in years.

With regard to the OP - if you marry the right woman, truly love each other, have similar sex drives and are open and honest with each other (talk to each other a lot every day), you shouldn't need to worry. There will be low periods, but averaging over the year and years, you'll have plenty of sex. Marry right, don't listen to people with shit lives and who are too stupid to prioritize their time.

But you have time to lurk on inane message boards giving useless advice as a pretense to humble brag about the fantasy life you wish you had. Any decent lawyer I know is either a sociopath or hates their job to the point where they curl up in a fetal position on the floor and cry every night. And yet somehow you claim to work lawyer hours, run 80 mpw, and raise 3 kids all while having sex twice daily. Unless you've figured out a way to function without sleep, the hours simply don't add up.

Hey, lighten up! He didn't even mention his 14:08 5K PR, his six-figure income or the fact that his wife was a Victoria Secret model, and still 9/10.

derp wrote:

sad lives wrote:

I'm a lawyer, I run between 60-80mpw, we have three kids (albeit in their teens now), and my wife and I still often will have sex twice in one day.

But you have time to lurk on inane message boards giving useless advice as a pretense to humble brag about the fantasy life you wish you had. Any decent lawyer I know is either a sociopath or hates their job to the point where they curl up in a fetal position on the floor and cry every night. And yet somehow you claim to work lawyer hours, run 80 mpw, and raise 3 kids all while having sex twice daily. Unless you've figured out a way to function without sleep, the hours simply don't add up.

You have a very strange and biased view of lawyers. You also can’t read, or perhaps just have comprehension issues. The guy never said he had sex twice a day or even every day, he said they often will have sex twice a day. To me that sounds like weekends, and with teen kids, hardly a big deal.

8-10 hours of running a week, no TV and he bangs his wife twice a day on weekends... not exactly a huge deal. I run commute to my job so I get in a lot of mileage, work around 50 hours a week and I have the time to bang my wife twice a day every day if she’d let me. But, I can’t remember the last time we had sex twice in one day. Might have been in 2012 on vacation in Paris.