Why Is It OK For Older Men To Date Younger Women But Not Vise Versa?

Older women do date younger men, maybe less frequently or less known, but they do. My first serious girlfriend was like four years older than me when I was in college.

Men age a lot better than women. Men age like wine, women like milk. Also men's finances appreciate while women's looks depreciate.

Trump can move on a 40 year old like a bitch at 65, good luck with Hillary trying to pull that one lol

When I was 22 I started to see a 57 year old woman. She worked as a receptionist in my doctor's office. We dated for seven years. My parents were cool with it but her children and parents disapproved. Just before she turned 65 I realized that I actually wanted children. She wanted to adopt, but I just wasn't into it. 10 years later, I'm happily married with 2 kids but still see my ex from time to time.

Who says there's anything wrong with women dating younger men?

Older men dating younger women is more common, but that doesn't mean it's necessarily more acceptable. If there's too big an age difference it often just makes the guy look creepy and borderline predatory.

I've been on both sides. In 1965 I was 21. I ended up living with a 56 year old woman for a summer. Since 2005, I've dated 3 women under the age of 24. The woman I lived with in 1965 died in 2006 at the age of 96 years young. One of the most uncomfortable moments of my life was when my ex (who was about 95 at the time) ran into my 22 year old girlfriend and me on our way to her school. Each obviously realized that I had dated the other and, oddly, both seemed a bit jealous. A couple hours later, the 22 year old and I had a laugh about it. Sadly, the other woman passed away in a seniors' home later that year.

I'm an older female. I can't imagine dating someone in their twenties or early thirties, too young for me. On the opposite side I can't imagine dating someone who is 10+yrs older, I don't care how if they are super rich or not, it's not in the cards for me. Few yrs younger or older is fine as long as they take care of themselves and I'm attracted to them.

It's a double standard just like when a woman goes out and sleeps with tons of guys, she is called a slut while if a man does the same, he is called a homosexual!

Women prefer men with money (ergo older) and men prefer women with childbearing potential (ergo younger)

But seriously, women, you can't just win all the time. I mean from about 16 to 35 (and maybe 40, I'd you have taken care of yourself properly), you have the upper hand in the dating market. We, on the other hand, get that opportunity later in life. On an individual level, life is not fair, but know a large scale, it is. And nature is nature, I have met so many women who have fantasies of older men (of course a well groomed one in a good shape , not the nursing home grandpa ) but yet to meet one guy who fantasises about 60 year old women in a good shape, mostly because such women are as rare as diamonds. I am 41, I am fitter and look much better than when I was 20 (except for my thinning hair, which I always cut short). I went to a 40+ singles night last year, oh God, please kill me, I have never seen so much desperation mixed up with disillusionment in my life. Nothing sadder than a woman who was hot in her teens and 20s and was a bitch to all the good guys who wanted her, felt indestructible and partied like hell and now in her late 30s or 40s can't stop bad mouthing guys her age because they go after younger woman. The ship has sailed, my friend, time to settle with another 40 something loser, probably the guy who used to bully us unless high school and now maintains our lawns or fixes our toilets.

Double standards wrote:

But seriously, women, you can't just win all the time. I mean from about 16 to 35 (and maybe 40, I'd you have taken care of yourself properly),

Not even that long. 80% of women have let themselves go by age ~30. By 35, most are no longer even remotely close to as physically desirable as they were at 25.

Men, on the other hand, are still bumbling immature idiots at age 25, but by 35 are much more physically and financially desirable.

There is some graph I saw a while back, called the sexual market graph or something like that; It proposes that the peak time of attractiveness for females is 22, while for males it is 32. I think that is about right, although I'd say it's probably closer to 24/35 or so.

Hdjdkssk wrote:

Men age a lot better than women. Men age like wine, women like milk. Also men's finances appreciate while women's looks depreciate.

Trump can move on a 40 year old like a bitch at 65, good luck with Hillary trying to pull that one lol

LOL. Thank you for the wording. True though.

Old men can still reproduce. Old women cannot. That's why we've evolved to not be attracted to them. Blowing your load in them is a waste of sperm. The caveman stud who thought 50yo women were hot was outcompeted by the 90yo dude boning teenagers.

Ryan3:51 wrote:

I've been on both sides. In 1965 I was 21. I ended up living with a 56 year old woman for a summer. Since 2005, I've dated 3 women under the age of 24. The woman I lived with in 1965 died in 2006 at the age of 96 years young. One of the most uncomfortable moments of my life was when my ex (who was about 95 at the time) ran into my 22 year old girlfriend and me on our way to her school. Each obviously realized that I had dated the other and, oddly, both seemed a bit jealous. A couple hours later, the 22 year old and I had a laugh about it. Sadly, the other woman passed away in a seniors' home later that year.

Dude, that's awesome! Sorry the woman died, but sounds like she had lived a full life.

Double standards wrote:

It's a double standard just like when a woman goes out and sleeps with tons of guys, she is called a slut while if a man does the same, he is called a homosexual!

haha!

It's not not OK, but women don't like younger men for the most part.

Tom Brady dated and had a son with Bridget Moynahan who is 6 years older.

To double standards: I think it depends on where you live. I've seen plenty older men who don't take of care of themselves and only reason they have someone younger it's b/c they are rich. I don't care if you're a millionaire/billionaire and you have a gut or your breathe smells bad I won't be looking your way. Btw, most men don't always grow more handsome as they get older and just the same w/women. But I've seen a few women who don't look their age either (some look 10yrs younger). Just saying.

Double standards wrote:

It's a double standard just like when a woman goes out and sleeps with tons of guys, she is called a slut while if a man does the same, he is called a homosexual!

I am going to steal this line. Thank you.

Men do not value a woman's social standing or professional accomplishments. Just not a turn on for us.

Again to use Hillary Clinton, she was a senator, Sec. of State, and within a hair of winning th POTUS, One of the most accomplished women in the USA, and she is very very wealthy. But if given a chance to bone her or a hot Hooters girl, 99 out of 100 guys are going for the Hooters waitress.

Since this thread has kinda drifted from its original focus, I'll say this about age: I'm 42 and looking at people I went to high school with, the ones I see on Facebook, most of the girls still look pretty good. A couple look better than they did back then—one was kinda the nerdy type but she looks really great now. The fatties are still fatties. The dudes are yes, more likely to have shown the wear of age and gained weight but only if they allowed such: several run, one does triathlons, a couple play tennis and are involved in other sports. As for me, I was mistaken for a high school athlete at New Balance Nationals last year. I don't say that to brag, but because it dumbfounded me: how does that even happen? Then I realized it was because I'm trim, and not many of the coaches (a few, however) or parents at Nationals were that thin and in shape. Kids I coach however have decided I'm ancient as soon as I said I was in middle school when Reagan was president—ancient history for them.