Wondererer wrote:
That's not what I'm interested in. My partner is a wonderful person and I have no intention of getting a divorce. I was simply wondering if it is possible to have one night of pure sex without any emotions that won't affect the marriage. Heck, it might be invigorating and put the fire back in the relationship. I know the concept is difficult for many people since we are forced to believe that monogamous relationships without a thought of infidelity is the *right* thing to do and yet, biologically it isn't really possible.
I was curious as to anyone who had a successful tryst outside of a marriage which the partner never found out and it didn't affect that relationship at all. It doesn't have to be a reoccurring thing.
So you plan to break your marriage vows and deceive your spouse who you claim is a wonderful person. Do her a favor and tell her about it upfront. Maybe she will agree to an open marriage where she can also get some variety. Or maybe she will want a divorce in which case you should let her go so she can get with someone who won't treat her like shit.