What is it like dating Ivy League Women???

Women are women, generally they are all about the same when you get down to it.

Why is she in your past, then? Sounds like a keeper.

Strawberry Blonde wrote:

Strawberry blonde I knew from the Ivy League was the sweetest and sexiest woman I ever knew, and the smartest I ever dated. She was from a genuinely lower middle class background and basically ran a household by the time she was 15; everyone else was too broken. She was a real Profile in Courage. Nothing elitist or privileged about her.

Great story but she is an exception to the rule.

A few years ago I embarked on a self-proposed challenge of hooking up with one girl from every Ivy institution. I attended a good liberal arts school so I mingled with this caste of girls on a regular basis.

Successful:

-Penn

-Yale

-Princeton

-Brown

Unsuccessful:

-Harvard

-Dartmouth

-Cornell

I only actually dated the girl from Penn. She transferred there from Vermont for what it's worth. Nice girl but it did not end well.

Strawberry Blonde wrote:

Strawberry blonde I knew from the Ivy League was the sweetest and sexiest woman I ever knew, and the smartest I ever dated. She was from a genuinely lower middle class background and basically ran a household by the time she was 15; everyone else was too broken. She was a real Profile in Courage. Nothing elitist or privileged about her.

Give it a few years and she will end up bat shit crazy like the rest of her family. Looks like you dodged a bullet.

I think we know the same person. Initials JE?

Factual answer wrote:

Women are women, generally they are all about the same when you get down to it.

Not really, there are all sorts of different women out there. But what they are looking for in a man usually seems to be in the same ballpark of superficial qualities, which is somewhat demoralizing when you actually want to be appreciated and accepted for the person that you are.

hart crane wrote:

A few years ago I embarked on a self-proposed challenge of hooking up with one girl from every Ivy institution. I attended a good liberal arts school so I mingled with this caste of girls on a regular basis.

Successful:

-Penn

-Yale

-Princeton

-Brown

Unsuccessful:

-Harvard

-Dartmouth

-Cornell

I only actually dated the girl from Penn. She transferred there from Vermont for what it's worth. Nice girl but it did not end well.

You forgot Columbia, bro. I can see why you were unsuccessful.

Check out Good Will Hunting, a movie focused on the travail of dating an Ivy Leaguer. Appropriate here because Will is basically your typical LRCer.

In the PNW no one seems to care that you went to an Ivy school, so the Ivy Leaguers are different, and dating them is a lot better. They just say "I went to college on the East Coast." The ones I knew in the Midwest fit the Ivy stereotype to the extreme.

I did forget Columbia. Mark that in the second column :(

Make sure you wrap it.

Dated two different Harvard women (one UG, one law). Both were better to talk with than your run-of-the-mill State U grad. But both conveyed a sense of intellectual superiority that grew old. One was smarter than me. One wasn't.

My advice: Date dumb women.

Ex was Ivy league, her competitive know-it-all personality got on my nerves. I guess we were too much alike. I mostly try to date young nurses nowadays, they are surprisingly nice and less likely to challenge you intellectually.

wizardstaff wrote:

Dated two different Harvard women (one UG, one law). Both were better to talk with than your run-of-the-mill State U grad. But both conveyed a sense of intellectual superiority that grew old. One was smarter than me. One wasn't.

My advice: Date dumb women.

pop_pop! wrote:

Uuhh, yeah. That private school non-dischargable debt that is an anchor in the lives of young people unlikely to get a job sufficient to pay it down in 10 years.

I also like the personal attack you threw in there at the end. Classy. Reminds me of status sensitive ivy leaguers. Good job.

I don't think you're following my point on the financial aid. I was responding to the statement that most ivy leaguers couldn't tell you where the student loan office is. That's just not true. The breakdown of their loan/aid packages varies greatly by school, and is beside the point. Ivy League women are far from universally wealthy.

And I don't think it's fair to call last statement a personal attack. I have no idea how smart or educated anyone on this thread is, and I never claimed to. I just offered two possible explanations for why someone might accuse Ivy League women of being condescending. Yes, my hypotheticals had negative implications. But when someone is making insulting blanket generalizations and you don't know anything about their identity or relevant personal experiences, then offering a possible counter-explanation is about all one can do other than saying, "my broad experience leads me to a different conclusion."

It goes without saying that I'm self interested when I say Ivy League women aren't generally stuck up. I'm just offering a reason why a neutral listener might not want to reflexively trust the other guy either.

(As a point of clarification, the discussion of Ivy League condescension has no connection to the person I initially quoted. It was a response to an earlier statement in the thread.)

wizardstaff wrote:

Dated two different Harvard women (one UG, one law). Both were better to talk with than your run-of-the-mill State U grad. But both conveyed a sense of intellectual superiority that grew old. One was smarter than me. One wasn't.

My advice: Date dumb women.

When they have an almost infinite array of life options, it makes relationships very, very difficult. But, good times while it lasts.

That strawberry blonde upthread is what can be described as parentified. She will have huge gaps in her emotional development because there was no parent object for her growing up. At some point the parentified person will reveal a completely different, probably volatile, personality.

A lot of people I know (myself and sibling included) have gone to Ivy League schools, and I don't run in any high-end circles but most people I interact with socially/professionally have a good education and good jobs. In terms of personality/intelligence, I wouldn't say there's any real difference in terms of Ivy-type grads and other girls when you're looking at the pool of "professionals" working in a major city.

OTOH, it is more likely that, hypothetically (this is letsrun after all), if I were to hook up with a girl I met in a bar, I would brew her a cup of coffee the next morning rather than make some lame excuse about how I had to be somewhere at 9am if she went to an Ivy than if she went to a directional school. Not because of her degree, but just because I'd probably find her more interesting.

krispy kremlin wrote:

ignorant dribble.

Oh, the unintentional hilarity of one suffering delusions of adequacy.

Big butts, big juggs and hairy bushes.

Chewbacca wrote:

krispy kremlin wrote:

ignorant dribble.

Oh, the unintentional hilarity of one suffering delusions of adequacy.

I intentionally wrote that as a trap to see if you would be out for an evening's 'troll.

krispy kremlin wrote:

Chewbacca wrote:

Oh, the unintentional hilarity of one suffering delusions of adequacy.

I intentionally wrote that as a trap to see if you would be out for an evening's 'troll.

You've got yourself a personal troll, krispy. Take it as a compliment.