How to deal with someone who has an eating disorder?

Talk with her parents or her counselor. If she's kept any kind of relationship with her former coach talk with him/her. A former teammate who doesn't struggle with an eating disorder is another good place to start.

Best wishes to you both.

Find another roommate. She's a grown woman and has to live with the choices that she makes. Its just like being an alcoholic ... can't be helped till they truly want help.

FWIW

It will be a great day when being a fat slob gets the "eating disorder" label.

Hey talk to her and tell here that she, not looking health and every thing. I develop the same thing and i had member tell me that i was looking really skinny, but wasnt listing into my family was telling me to before i got help. Keep talking to her if it doesnt work i would call her parents with her knowing or go to your RA or RD in you drom they may be able to help if not, then tell some else in the college

Toss her out the window; blame it on suicide. That way you get a 4.0 for the semester.

Talk to a counselor about how to approach your roommate. This is a really tricky situation and a counselor can help you intervene.

What made you get help? Did you ever talk to the person who said you were looking too skinny?? Were you angry when they said they felt you had a eating disorder??

tell her she is fat

Playing devil's advocate here ... would you call her parents if she were getting fat? Would you call a counselor? I'm guessing the answer is "no". Why wouldn't you interevene in these situations.

When the number of people dying from so called "eating disorders" is even 50% of the number of people dying from diseases associated with obesity or smoking, I'll start to take it seriously.

Coming from someone who used to suffer from eating disorders....approach your roomate first before going to her parents or a counselor. Tell her your worried about her and so are others...Ask her if she wants you to go with her to get help - There is probably some underlying problem, not just wanting to be skinny

talk to her parents before you talk to her about it and get their opinions on how to approach it. If they wont address it, talk to a conselor on how to approach her about it. Its too important not to bring up.

I would hook up with her. She sounds hot.

From your post I can not tell if she has an eating disorder at all. Akins might be a poor diet but it is not disordered eating nor is skipping a few meals. Is she growing hair on her back or losing all her pubic hair ect?

CO-Runner wrote:

When the number of people dying from so called "eating disorders" is even 50% of the number of people dying from diseases associated with obesity or smoking, I'll start to take it seriously.

Good reasoning! Obesity kills more people than anorexia, ergo, anorexia is nothing to worry about. Why can't people see this? By the same token, waaaaaaaaay more Americans die every year of cancer, influenza and heart disease than of MS, ALS, muscular dystrophy and AIDS combined. Therefore, the latter conditions really aren't anything to be concerned with and we should cease all research on them right now. By the way, how's the view of your distal colon? Most people have to have a lower GI done in order to have a shot at such a view.

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If you are close enough with your roomate, approach her and tell her your concerns. Be careful not to accuse her, but just state your concerns from the viewpoint of a friend who cares for her. Don't expect a positive reaction, eating disorders are surrounded by denial. Offer to go with her to tell someone: a family member, going to a psychologist..

If you aren't close enough to talk directly to her, then I would suggest going to a counseling center (most colleges have them on campus)--and ask them how to go about it. Or go to an adult that knows her.

Good luck!

CO-Runner wrote:

Playing devil's advocate here ... would you call her parents if she were getting fat? Would you call a counselor? I'm guessing the answer is "no". Why wouldn't you interevene in these situations.

When the number of people dying from so called "eating disorders" is even 50% of the number of people dying from diseases associated with obesity or smoking, I'll start to take it seriously.

You are not at an immediate health risk if you get fat. You are not at an immediate health risk if you smoke.

You ARE at an immediate health risk if you stop eating.

Are you my girlfriend's roomate?

Take her to see a counselor. Your college certainly has one. If she can not pull it together, or refuses help, get a change in room assignment.

You are good to notice and care, do something to help, if help is not taken you must focus on your studies (which is why you are there) your athletics (if you do so) and your life. It's dam hard to focus on what you are supposed to be doing while a car wreck plays out at the desk / bed in the same room. Seriously, do what you can, and then save your semester, etc. She may want to die (consciously or subconsciously) but you should not be expected to observe.

She's a roomate, not your mother, father, sister, brother, cousin, or pet. She aint your responcibility any more than the hundreds (probably thousands) of other students on that campus. Would you help one in need of help in an accident, of course, would you then spend months nursing them back to health? Hell no.

Tempt her with Krispy Kremes and Dunkin Donuts and Dominos Pizza.

Always have extra food that emits temptation around so that she will not be able to resist it.

When she is asleep, place a glazed donut right on the pillow under her nose.

Ask her if she has a crush on a certain guy on campus. Get that guy to tell her that she has a problem.