Girls- Would you find a guy who makes you laugh a lot attractive?

nice wall of text brah.

alot of the shit is true, its too bad some people do it naturally while others have to make a complicated science of it. i fall in the later haha so i understand all this perfectly

So is this the real ceasar's palace? yeah, I didn't think so.

manmarathoner wrote:

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Don't listen to this douche bag, he doesn't know what he's talking about.

I didn't 'say' anything - you made your own assumptions. Don't reply it's only a joke & I'm not bothered either way

want to get laid wrote:

There's this one girl I like and every time I'm talking to her I usually make a few jokes (usually of the self deprecating kind)and she laughs at them. Now I'm not exactly a candidate to be worlds sexiest man being the typical skinny nerdy distance runner so..... I'm wondering if a good sense of humor is actually increasing my sexual appeal(for lack of a better term) or does it just turn me into "the funny guy" that she wants as a friend.

I'm in high school btw.

The straight truth is not something you'll like to hear.

Overall, women like (listed in order of importance):

1) Money

2) Power

3) Looks

4) Honesty, niceness, humor...all come after the first three.

We're only talking in terms of percentages here, so of course there are women out there who prefer humor and sweetness to money and power, but most women will go for money and/or power over a nice honest funny guy any day.

This is actually a retreat topic. Every once in a while a "news" program of some sort will run such a story, usually based on either a study or some "woman on the street" type interviewing, and money always comes out on top. If they're trying to be titillating, the size of the guy's member gets in the list somewhere too, but it's usually below money and power.

So, what to do if you have no money and no power? Well, gotta be who you are brother. There ARE women out there who like to laugh and will like you if you're honest and nice, so you just have to go for one of them. Who the hell wants a woman who just wants money anyway? If she wants it, she'll want to spend it. No thanks.

I heard an interesting tidbit on the radio today. It had to do with a woman's use of birth control and the type of man she selects.

A study somewhere (I listen on my drive to work, so my brain is still not fully engaged and I don't remember who did the study) shows that women on the pill tend to have their estrogen levels balanced pretty well and choose mellower, more thoughtful men. With no birth control, a woman will be more sexually aggressive and choose someone a bit wilder.

Just tossing that out there...

They like to hang out with the funny guy, but they'll fvck the caveman type every time.

it's in their genes and he's in their jeans.

Just like guys: you can have some nerdy smart chick that's not super attractive and you put the hottie with the booty and big chest and we're gone away from smart and nerdy.

Satansmouf wrote:

They like to hang out with the funny guy, but they'll fvck the caveman type every time.

it's in their genes and he's in their jeans.

Just like guys: you can have some nerdy smart chick that's not super attractive and you put the hottie with the booty and big chest and we're gone away from smart and nerdy.

Hot women and smart women are not mutually exclusive. There are TONS of super smokin' hot smart women out there.

And of course, according to the show MANSWERS (which is never wrong), smart women are better in bed.

Back in the day when I was a lonely, clueless loser who’d spend his weeknights sitting hunched over the computer viewing internet porn instead of interacting with society, I used to wonder: “How do people meet each other?”

To me, this question was on the same level as “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” and “If a tree falls in the forest with no one around, does it make a sound?” It was basically a question one could never truly know the answer to. Though, every time I would go out in public and see guy after guy with their girlfriends and wives, I would be reminded of this question.

How do people meet each other?

Or more specifically, how do guys meet women? What does everyone else know that I don’t? Why am I alone and they are with somebody? What is the secret?

Once I decided to take control of my life and make a concerted effort to meet women, I discovered the secret. And it’s a secret that’s so simple, so obvious, that I wonder why I didn’t know it before. Some of you out there reading this probably already know the secret, some might be like I was and not be aware of it. But when you hear it, this secret will make perfect sense. So are you ready to hear it? The secret to meeting other people is…

You talk to them.

Was I right? Is it obvious? I know it may seem rather simplistic, but this is probably the single most important notion there is when it comes to getting a girlfriend/wife/booty call, or what have you. If you do not talk to someone, you will never MEET them.

And you can’t have a relationship with someone you never meet.

The simple act of talking to a woman can lead to so many different things:

–You get a glimpse into her personality

–You find out what you two have in common

–You get to see if there’s any chemistry between the two of you

–You give yourself an opening to get her contact information

–You establish a level of trust and comfort that will allow you to ask her out later on

All this from the simple act of moving your mouth and having words come out!

It is because of this concept that I wrote my book, The Art Of Approaching, because there is so much to know about meeting women. You can talk to them, but what if they don’t respond favorably? What if you run out of stuff to talk about? What if you can’t even think of something to talk about at all?

This is where the concept of the “opener” comes in.

I’ve talk about openers in other newsletters before, and I go into extreme detail about them in my book. But having a good opener is too important a concept just to let it go mentioned once or twice.

Without a good opener to use when meeting a woman, you’re really rolling the dice and taking a chance that what you say to her initially will:

1. Get her to talk to you

2. Engage her in conversation

Maybe what you say will get her to respond with a “Yes or no” answer. If that’s the case, where do you go from there?

Maybe what you have to say will get her to explain something to you, but will it really engage her in conversation? Will she continue to talk to you so you can establish that “trust and comfort” foundation you’ll need to get her information?

These are the factors you have to take into account when you go about meeting a woman. Here are some examples of openers you want to avoid:

“Do you know where X is?”

“Do I know you from somewhere?”

“That’s a nice X you’re wearing.”

“Do you come here often?”

The list goes on. But if you look at all those statements above, they don’t really lead anywhere. They’re not engaging, they’re not interesting, and they will not help you get to know the woman you’re talking to any better.

Here’s a good opener for you to “test out” this weekend or whenever you’re going out next. When you see a girl you like and want to meet, walk up to her and ask:

“Hey, I got a quick question. Do you read your horoscope?”

See how this opener differs from the ones above? You’re not asking her an ordinary question she hears a million times a day, and there’s an intriguing element to it. Most women are interested in horoscopes and other new-agey stuff, so even if they DON’T read their horoscope, they may be interested in why you’re asking the question.

If she says YES, it is easy to ask her what her sign is and what her horoscope is telling her. This is great because she will be giving you information about herself that you can use to your advantage in the conversation.

If she says NO, ask her if she’s ever checked her horoscope before and then ask her what her sign is.

No matter what she says, always follow up with “Hmmm. That’s interesting…”

When she asks “Why?” say “Well, I don’t want you to take this the wrong way, but you know what they say about Pisces (or Aries, or Scorpio, or whatever her sign is)?”

By now she’ll be really interested. Follow up by saying “Pisces (Aries, etc.) women are the most sexual women out there.”

Watch her reaction, and then follow up with a story to get the conversation flowing. Here’s one I use:

“I know this because my ex girlfriend was a Pisces (Aries, whatever), and she was the most sexual woman you’ll ever meet. We used to have so much fun together, doing all sorts of wild things, she was totally open to doing anything. I used to think it was just her, but every Pisces woman I’ve dated has always been really fun and sexual. What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done?”

See how that works? You set it up so that you present her with a role you want her to adopt (being sexual and fun and open to anything), and show it in a positive light. And even if she doesn’t agree with your assessment of her sign, you’re getting her to share with you what wild stuff she HAS done.

Before you know it, you’re in a conversation!

Typically, you’ll want to have three good openers to use one after

another, all with follow-up stories to get the conversation flowing.

TC

Not too relevant to OP, but in the spirit of the thread...

http://xkcd.com/642/

themanontherun wrote:

Not too relevant to OP, but in the spirit of the thread...

http://xkcd.com/642/

9.5/10!

also:

I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess you're reading this because you want more success with women, right? Maybe your skills with da ladies put Hugh Hefner to shame. Maybe you're barley treading above water in the single scene trenches. I dunno? But I do know you want more success. Who doesn't?

Just maybe you think the best way to succeed with a woman is to NOT mess up by, for example, avoiding topics of conversation that might offend her, hiding aspects about yourself she may find dorky or crass or pathetic...and so on, yes? If this describes you, don't worry. You're not alone. Ninety percent of men think this way. Heck, I used to (If you're one of those few lucky men who DON'T think this way, what you're about to read will make you sigh with relief and think to yourself: "Amen. Finally someone has the gall to stand up to the plate and spout what should have been said a long time ago. If I'd been privy to this when I was starting out, I'd have saved truckloads of time and tears.").

When I first started wading through the single scene brush, slogging down a misguided road, I thought to myself: "Why is it that the most successful guys with women I know seem to do everything wrong?"

The harder I tried NOT to mess up, the worse I did. I wanted to be flawless but "flawless" was becoming a death sentence to my success with women. Many blows to my self-esteem later, I realized I was trudging down the wrong path.

But I didn't know what the right path was. I felt frustrated and confused.

Then the universe left a few breadcrumbs for me, pointing me in the right direction...

I was watching one of the old Superman movies with my little cousin when it dawned on me. As I was watching I realized: If Superman didn't have kryptonite he wouldn't have superhero appeal. His powers are impressive but it's his Achilles heel, kryptonite, making him truly extraordinary.

If you're perceptive, maybe you're saying to yourself: "His Achilles heel makes him a hero because it humanizes him. It conveys that although he has impressive powers, he's not that different from us. We can relate to him."

But this is only part of the story. There are other underlying mechanisms at work.

One of them dawned on me while perusing a book called "The Handicap Principle," by the zoologist Amotz Zahavi. Many of us were told in school that the animals advertising signals - displaying characteristics about themselves - most fit for survival are picked by the opposite sex as mating partners.

But Zahavi felt a piece of Darwin's puzzle was missing: Why do animals go out of their way to advertise costly signals - characteristics about themselves that decrease their chance of survival?

Because, Zahavi tells us, the opposite sex feels the greatest amount of attraction toward those advertising the most costly signals. The peahen, for example, feels attraction toward the peacock with the largest, most colorful plumage. This large, colorful plumage is no perk for survival. The poor peacock has to lug around those monster-sized feathers. His bright colors make him stick out like a sore thumb to predators.

Yet the message he's communicating to the peahen is: "Despite having these debilitating characteristics, I'm alive, healthy, and ready to mate." He's advertising costly signals.

These same principles apply to humans as well. Anything you do that is perceived as potentially harmful to your social status or chances of mating with a woman is advertising a costly signal. If you advertise costly signals correctly it will skyrocket both your social status and the attraction women feel toward you.

A word of caution: Acting like a dilapidated gimp who just got off the short bus will neither increase your social status nor compel women to feel attraction toward you.

Advertising costly signals only works on the condition that you've already established yourself as the Prize with a woman (or group of women). Also, use it in moderation. Less, in this case, really is more.

Let's look at a few examples of this. Every few years there's some pop star that starts sporting a dry heave inducing fashion. But instead of being shipped off to some leper colony, his popularity soars and his grotesque style becomes the new chic.

Another great example of this is the 1987 movie "Can't Buy Me Love." The movie's hapless hero, Donald, is determined to squelch his dork-boy reputation by paying a popular cheerleader to be his girlfriend. Lo and behold, his mission is accomplished as he darts to the top of the popularity totem pole. As prom edges closer Donald attempts to teach himself to dance by imitating the dance moves of what he mistakenly thinks is the television show American Bandstand. What he, unfortunately, ends up learning are the steps to an African Anteater Ritual. When he gets to prom, thinking he has all the trendy dance moves down pat, he busts out with the African Anteater Ritual. Do people make fun of him? Nope. They love him more for it. And in the next scene a whole room of teenagers spaz out in synchronicity as they partake in the African Anteater ritual.

These last two examples, admittedly, aren't about attracting women per se. They're about the much broader field of human psychology. Yet these same underlying mechanisms apply to attracting women.

Many guys have a harder time dealing with a woman feeling attraction toward them than one who doesn't. They shudder with fear that they'll mess up their chances with her. She'll find out what a goofball they are and never want to talk to them again. And most of the time the woman does stop feeling attraction toward them. But it usually has nothing to with them acting like goofballs. Instead, it's their fear that she WON'T approve of their behavior that turns her off. Women feel no attraction toward approval seeking, validation hungry, needy men.

They feel attraction toward men whom establish themselves as the Prize. If a woman, for example, wants to keep talking to you or keep interacting with you or see you again or find out more about you or try to get your approval or win you over...and so on, you've probably established yourself as the Prize - at least to some extent.

Establishing yourself as the Prize is what I call "Prizability." Advertising costly signals is one of the best ways to skyrocket your Prizability.

Maybe, for example, while out on a date with a woman you've just met, she comments that your favorite musician is an untalented loser. Your gut instinct shouts: "Don't let her know he's your favorite artist, lest she stops liking you." This is the needy part of you. When women sense this part of you, they see you as desperate to mate and spread your genetic code.

But when you advertise a costly signal - by, for example, saying, "Actually he's my favorite musician. I've been to every single one of his concerts and have a big poster of him taped to a wall in my bedroom. You must have bad taste." - you're establishing that you're willing to risk losing the attraction she feels toward you because you could care less what the end result is.

Women aren't used to men doing this. Often times, they'll respond by, oddly enough, changing their view to fit yours - an indication your Prizability is rapidly increasing. Sometimes not. Yet, no matter what her response is, you can use it to increase your Prizability (in my course you'll discover truckloads of secrets for using her response - no matter what it is - to exponentially increase your Prizability...emotionally compelling her to want and reach and chase for more of you).

Before I let you go I'm gonna share one more example of advertising costly signals to increase your Prizability and skyrocket the attraction women feel toward YOU. If there's a woman who feels attraction toward you, advertise a costly signal by making her participate in a really dork laden activity. Maybe grab her hand and start skipping and humming the theme song to Mr. Roger's Neighborhood. Insist she participate. If she already likes you, doing this will balloon your Prizability and the attraction she feels toward you.

I've only scratched the surface of advertising costly signals. My book is filled with heaps of step-by-step examples, teaching you how to make this skill part of who YOU are. You'll learn to transform aspects about yourself you perceive as unattractive into your most seductive qualities. But this, my friend, is only the tip of the iceberg. If you give me fifteen minutes a day, I'll let you crawl inside my mind and pull out my proven step-by-step attraction method...giving you the tools to generate massive attraction in women, compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you. This is the fastest available road to success with the women you desire...with minimum rejection. Even if you dedicate little time and put in only a small amount of effort, you'll start seeing results. Of course, the more you put in the more you'll get out. I'll leave it up to you to decide just how much success with women you want. But I should warn you: My course is the only place on the planet you'll get possession of these attraction secrets. Just think what it will be like to finally have the skills and confidence to plop your butt in the driver's seat while interacting with women, giving you the power and choice to take your interactions with them in the direction you want.

-SwingCat

It's called ladder theory... (look it up on wiki)

she's either already decided a)you're in or she's decided b) you are the gbf who makes her laugh - there's only one way to find out and it's not following a punchline.

Well, you do need to talk to women to eventually form a relationship, but the key is how do you make sure they are interested in you?

When Ol' Flagpole was a young pup on the prowl, and a woman would approach me and start yapping, I would hold up my stop hand to her face and simply say, "You've not been asked to speak yet." After then waiting an appropriate amount of time I would allow her to speak by saying, "What is it you want to learn?" Trust me, this makes most women really hot for you...in an almost uncontrollable way.

Are you in a band?

Called the Plain White Undergarments?

(Or some drivel like that.)