My relationship has become insane

Get out of the relationship - sounds toxic.

Probably learnt it from her parents relationship. I have a friend in the exact situation. Get out.

f ed wrote:

Average is probably 2x a day when we are together all day.

Lean on me when you’re not strong

Just visit LRC twice a day on those days

The basic advice is to leave her, you shouldn't let yourself be treated like this.

She probably sees your going to the gym at the wrong time as you 'not thinking about her', she probably gets angry when you don't show an interest in a show because she doesn't want you to be bored or annoyed by her, she doesn't want it to be her fault so she blames you. If you're with a girl like this you need to be very clear about what you're doing and why you're doing it. If you aren't interested in a show, tell her you aren't or try to be interested in it. If I'm being honest, you probably aren't thinking about her as much as you think you are; women really do think more about how people feel than men.

Don't just wait for her to start a big fight so you can dump her. If you're going to do it be a man, dump her if you don't think it will work out an let her know why - just say that she's set her expectations too high, you can't do everything that she wants exactly how she wants you to. If you don't do this (based off of what you said) she will probably try to hurt you in some way before breaking up with you....don't let this happen!

You shouldn’t have to wait for her to make a big deal out of something small, she already is. Be good and honest with yourself, you will spend the rest of your life with yourself.

If you think it’s worth the effort, have the conversation with her but you are already doubting her honesty and integrity with others so...

Do not feel bad about walking away from something that hurts you or makes you unhappy, you owe nothing to her parents or anyone else for that matter.

Keep your chin up and listen to you inner voice.

All the best!

There are people in this world who are very concerned about how others perceive them and will exhibit behavior that makes them very likable with those they interact with on a limited basis. Yet when you get to know them on a deeper level and spend more time with them, they may reveal themselves to be not so great people. They also might be projecting their own insecurities onto others close to them.

Basically this is only going to change if both of you put some awareness and effort into it. If she is not willing to do that, it's probably time to end the relationship.

This is a bit off the wall, but has she had COVID? One of the long tail effects of COVID is mood swings.

One other point. I've noticed that some extroverts have gone a little crazy during their forced separation from other people. Introverts, like me, haven't struggled at all from the isolation.

Again, another off-the-wall idea that I mention only because it arose just this past week in a relationship with two young people I know. Could she be bipolar?

sub sub elite local hobby jogger wrote:

There are people in this world who are very concerned about how others perceive them and will exhibit behavior that makes them very likable with those they interact with on a limited basis. Yet when you get to know them on a deeper level and spend more time with them, they may reveal themselves to be not so great people. They also might be projecting their own insecurities onto others close to them.

Basically this is only going to change if both of you put some awareness and effort into it. If she is not willing to do that, it's probably time to end the relationship.

I just think this is a really good answer.

The world revolves around her.

Get out of that orbit.

Just leave her immediately and let it go. Relationships are supposed to be uplifting and supportive. Yours isn't. So move on. It happens and doesn't even need to be that negative. We put too much stock in romantic partnerships. It's just one aspect of life.

Bad enough to post it HERE? Just get out. It wont change

Never let someone treat you as a punching bag.

leave. NOW.

close your eyes and imagine the next 50 years of your life. it's not worth it dude, and it WILL NOT, I repeat, will NOT magically get better of time or change of life circumstance: marriage, baby, change of scenery or whatever.

The first and most obvious question is - have you talked to her about this?

If you have spoken with her about your concerns and she has ignored you, then it's done, you need to walk away.

If you haven't spoken to her about this, start there and see if things improve. If they don't change, leave her.

Best wishes.

Much older. Plenty of relationship mistakes but let me help you out. I'll rewrite the title.

I'm choosing to stay in an insane relationship.

Show me a female who is outgoing, super talkative to everyone, etc..... except to her mate, and I’ll show you a female looking for her next partner and a guy about to be replaced...... if you haven’t already.

I think the mistake a lot of young people make is they think they need to save a relationship. People try to do it all the time as they think it's failure if they break up. That's totally the wrong way to think about it.

You are probably a successful person. You are used to doing well in school and running. The more you work on things, the better you get.

But those aren't relationships. A big part of a relationship beofre you are married is realizing who is good for you and who isn't. Breaking up is actually a good thing as you don't want to get stuck in a bad marriage. Once you get married and have kids, I think you should try to save things but at this point realize you've learned this girl isn't for you and move on.

Tell her you don't like be treated like that and move on.

It's not you. It's her. Move on. There are many fish in the sea at your age.

STEVE THE ADDICT^^^^^^""""""""--^' wrote:

sub sub elite local hobby jogger wrote:

There are people in this world who are very concerned about how others perceive them and will exhibit behavior that makes them very likable with those they interact with on a limited basis. Yet when you get to know them on a deeper level and spend more time with them, they may reveal themselves to be not so great people. They also might be projecting their own insecurities onto others close to them.

Basically this is only going to change if both of you put some awareness and effort into it. If she is not willing to do that, it's probably time to end the relationship.

I just think this is a really good answer.

Wondering if I should be worried that STEVE THE ADDICT agrees with me on something.