The Me Too Movement Has Gotten ABSURD

booker wrote:

As a female, being in this situation sucks. I grew up with three brothers so it takes a lot to offend me and I let a lot of things slide. But at my current job the situation is so bad that I have been in counseling for months and have an appointment tomorrow morning to get anti-anxiety meds for the first time in my life.

I am a civilian worker at a military base and someone in my chain of command started to sexually harass me over text message when his wife went on a stateside deployment. He sent some pretty vulgar messages, he invited me over for late night booty calls, he told me dreamed of my naked body, he named three guys on base and told me what they wanted to do to me, etc. He interspersed the sexual texts with messages telling me how he likes to strangle people because the gurgling sounds awesome and he likes to see the light go out of their eyes. I knew it would end when his wife came home so I put my head down and just took it. But then he started to retaliate against me at work and even violated whistleblower protection laws. I submitted the text messages and documentation to my HR department and local union rep and no one cares. I contacted OSHA about the whistleblower violations and was told I can file a complaint but it will take more than a year for it to be resolved. There are zero protections for me. I asked for a transfer to another agency within my state and I was told that if I have to wait for an opening and apply for it like anyone else.

The metoo movement gets under my skin sometimes but this is all very real. I have always been proud of where I work, I am good at my job, and I am an absolute work horse. Yet here I am in the midst of an absolutely awful situation. I ask for help and the federal government won't protect me because I'm a state employee. The state government won't protect me because he's a federal employee. It's absolute crap! Meanwhile, I sit right outside of the offender's office and have to report to him every day. While the metoo movement may be annoying to some men out there, it pales in comparison to what some of us have to deal with on a daily basis. Believe me, the gut churning doesn't stop on nights and weekends. To make matters worse, the longer my complaint drags out the more he thinks everything is back to "normal" between us. I'm sure he's sleeping just fine at night while I have not slept through the night in months.

unpopular opinion man wrote:

booker wrote:

As a female, being in this situation sucks. I grew up with three brothers so it takes a lot to offend me and I let a lot of things slide. But at my current job the situation is so bad that I have been in counseling for months and have an appointment tomorrow morning to get anti-anxiety meds for the first time in my life.

I am a civilian worker at a military base and someone in my chain of command started to sexually harass me over text message when his wife went on a stateside deployment. He sent some pretty vulgar messages, he invited me over for late night booty calls, he told me dreamed of my naked body, he named three guys on base and told me what they wanted to do to me, etc. He interspersed the sexual texts with messages telling me how he likes to strangle people because the gurgling sounds awesome and he likes to see the light go out of their eyes. I knew it would end when his wife came home so I put my head down and just took it. But then he started to retaliate against me at work and even violated whistleblower protection laws. I submitted the text messages and documentation to my HR department and local union rep and no one cares. I contacted OSHA about the whistleblower violations and was told I can file a complaint but it will take more than a year for it to be resolved. There are zero protections for me. I asked for a transfer to another agency within my state and I was told that if I have to wait for an opening and apply for it like anyone else.

The metoo movement gets under my skin sometimes but this is all very real. I have always been proud of where I work, I am good at my job, and I am an absolute work horse. Yet here I am in the midst of an absolutely awful situation. I ask for help and the federal government won't protect me because I'm a state employee. The state government won't protect me because he's a federal employee. It's absolute crap! Meanwhile, I sit right outside of the offender's office and have to report to him every day. While the metoo movement may be annoying to some men out there, it pales in comparison to what some of us have to deal with on a daily basis. Believe me, the gut churning doesn't stop on nights and weekends. To make matters worse, the longer my complaint drags out the more he thinks everything is back to "normal" between us. I'm sure he's sleeping just fine at night while I have not slept through the night in months.

That sucks, I'm sorry to hear it. Get yourself an attorney ASAP. If this guy is already retaliating at work you never know when you could lose your job. Your attorney can guide you on what kind of evidence to be gathering now. Or maybe your attorney will tell you if have enough now and they can apply the pressure to get you re-assigned. Or worse comes to worse they can tell you it's time to sue your employer for not doing anything to alleviate your hostile workplace. You haven't slept in months - sounds like pain and suffering to me.

Trollminator wrote:

booker wrote:

As a female, being in this situation sucks. I grew up with three brothers so it takes a lot to offend me and I let a lot of things slide. But at my current job the situation is so bad that I have been in counseling for months and have an appointment tomorrow morning to get anti-anxiety meds for the first time in my life.

I am a civilian worker at a military base and someone in my chain of command started to sexually harass me over text message when his wife went on a stateside deployment. He sent some pretty vulgar messages, he invited me over for late night booty calls, he told me dreamed of my naked body, he named three guys on base and told me what they wanted to do to me, etc. He interspersed the sexual texts with messages telling me how he likes to strangle people because the gurgling sounds awesome and he likes to see the light go out of their eyes. I knew it would end when his wife came home so I put my head down and just took it. But then he started to retaliate against me at work and even violated whistleblower protection laws. I submitted the text messages and documentation to my HR department and local union rep and no one cares. I contacted OSHA about the whistleblower violations and was told I can file a complaint but it will take more than a year for it to be resolved. There are zero protections for me. I asked for a transfer to another agency within my state and I was told that if I have to wait for an opening and apply for it like anyone else.

The metoo movement gets under my skin sometimes but this is all very real. I have always been proud of where I work, I am good at my job, and I am an absolute work horse. Yet here I am in the midst of an absolutely awful situation. I ask for help and the federal government won't protect me because I'm a state employee. The state government won't protect me because he's a federal employee. It's absolute crap! Meanwhile, I sit right outside of the offender's office and have to report to him every day. While the metoo movement may be annoying to some men out there, it pales in comparison to what some of us have to deal with on a daily basis. Believe me, the gut churning doesn't stop on nights and weekends. To make matters worse, the longer my complaint drags out the more he thinks everything is back to "normal" between us. I'm sure he's sleeping just fine at night while I have not slept through the night in months.

That is pretty awful.

Meanwhile men, especially white men, complain about cancel culture, PC and them having to tone it down, as if they are sacrificing everything to make room for some change they never agreed to... Entitlement and holding on to power. Like anything else deep rooted in history and society, it takes a giant swing the other direction with a bulldozer just to get enough people thinking. We are not even close to scratching the surface on this issue. For every case of a man thinking they are being unfairly treated for seemingly innocent behavior, there are likely dozens of women actually being harassed and assaulted, who will get destroyed if they speak up.

dafuq wrote:

Trollminator wrote:

That is pretty awful.

Meanwhile men, especially white men, complain about cancel culture, PC and them having to tone it down, as if they are sacrificing everything to make room for some change they never agreed to... Entitlement and holding on to power. Like anything else deep rooted in history and society, it takes a giant swing the other direction with a bulldozer just to get enough people thinking. We are not even close to scratching the surface on this issue. For every case of a man thinking they are being unfairly treated for seemingly innocent behavior, there are likely dozens of women actually being harassed and assaulted, who will get destroyed if they speak up.

"Never let a good crisis go to waste."

Never waste the opportunity to use someone else's painful story to disparage people whose politics you disagree with. How does this person's story relate in any way to cancel culture or PC culture? Please show me the white men who are complaining about not being able to tell their coworkers how much they like murder people. This boss of hers is obviously a legitimate psychopath in a position of power, and it's not people who are against "PC culture" who are keeping this guy in power, it's cowards without the intestinal fortitude to hold people like him accountable.