I have a good job. But I hate where Iive. Thoughts

I stuck it out for a long time in a location that I was okay with, but my wife was not happy. We finally moved last year and I wish that we'd done it a long time ago even if it might have been harder financially in the beginning.

I would advise my younger self to move as soon as possible to a place that I would be happy to retire to or vacation at. Then, arrange life to leave plenty of time to enjoy yourself.

It has been nice this winter to read about icy and/or nasty weather back where we used to live on the same day that we were walking barefoot on the beach.

Yeah you are right. Being Here and complaining does Nothing to my Happiness. At least I can Try to Look for jobs elsewhere. Back to the world. Its something I can do financially at the moment But I start to doubt my ability to find a Job elsewhere due to this epidemic. Should I still Try or wait I dont know. I will Try at least Ican sAy that.

Tell us where you live. Now I'm curious.

Suck it up for a few years. Make that $$$ and then move to someplace you prefer.

I dont wanna tell because I dont want to offend anyone really. I think I would get offended if someone would say That my country is miserable ahahahah. Anyway in Northern Europe to be As exact As I can ;)

Move down here to South Florida, you might like it. It's not mediterranean climate but nice and sunny and the people stay out of your business.

Do you know any local and reputable Job boards That side？I can Consider if I get the opportunity.

bongy doingy wrote:

Tell us where you live. Now I'm curious.

Mom's basement

Life is too short to be miserable - you may not realize this until you are older and it is a bit too late.

Move out of that frozen wasteland now!

Look at the bright side, you could be living in Oklahoma.

First, you need to find someone to talk to. It can be a professional therapist where you can work on your mental health and how to better cope through the tough times you are having, or just some close friends where you can communicate and feel like part of a community again. Talking to others and having constructive conversations not just complaining about everything you hate and being a huge bummer will improve your entire demeanor.

Second, you need to find something fun to do everyday in addition to running. There is more to life than work and running, find what drives you. Spend 30 minutes a day doing something you enjoy or trying something new to see if you could like doing that. I can assume up to this point in your life you have been busy with school, running/running competitions, and the social life that comes with both of those activities. Early adulthood, especially when you move away from your safety net of friends and family is the first time in your life where you alone are in control of your happiness. If you can figure out how to be happy where you are, when you are able to find a job in a better location you will be better equipped to be happy there too. If you don't do this now, a change of location won't solve all your problems.

Third, figure out how to be really good at your job. You currently have very limited distractions in life. Take advantage of it and figure out how to excel at your job. Spend at least a year there and you should be very easily able to make a lateral move to a more desirable location.

Fourth, if there isn't a running club already where you are, start one. Everyone should be welcome regardless of skill level. If you can get people to join, set up a race for later in the summer. Maybe the local town has a celebration for the solstice and suggest adding a 5k or mile fun run under the midnight sun? Get creative if your community is socially distancing. The gyms are closed so people will be looking for an outlet to workout.

Just make the best of your current situation. It isn't ideal, but life never is.

You are right. There is Nothing else to say，you are just right.

I have long lived abroad，because of my decision to study abroad I have Since That time Left my Home country Italy but no place like this one. Its a latitude i am allergic to stand to this extreme environment. Lived in Heksinki，Germany，China. Travelled quite a BIt for my age I wouldnt say a Lot But I have seen a Few countries. I remember still clear to this day the time when I Left my country where I took everything for granted. What I miss the most is the climate，not much the food，I can cook pasta at home. I can buy everything imported As I am a plant eater，i can make myself bread because They Cant do It here. so Ok. Not much culture，even tho I really miss our outgoing way of Life But nowadays We can connect with internet So It mitigates the depression of being an expat. But what i miss the most is the climate，

i Cant even Go to a solarium now. All closed.

But Nothing can replace that natural sunlight of my country. That amazing light of the south. So lit and strong.

That amazing Blue sky i Always took for granted. I never thought of It But It truly is a gift. I have found It interesting living indifferent countries ，especially Germany is really integrating country and beautiful. China is very different and Hard a BIt because of the pollution But still at the end of the day i had a Life there，i had gym partners i loved that gym i could talk to anyone so inspiring people，running friends，and Chinese people are the most amazing people Ever . I mean there in Asia i have seen some of the most heart warming people ever despite some negatives of living Under CCP. But Here Its just pure desolation. Its remote，not As Remote As Alaska i.guess But Its a very isolating environment to be especially combined with this frigid weather. Its April. All i can feel when i go outside is my feet and hands freezing. April in Italy is a time i could smell flowers in the air. And the time I would see all my plants in bloom. Here.. Not the same. I feel i am wasting my life. I will get old one day and will never forgive myself for this. I would prefer to live in Oklahoma i swear to the person who said that.

First，I have considered going to See a therapist，But at the end of the day i dont want to See a person who can only Feel pity about me. Running is my therapy，Its the only moment of the day I Feel good. Not even good like before because i hate the cold.. But this place doesnt take running away from.me. So i go. . But i realize i cannot over exercise anymore，I have to better focus on my nutrition than before. now I am 22 and i Feel So old because i Cannot run more than 2 hours every day like i used to do before. So These physical limitations make me depressed. I can run a Marathon and half marathons even Weekly But only if i allow my body to properly Rest. Otherwise my REPETITIVE STRAIN Injury will come back. I wonder if there is a way to make my body meet with my demands？Like i heard some ultrarunners run huuge distances？

Second，I am a Sun person. I am not the kind of person who finds anything enjoyable in a lifeless envirnoment. Maybe in the Summer it will be better to be outdoors here. I have plants at home which i kiss and take care because they bring me life （i am not gay）. In my home.country i used to have a garden，i adored plantS. With me any plant would grow beautiful，it was one of my greatest passions of my life as a teenager. To see plants growing in the Sun. To plant and eat fruits. I used to just be outside and feel something different than cold every day. in here i just spent all my timeinthe gym until it closed. Its the only place outside of work that i had which allowed me to cope and now its closed . I am devastated i cannot live without the gym here. I have to exerxise in this disgusting weather outside，and my only place where i socialized is gone . i should have listened to my friend who told me not to move here. But no.

Third，on this point you are totally right. I have no life here outside of exerxise and work so i guess i could make it work but this layoff is driving me insane as I have to wait more than a month to start working again because of this virus！I had not had human contact as i am in self quarantine for many days . I eat beans and grains every day because i am afraid to go to the supermarket to catch the virus. but i guess i am already used to a restricted diet so it doesnt matter. if it wont be for food i will meed to go when the soap will finish.

Fourth，dude you are right it might be a great idea but i am afraid i will suffer legal consequences if during this time i will start a running club.. ahahah i am not allowed to.work to self isolate and then i start a running club. I think the government wont like it. But when this crisis is over i would really like that. I am already part of the facebook group of the locals and could sure invite any interested to join me on my solo runs. Of course. Everyone would be welxome regarldess of skill level. I just hope to continue running every day of my life. I dont know what i would do，if one day i wont be able to Run，That day I would be in hell.

Billmax wrote:

I dont wanna tell because I dont want to offend anyone really. I think I would get offended if someone would say That my country is miserable ahahahah. Anyway in Northern Europe to be As exact As I can ;)

I'm so offended. And I'm offended at your lack of humour.

Must be German.

bongy doingy wrote:

Tell us where you live. Now I'm curious.

I'm more interested in what you do for a job. What kind of job puts you living in a place that is frigid, apparently rarely sees the sun, and is worse than Helsinki and China?

I'm guessing you work on an oil drilling well in Northern Russia.

Have you been taking Vitamin D supplements?

I can understand your issue as I do need sun and pasta too but besides Isolation sucks ' good advices, I'll add that your notion of time seems very related to your youth. A year or two goes by fast and it seems that it's in your interest to gain professionnal experience there.

You could mitigate the current boredom due to this temporary situation by doing some bodyweight training. It could be really good for both your body and soul. Check reddit's r/bodyweightfitness training plans and start one ASAP.

Have you seen northern lights?

Billmax wrote:

I dont wanna tell because I dont want to offend anyone really. I think I would get offended if someone would say That my country is miserable ahahahah. Anyway in Northern Europe to be As exact As I can ;)

Hammerfest, Norway is my guess

I grew up in Hawai'i and at one point had been living in Papua New Guinea for several years -- then I got a job in Buffalo.

Buffalo is cold and cloudy and it snows a lot. I got used to the cold and snow, but I never got used to the low light levels and dark days.

So I bought "full spectrum" lights and lit my workroom with them. I mean a lot of lumens of that good old full spectrum light. It made a big, big difference psychologically.

Maybe you could try that? I'm sure full-spectrum lights are available world wide.

Also, read up on SAD (Seasonal Affect Disorder). People who know about SAD might have ot her things to offer you.

Just remember that what can be rough about the north isn't just the cold.