Being single in your mid to late 20s is a red flag across the board

Less for guys. Maybe they are just doing their own thing, grinding at work or businesses, hooking up with some girls here and there. There isn't much of a rush to have some super long relationship. You can be 32-36 and be healthy, good shape, have some money and people respect that. You can meet plenty of girls.

For girls, yeah. No girls wants to be 32 and single. You're not as hot as before, have possible relationship baggage, and you're in a rush because of the biology of having a kid.

It's definitely a red flag, but not an indictment. There are people in that group who are single with few issues and a lot of people who are not single with many more issues. but it is certainly something that should make you think twice.

Also just to add, I would much rather be a guy who's in his late 20's and doing his own thing because he hasn't found one who is the right fit, than one of these guys who is with a girl just to have a girlfriend. I know plenty of guys like that.

They're prob the ones who will be in straight pain in 10 years, or end up getting divorced which is a disaster. Just because they weren't honest with themselves 15 years before.

Good friend of mine us one of those guys who just needs a girlfriend. Has been divorced now 3 times. Think he would learn but sure there will be a #4 within a year or 2

Labenthraub wrote:

Good friend of mine us one of those guys who just needs a girlfriend. Has been divorced now 3 times. Think he would learn but sure there will be a #4 within a year or 2

Ha wtf 3 times!? How old is he? At least he didn't make the ultimate mistake of having a kid with one of them.

Yep. Very true. And think about people who make it into their 30s this way.

Swaglord_the_real_one wrote:

Less for guys. Maybe they are just doing their own thing, grinding at work or businesses, hooking up with some girls here and there. There isn't much of a rush to have some super long relationship. You can be 32-36 and be healthy, good shape, have some money and people respect that. You can meet plenty of girls.

For girls, yeah. No girls wants to be 32 and single. You're not as hot as before, have possible relationship baggage, and you're in a rush because of the biology of having a kid.

This 100%. Guys can enjoy being single and independent a lot more whereas a lot of women have more to gain from a relationship, men can have more to lose.

I was a late bloomer in any number of ways. I started med school at the age of 33, and had never had a serious relationship to that point. After starting school, I met (and subsequently married) an absolute stunner in my class who has turned out to be my perfect match in every way. If some kind of personality flaw is what led me to stay single as long as I did, I thank my lucky stars for that flaw, because things have turned out about as perfectly as I could have ever hoped. Of all the crushes, flings, and failed attempts of my 20s, there's not a single girl I think back on and say "man, I wish that relationship had worked out instead."

Being flawed is part of being human. It's unavoidable that we all have our "red flags." The point isn't to try to be perfect. The point is to figure out how to be happy despite our imperfections. I have my flaws and I've made my mistakes, but I don't really regret a thing because it's all lead to an absolutely wonderful life.

Mentality like the OP has is why you see so many people settle and be unhappy/divorce. They force their hand because of shallow and judgmental idiots like the OP and get burned.

Classic turn towards the pathetic LRC usual: “Well actually it’s okay for guys but a huge red flag that girls are effed up”.

post nups wrote:

Classic turn towards the pathetic LRC usual: “Well actually it’s okay for guys but a huge red flag that girls are effed up”.

Perhaps this is somewhat true but you have to admit that marriage favors women, hence why all women desire marriage and now men are shying away from it more often. There is generally more to gain for women through marriage, even my mother admitted this. Is she misogynist?

hey dumb dumb2 wrote:

post nups wrote:

Classic turn towards the pathetic LRC usual: “Well actually it’s okay for guys but a huge red flag that girls are effed up”.

Perhaps this is somewhat true but you have to admit that marriage favors women, hence why all women desire marriage and now men are shying away from it more often. There is generally more to gain for women through marriage, even my mother admitted this. Is she misogynist?

Totally bro. What time are we going to do our redpill web meeting later?

And what makes you an expert in the field?

adam. wrote:

And this goes both ways.

For guys, unless they've been super busy with life in their 20s - there's something wrong with them that they're single in their late 20s. And for girls, given the vast number of options there is pretty much always a critical relationship-personality flaw that prevented them from being able to stay with someone.

What is wrong with them exactly?

And what vast number of options is there for women?

You haven't said a damn thing.

I asked my husband who he thinks has been favored more in our marriage and he said, “oh, definitely me, hands down. I still get to live the life I always would’ve lived, while you do everything else around here.” Hahaha I should’ve punched him. He was being funny, but also meant what he said. I love being married, but I don’t see how women are favored more than men by it. Both parties have to sacrifice and make compromises to make the marriage work.

Swaglord_the_real_one wrote:

For girls, yeah. No girls wants to be 32 and single. You're not as hot as before, have possible relationship baggage, and you're in a rush because of the biology of having a kid.

Except for all the 21st century women that have careers and wait to have children until 30s/40s. I’m not even going to comment on the hot part.

Actually, there's a lot more of chance of something is right with them. They can think for themselves. They don't need a "relationship". I believe society pressures people to have relationships and when. It's like a virus. I'll bet many lives are ruined in some way because of it.

adam. wrote:

And this goes both ways.

For guys, unless they've been super busy with life in their 20s - there's something wrong with them that they're single in their late 20s. And for girls, given the vast number of options there is pretty much always a critical relationship-personality flaw that prevented them from being able to stay with someone.

This reminds me of a dude’s modern day dumbed down version of Pride and Prejudice.

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