Unless you join a fraternity you are not forced to participate in the partying and drinking.
I studied in the US as an exchange student from Europe. I found all college parties honestly embarrassing. Maybe it has to do with your ridiculously high legal drinking age. Where I am from, most people do their wild partying sometime between the ages of 13-19 before they graduate from high school. After that, it is just embarrassing to black out from binge drinking in my opinion.