Who TF says, "Tier 2 city?"
You sound like an absolute vagina.
Who TF says, "Tier 2 city?"
You sound like an absolute vagina.
She moved away from YOU. Think about that for a moment. Where do you think you land on her list of priorities?
Stay put and find a new girl. Sounds like you'll be spoiled for choice.
Confuzzled wrote:
Starcrossed Lover wrote:
I’m a mid-20s guy currently working at a NYC investment fund. I love my job in a way I never thought I could love a job, and am well-positioned to make Partner in the firm / industry which is obviously long term lucrative.
My longtime girlfriend recently moved to a Tier 2 city (think large enough to have a pro sports franchise or two) and insists that I follow her along in relatively short order. My industry doesn’t exist down there in a meaningful way and I don’t like the city itself, so the only reason I’d be moving would be to be with her. She’s fantastic and someone I could see myself marrying, but at the same time I worry I’d be sacrificing too much to do it. I’m still young and social enough that I’m not overly worried about dying alone, but at the same time would I be an idiot to throw a good thing away for career?
LRC gurus, what would you do?
You don't have to do anything. She moved to get away from you. She is almost 100% sure that you will not move to be with her, so when you don't you are the bad guy and the cause of the breakup. I don't blame her. You sound like a pompous a$$.
+1.
"Tier 2 city" = "You sound like a pompous a$$".
O.D.W. wrote:
She'll only respect you if you don't follow her. And given she probably has a dominant personality, she won't respect you regardless.
Some women love destroying the dreams and prospects of their boyfriends/husbands.
She knows you're on the fast track to having the control in the relationship, and she resents you and your job for that.
She wants to drag you away from your dream job, and then she wants to belittle you for earning (much) less in your new tier 2 city.
And then she'll just break up with you anyway, because she couldn't possibly stay in love with a chump who dropped his dream job for a girl that literally moved away from him and his dream job.
Even if she wants to love and respect you, she won't be able to.
I've never seen a better description of women in the year 2019. It's perfect. They are psychotic.
I've never heard Jacksonville described as a "Tier 2" city and even now, I think its a bit of an overestimate.
I was in a similar situation, and my roommate gave me this advice: "Never do anything on the account of a woman". It turns out that that's the best advice I ever got. She moved away, the long-distance thing failed, and I met another woman who wanted to live where I wanted to live. If I could do it all over again, I'd do the same.
How will your parents take the news you are moving out of their basement?
She’s already made that decision for you. Take a hint man and let her go. It weren’t meant to happen.
If your job is so "obviously lucrative," then deigning to fly to your girlfriend's "Tier 2" city a few weekends per month -and alternately paying for her to come visit you on occasion- should be mere small change for you. And with all the frequent-flier miles you'll attain, you'll both be flying on the cheap in no time. Problem solved.
I chose the girl and it has worked out great as she makes 3 times what I make. Plus, NYC is a dump. I honestly couldn't think of a worse place to live except maybe LA or Detroit. Crowded, expensive, dirty and full of Democrats.
joedirt wrote:
I chose the girl and it has worked out great as she makes 3 times what I make. Plus, NYC is a dump. I honestly couldn't think of a worse place to live except maybe LA or Detroit. Crowded, expensive, dirty and full of Democrats.
That seals it.
Leave the girl. Keep the job.
Cupidity always wins.
MOB
Career.
She's the one making you choose - so don't choose her. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of always compromising your needs for hers. There will be no equality in this, you'll be screwed.
Get. Out. Now.
So she lives in either Buffalo or Pittsburgh?
Try the long distance. It won't take long to show if it will work out or not.
Career. Unless she's a 10 and really does dig you, then you should reconsider.
she should run - from you wrote:
Who TF says, "Tier 2 city?"
You sound like an absolute vagina.
agreed. OP has probably never left NYC and is scared to do so.
Starcrossed Lover wrote:
Should I choose my career or the girl?
If you have to ask, you already know the answer.
As an advocate of longevity and mental health I would recommend just getting the hell out of NYC in general. NOBODY THEIR IS HAPPY
HOOWIE wrote:
As an advocate of longevity and mental health I would recommend just getting the hell out of NYC in general. NOBODY THEIR IS HAPPY
THERE'D***