Called my girlfriend slow as a joke, now im in the doghouse...

When she cheats on you, remember that it's your fault.

at least you have a girlfriend.

What are her prs?

nipchoge wrote:

What do I do now?

Slow in terms of running, or in terms of cognition and character?

Or both..

Say, "Karen, you know, I'm really sorry. I'm the slow one and I was only projecting. I stay with you because you make me feel bright. I don't know what I'd do without you. Let's go get some dessert and I'll take you shopping where ever you want."

Done. Helps if they know you well enough that they get the sarcasm and apology double-whammy.

Goldenmeans_ofTraining wrote:

nipchoge wrote:

What do I do now?

Slow in terms of running, or in terms of cognition and character?

Or both..

Wondering this as well. OP, y'know there are laws about dating "slow" girls.

nipchoge wrote:

What do I do now?

Cold hard honest advice...

Remember and learn from this lesson with you your next girlfriend.

If your current GF somehow forgives your sorry self and gives you a second chance, be humble and keep you mouth shut.

Finally, just be thankful happy you: 1) have a GF and 2) that runs at all...

White Lines wrote:

Say, "Karen, you know, I'm really sorry. I'm the slow one and I was only projecting. I stay with you because you make me feel bright. I don't know what I'd do without you. Let's go get some dessert and I'll take you shopping where ever you want."

Done. Helps if they know you well enough that they get the sarcasm and apology double-whammy.

Only do this if her name is "Karen". Otherwise, it probably won't turn out too well.

(actually the suggestion was a pretty good one, but maybe leave out the 'shopping' part.)

All you nerdy virgin runners need to learn a thing or two about women.

You do nothing. If you maintain your position and don't give in to her silly attention tactics, after some time she will realize you are right, she will feel dumb, she will apologize to you, and you will maintain all the power in the relationship.

She wants you to apologize and try to get out of the doghouse so she has control over you. Don't let her.

nipchoge wrote:

What do I do now?

You need to apologize.

Not Done Just Yet wrote:

nipchoge wrote:

What do I do now?

Cold hard honest advice...

Remember and learn from this lesson with you your next girlfriend.

If your current GF somehow forgives your sorry self and gives you a second chance, be humble and keep you mouth shut.

Finally, just be thankful happy you: 1) have a GF and 2) that runs at all...

This strikes me as false morality.

You have learned a valuable lesson. Women, no matter how old or how young never, ever can take a joke.

Your best option is to dump her and move on. Otherwise she will never, ever let you forget it until you ultimately get divorced, eh scratch that, "DIE" is the correct word.

Flounder wrote:

You have learned a valuable lesson. Women, no matter how old or how young never, ever can take a joke.

Your best option is to dump her and move on. Otherwise she will never, ever let you forget it until you ultimately get divorced, eh scratch that, "DIE" is the correct word.

Oh such dedication to their tattered egos... if only people fought for the public welfare and perfection in love to the same extent that they will spend their lives on these silly little games. Imagine what would happen if corporations, politicians and unscrupulous people took advantage of these tendencies... thankfully, as runners, we can just outrun and outlast these problems, right ;-)

This thread is a bit sexist. It goes both ways :)

You didn't do anything wrong.

But, don't let your head run with that.

It's for you to figure out who you are in relationships. So, being fast means something to your girlfriend, whatever. I don't think that you telling her that she is slow is what caused this situation.

I think it's how you expressed it that hurt her. You'll hopefully get to a place in life where you build up the people around you and your energy pushes them to become their best. To the point where they feel that without your support and encouragement they couldn't have gone as far.

she IS slow wrote:

You do nothing. If you maintain your position and don't give in to her silly attention tactics, after some time she will realize you are right, she will feel dumb, she will apologize to you, and you will maintain all the power in the relationship.

This is exactly how I've stayed married for 13 years. It is a fool proof strategy and if it doesn't work, that's not a woman you want to be with.

If you can't keep the power in your relationship, you've given up de facto male superiority and your girl is now the man. It's like your relationship has been Semenyanized. And you do not want to end up in the Court of Arbitration in Switzerland.

nipchoge wrote:

What do I do now?

The reality is your joke only upset her because it’s probably something she actually feels about herself... and she must take running seriously enough for that to bother her.

Say you’re sorry, and that you didn’t realize how much this would affect her. (And that you thought she was fast enough to not believe you were being serious). Also say that the fact that she cares enough about running to be upset that she isn’t as fast as she wants to be, is kind of attractive... since you both share a passion for running and a desire to be good. Then say you really want to be better too and that you guys can work together/motivate each other to be better. Making each other better is a good framework for a relationship in general.

What’s her mile time? If she can break 6 you’re way luckier than you think. Heck, Most of us would just love a girl that runs at all .... At ANY pace.

Truefax wrote:

If you can't keep the power in your relationship, you've given up de facto male superiority and your girl is now the man. It's like your relationship has been Semenyanized. And you do not want to end up in the Court of Arbitration in Switzerland.

This gem is why I read the LR message boards.