cousin blew through $2-$3 million inheritance, now hitting me up for cash. I cannot believe it

Either do not return the call or if you do, just say no. Unless you are a loan shark. Next question please.

got a golf ball and garden hose handy for testing? wrote:

She better earn that 4k/month. The rub-n-tug in florida was charging $59, you do the math

68/month.

If she does a 40 hour work week 5 days a week then she should round up and do 4 a day. Plus tip she's putting bread on the table too.

*this is without accounting for the house cut which is most likely half. So double everything to be safe. 1 an hour

Don't feel sorry for her. She could've been set for life. And all of her kids. She could've bought a smaller place outright, a stable home forever. Maybe with a little separate lodging to rent out like a B&B.

I honestly can't imagine getting 3 million and just thinking "OK, let's spend this!"

Based on that workout 5ish you had full recovery between reps. That is a relaxed workout.

Now back to the topic.... If you are close to her talk to other family members come up with the cash. It is not your responsibility but blood is blood. My mom and I had a rough relationship for years once she got sick at a pretty young age I put that behind me and focused on her. Even though she is a cousin still blood family. I would also consider doing an intervention they work.

This sort of thing happens quite a bit.

Once you pay for her rent for one month, it could be another.

CDs don't pay much now.

Assuming you aren't lying and getting the anal Let's run crowd to through middle class nightmares. The best advice you could have given/give this dead beat is to leave whatever expensive city she lives in and move to a flyover state. When she "had" 3 million in her housing costs and general expenses would be so much cheaper in these areas of the US.

For those that are stating for her to move to a 1K apartment if she lives in NYC she would be violating her lease agreement to smuggle in 2 children in a studio apartment. To many posters on this board in live Peoria or other dead areas of this country. Major cities are expensive.

I'm sorry for your situation, OP. There are no good options here.

The only thing that makes sense to me is to give the money with some concrete conditions. It's not a loan, it's a gift and you should expect never to see it again. You tell her that if she fulfills the conditions, you'll still be friends, and you'll still take her calls. But if she doesn't, that's the end of the relationship.

If it becomes truly dire, would you be willing to take custody of her kids?

Obviously don't be an idiot, and give her any money.

Look up Ramsay's views on lending/giving money to family. Don't do it.

There was no mention of how close you are to your cousin? Call around to the rest of the family and find out if she’s been hitting everyone up and you were next on the list?

Alternatively... is she really truly broke or is she on some sort of trust fund and tapped herself out until her next payout?

Whoever suggested bankruptcy (assuming she has nothing left) has a good idea. Maybe collectively with the extended family see if anyone can take the kids in for a set number of months so cousin and deadbeat can get settled into new jobs and a smaller apartment and back on their feet after a bankruptcy.

49yroldrunna wrote:

Who gives cousins money?

+1

Short Bus Kid wrote:

49yroldrunna wrote:

Who gives cousins money?

+1

Kissing cousins.

$4k for rent?

Shes doen't need money,,,,,,she needs an amegeddon food supply. I'd buy hee about 20-30 of these as a salvation starter kit. According to Jim Bakker they can double as furniture. Who doesn't need a couch made out of buckets of dehydrated chimichangas?

She might be evicted from her house, but she'll always have a dirty yoga mat to crash on in the House of the Lord.

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Take her kids in if you can. Don't give her the money.

How old are the three kids? Are they still in the expensive prep school? Putting them into a public school would be a huge savings. If she prepaid some of the tuition maybe she could get some of that reimbursed.

The best suggestion so far was offering to help find a place that is more in line with her financial situation. Do that, but do not give or loan her any money. You've received that bit of advice over and over, so don't do it.

Work, work, work.

Save, save, save.

No debt.

Pay cash for everything.

Kissing cousins.[/quote]

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