Had a big blowup with my girlfriend. Would like some input.

You are arguing about nothing. How’s it gonna go when something is truly at stake, like kids, career, in laws, even buying a freaking house or car. Run away as fast as you can. But you already know that.

Your girlfriend sounds like a royal pain in the ass.

There is a better life out there for you. Go find it. Do the right thing by her, and end the relationship, leaving no doubt as to the status, then go no contact, and move on. Blow ups like this indicate fundamental incompatibilities, where no one person is truly at fault. It's you sometimes, it's her other times.

I could have ended the post at .. There is a better life out there for you. Go find it.

Camp counselor wrote:

You are arguing about nothing. How’s it gonna go when something is truly at stake, like kids, career, in laws, even buying a freaking house or car. Run away as fast as you can. But you already know that.

I've said the exact same thing to myself and to my close friend the last time this happened. If this is how badly things go over issues that aren't even big, how are we ever going to have a long term partnership and discuss and work through real issues like the ones you cited. While I do take some responsibility and say perhaps I'm simply not smart, clever, aware, etc enough to work with my gf in a productive way on these things, I also feel that it is going to be essentially impossible for her to have any kind of long term serious and healthy relationship if she reacts this way.

End it now. You will be life of pain.

Do you think she would lose her mind if you suggested couples therapy? If you want to attempt to salvage the relationship, maybe she’d take a 3rd party view better? Alternatively she might accuse you of thinking she’s crazy and trying to gang up on her with a stranger, but who knows it could go well and she could be motivated to go on to individual therapy and work through whatever things she has. Because regularly missing work due to extreme moods is part of the criteria of having a health issue.

Get out of this relationship now. Not worth it.

If you can find a way to tell her, she ought to consider seeing a therapist to help her cope with her emotional instability.

You're done. It's done. She's impossible.

But. If you really want to see if this can work, then both of you need to eliminate social media from your lives and see how well you relate for a reasonable period of time. By eliminate, I mean, completely, no profiles, no postings, not one second spent on it. Make it disappear from your lives.

Social media acts as a trigger and people's desires to manage their SO's social media activity and "read" hidden cues from this behavior and interaction with others intensifies stress and precipitates conflict. Social media is not good for emotional or mental health even without relationships being implicated, and at this point, these facts are well known. So exercise mental fortitude and give it a real chance.

Having said this, I don't believe her frame of mind will respond because she is naturally OCD and unstable. I am not sure I'd even want to master your gf if she is hot and submitted herself totally to me and pleaded for her violation in the ways I normally enjoy women doing. No, just too much trouble there.

Anyway you could try going cold social medial turkey with her.

Dump her NOW!

A BPD like your "gf" will bring nothing but ruin to your life.

I will say that if you are having an argument where it feels logical or reasonable for you to be asking the question "Are you responsible for your own actions?" you're not in a good relationship. You both sound terribly immature--or, rather, it sounds as though she has serious issues that she needs to resolve and you are not the partner to help her work through them. As others have said, you should end the relationship; it's too much for either of you right now.

BUT after you leave, make sure you're thinking carefully about the kind of person you are and the kind of partner you're going to be: anyone repeatedly asking a serious romantic partner a rhetorical question for the purposes of entrapment (which is what you were doing) needs to check him or herself. You were only asking the question to make a point, not to truly solicit information--and I can understand why she found that aggressive and patronizing.

I think it's admirable that you reflected on the challenges she posed to you, and I'm sorry that she didn't seem to afford you the same respect when you raised your own concerns with her, but your brief description of your disputational style suggests that either you've simply had it (which, based only on what you've written, makes sense) or (and?) that you really aren't quite clear on how to be a sympathetic and nurturing romantic partner.

So get out, and good luck.

Anyone as 'sensitive' as she seems to be is obviously really insecure. Buy her a copy of "The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. Psycho babble that actually works.

Dude, this girl sounds crazier than a barn cat. You should probably move on.

This is not a life long romantic relationship it's a series of arguments stitched together by inertia. Take up gardening or Pez dispensers collecting instead.

Who the hell is posting these incessant GF threads the size of tomes?

She's obviously got issues, and to her credit she's been up front about them. If you don't want to deal with her being the way she is, then leave. It's not like you've got kids together, let alone any particular reason to stick around beyond inertia.

She ran to Daddy last night and told me a different version of what happened. Then I spent all night smashing that azz. You can have her back now.

Is she an only child?

Too many threads on guys complaining about women. LRC ladies, why don't you even the odds a bit?

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Too many threads on guys complaining about women. LRC ladies, why don't you even the odds a bit?

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