duded I'm a guy and people approaching me while I'm trying to do things like exercise or buy groceries is annoying to me, not creepy but annoying.
duded I'm a guy and people approaching me while I'm trying to do things like exercise or buy groceries is annoying to me, not creepy but annoying.
Same as in bed - from behind.
Look at all these simpletons in here. Isn't the answer obvious? You fall down hard right in front of her. You've got to make it believable so as not to be too obvious, so you are going to need to make sure you actually get hurt. If she's at all worth talking to she will stop to help you. At first, pretend you don't need any help, you are fine. But then make it known that you are actually really in some pain, this will prolong things so that she doesn't just carry on.
The rest is up to you. But there you go, I just told you how to approach a woman while running without it being creepy.
Here’s how it would go: I run up beside her and then put in a surge, and mimic her running form for a few strides. Then I turn around and hold eye contact while I say “gobble gobble mfer”. I’ve heard that women respond to acts of confidence like this
Falling down in front of her is actually a good technique. Probably the only acceptable strategy
A bunch of betas on here telling you don't. Don't listen to the naysayers. Here's what you do, at the local park when a woman is done running just start up some small talk. Go to local races and do the same. If you see a women running ask if you can run with her. And if she starts to talk go with it.
Lone moran wrote:
Here’s how it would go: I run up beside her and then put in a surge, and mimic her running form for a few strides. Then I turn around and hold eye contact while I say “gobble gobble mfer”. I’ve heard that women respond to acts of confidence like this
That might actually work. Seriously.
A bunch of betas wrote:
If you see a women running ask if you can run with her. And if she starts to talk go with it.
No, do not do this ever. You are a freak
How is the fact that we're dealing with a "runner" here any different than ordinary life? Oh yeah, runners and ex-runners are borderline disabled mentally.
You would not just walk up to a women, or approach otherwise in public*, so don't do it while running.
* At the grocery store, when a women asks you about a grocery item and talks some, that's a good thing. That means you should talk. That's how stuff happens.
The suggestions you have to join a club, or go to regular gatherings, or road races, whatever, is a good one. This is called "social" activities (not to be confused with social media). "Social" gatherings are where people of like-minds might meet. Yes, this may sound like work, but life can be hard.
Get out there, be a normal human, meet people. Do not approach people on runs. You weird runner.
If she's wearing tight bottoms, like tights or booty shorts or bunhuggers or thong, that's a clear invitation to touch her there. That's why she's showing it to you, it's a definite sign. If you don't touch her there, she'll assume you have zero interest. I've always had great response when I do that, smiles and giggles. Even if I have a girlfriend at the time, I make a point to do that just to let them know their apparel is getting them the notice they desire.
If you're going to, do so with patience and subtlety. And make sure your intentions are pure. People can pick up on that sort of stuff with your body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, etc. If you have selfish intent (hookup rather than meaningful relationship) she will be able to tell.
I met my girlfriend during a tempo with my college team. Saw her running towards us, so I stepped out of the group and offered a smile and a hi five, which she gladly accepted.
Saw her coming back and went to do it again but stumbled, and fell flat on my face on the bike path. She screamed, hurdled me and kept on running.
About a month later I saw her on the trail again and waved, reopening that memory.
Then she found me and message me on instagram and today we've been together a little over 2 years
Basically what I'm saying is don't be too creepy and give her something to remember you by!!
A friend of mine met his future wife at a race called the out and back party run in Philadelphia. It was a Friday night 4 mile race on and out and back course that had a party after the race. Something like that is probably your best bet.
Eye contact. Works every time.
If you and her are running in the same direction, catch up to her and ask "Your pace or mine, baby?"
If going the opposite way and you pass her, quickly go around the block, and pass her again and say "we've GOT to stop meeting like this. The wife is suspicious".
Works every time.
Invite her on a run and immediately drop her.
Every once in a while look back, sigh, and wait for her to catch up.
Repeat.
jamin wrote:
Invite her on a run and immediately drop her.
Every once in a while look back, sigh, and wait for her to catch up.
Repeat.
Best post by jamin in months.
vivalarepublica wrote:
jamin wrote:
Invite her on a run and immediately drop her.
Every once in a while look back, sigh, and wait for her to catch up.
Repeat.
Best post by jamin in months.
And explains why he has lady problems.
Banana Bread wrote:
Lone moran wrote:
I’m a lonely post grad runner in a mid sized city. I’ve been through the mill on online dating, over 25 dates in the last few months and nothing really clicked. In college I exclusively dated runners and I think that’s what I still need. Only trouble is it’s tough to find women that are serious runners in my city. I’ve seen a few cuties keeping up a good pace, but I’m hesitant to approach them. They’re out there to work out, not to be picked up. Still, I’m wondering if there’s a way to make a connection with someone I pass by on a run. Help me letsrun youre my only hope
I'm in the same situation where I have tried looking for girls while I'm on a run. First of all I don't think it is creepy looking for a way to connect while running. Look at drunk idiots in nightclubs trying to connect by shuffling around aimlessly on a nightclub floor looking like a drowning kitten. The way I see idiots dancing on the dancefloor looks stupid. At least while you are running you are not drunk(hopefully) and your form and mind will be clear and not all over the place. You are focused and doing something healthy and worthwhile. I haven't had luck with finding a runner girl yet but will keep trying. I've approached girls on runs and tried to talk to them but haven't met anyone proper yet.
My GF who is a runner hates this. Although I will say in my experience that I have been approached by women running downtown I never approach them no matter how hot.
Back in 2012 I was in a local running group and went to one of the weekly runs. There was supposed to be some faster fellows showing up and my plan was to run with them. Well they didn't show up. And in fact, only one other person showed up.
Inwardly I groaned as i knew I'd feel guilty about leaving her behind, so we did 12 miles together and talked.
By May 2013 we had moved in together, and by October 2013 we were marred. It's now over 5 years married and it's going great, although both of us have essentially quit running, with plans to start "any day now."
Therefore, if you want to meet a running woman, join a running club.
Zee wrote:
Lone Moron- just curious....so your running and you see a women running alone just ahead of you. You think (oh my goodness this could be my big chance) and speed up to talk to her. I want to know what do you plan on saying? Please share your conversation plans...
Hello, I've been advised not to talk to you, but that just made me even more determined. I'm not sure what to say. What do you think we should talk about?