should i break up with my gf if i find myself emotionally infatuated with someone else

Older people plz respond wrote:

Thank you all for the advice. I hope to make the right choice. I am thinking about cutting it off.

Use optimal stopping theory.

older people plz respond wrote:

Also, my gf is a runner, new chick is not.

In 10 years new girl will be 30 lbs overweight and your gf will still be hot.

Older people plz respond wrote:

Thank you all for the advice. I hope to make the right choice. I am thinking about cutting it off.

Is she interested in a long blonde hair male?

Older people plz respond wrote:

Thank you all for the advice. I hope to make the right choice. I am thinking about cutting it off.

That would hurt like the blazes. Please don't do that.

Break it off, the answer is obvious. Definitely go for the one who excites you.

Go out with new girl, have fun, rinse and repeat with someone new when it’s necessary. You’re young, not married, the world is yours at this point!

My experience:

Had a GF in college for two years who totally held it down for me. Wanted to get married, etc, and everything was great. Hadn’t tons and tons of sex. A laughable amount actually now that I’m 40 and once a week is a more than a decent amount. But anyway.

Met a girl at a party who was cute, into me and most importantly- new. Couldn’t stop thinking about her to the extent that I broke it off with my girl and spent a summer banging new girl. That buzz wore quickly off and we couldn’t stand each other by fall.

I ended up enjoying the rest of college and now 20 years later I am married with kids and all is good. I definitely could see an alternative life with that original girl (also married with kids and still looks good), but everything worked out and I am quite happy.

Btw, Can’t remember the summer flings name or I’d look her up. Bummer.

Also, bang as many chicks as you can.

older people plz respond wrote:

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

This thread is useless without pics of your girlfriend.

no pics, but my gf is like a 7/10, while new chick is about a 8/10. Also, my gf is a runner, new chick is not.

Stick with the current gf. Runners least likely to turn into blisters or bunny boilers (since they have something to fill their spare time). Also less likely to come up with reasons to stop you running.

moist wrote:

older people plz respond wrote:

Also, my gf is a runner, new chick is not.

In 10 years new girl will be 30 lbs overweight and your gf will still be hot.

Who cares about 10 years?! This kid is at school or college.

Unless she is the love of his life (clearly isn't) then he will be miserable in 10 years sticking with this chick, wishing he'd ditched her and just tried it with the other girl/all the other girls on Earth.

This is your fault for allowing yourself to get into this situation. If you want to sleep around, that’s your choice. But once you have a gf, you have to commit to her and eliminate temptation as much as possible. You can’t avoid noticing an attractive woman now and then, but you can sure avoid talking to her or texting each other.

Here's a better question OP:

Why wouldn't you ask out a girl who you are emotionally infatuated with and is hotter than your current gf?

If you are honest and the answer is because it's comfortable to stay with your gf and you are afraid you may end up without anyone if this other girl is just leading you on, well fortune favours the brave. Don't settle if you aren't convinced by it. Especially not as a young man.

Not enough info to help you make the best decision. You are not married; you can choose to play the field or stick with your girl friend and while a few people may get hurt your choice won't really ripple into other the lives of your family and friends.

Hopefully you learn from this. It is not uncommon to meet new and exciting people. I had a similar experience to you a decade ago; only I was in my third year of marriage (to a woman who I had been with for 10 years). The outside infatuation did not end my marriage (but it was ugly) and I learned a lot about protecting a relationship and what is/isn't an appropriate relationship with a non-romantic person from the opposite sex.

Just be prepared for the scenario that you break up with your GF, and it turns out the new girl was actually friendzoning you or will lose interest after a date or two and you'll be left completely single.

If you're fine with that potential outcome, then I say go for it.

men have no emotions

boomheadshot wrote:

Just be prepared for the scenario that you break up with your GF, and it turns out the new girl was actually friendzoning you or will lose interest after a date or two and you'll be left completely single.

If you're fine with that potential outcome, then I say go for it.

That has happened to me. Dropped my bf of 2 years as soon as I met another guy who made me super excited. I was a teenager then. Turned out new guy was a jerk. The ex wanted me back but I said no - if I could feel that much for someone new that fast, that means the attraction ISN’T there for my ex (he was not good-looking and I liked him for his personality). You need both attraction AND personality-similarities for a relationship to last long enough.

Looking back I’d still drop my ex anyway. Everything is a learning experience and I’m happy with where I am today.

Break up with the gf and play the field. And post the ex gfs contact info. I’m gonna tap that on the rebound. Cause that’s what happens when you dump her.

Definitely do not break up with your girlfriend because you feel guilty. Break up with her if you do not want to be with her anymore.

It's perfectly normal to become excited by other women and it is a sign that everything is still working "down there." Don't focus on it or develop OCD over it. It does not mean you want to cheat or will cheat.

The only suggestion I can make is to slow down the texts with this other women and gradually let them taper off and stop. Don't just cut them off, as that would be weird. Just take longer and longer to respond and then let it end. If you can't let it end, then you will need to examine why you are feeling this way and make the right decision.

You are in school worried about your girlfriend of 4 FREAKING YEARS? Dude, son, seriously. You are young once. Dump that chick (your are going to break up at some point anyway, sorry to spoil the party; get it over with sooner and enjoy your youth) and bang as many girls as you can between now and age, say, 30. Then think about settling down. By then you'll know yourself much better, hopefully not be broke, and make much better decisions regarding women.

a turd in hand is worth two in the bush

As you stated, this is a short term infatuation.

I bet this new girl is more attractive physically so your hormones are sending you signals to get with her. From experience, if you had sex with this new girl then you’d lose all interest in her and you’ll wish you had your gf back.

Stay the course. Don’t let this short term distraction mess up your life.