A guy asked me if I want to grab coffee: is he implying a date? How do I gently try to confirm if it's only a friend thing?

Why is this so difficult. "Hey, great meeting you. Just an FYI I am seeing someone."

He will they say it was a friends thing (which is bs) and that's that.

Does it hurt being so naive?

Guy Here wrote:

He is 100% hitting on you. Tell him you are hanging out with your boyfriend this weekend and he'll get the message.

Right answer.

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I don't want to be presumptuous and also make it awkward in the future when I talk to him, since we technically live in the same joined house and I might run into him again.

I'm thinking of saying I am not available this weekend... would it be overkill to add something about my boyfriend (it would be unnecessary), or better to just not suggest an alternative time?

Would you hang out with this dude platonically if you were single and still not interested in dating him?

confused runner chick wrote:

I don't want to be presumptuous and also make it awkward in the future when I talk to him, since we technically live in the same joined house and I might run into him again.

I'm thinking of saying I am not available this weekend... would it be overkill to add something about my boyfriend (it would be unnecessary), or better to just not suggest an alternative time?

As a fellow woman, I feel your pain. One thing that has worked for me in these situations is to mention that I am transgender( I an not). Most men tend to back off then.

confused runner chick wrote:

I don't want to be presumptuous and also make it awkward in the future when I talk to him, since we technically live in the same joined house and I might run into him again.

I'm thinking of saying I am not available this weekend... would it be overkill to add something about my boyfriend (it would be unnecessary), or better to just not suggest an alternative time?

You’ve been given the answer several times now. You know what to do, you just don’t want to do it. It sounds like you’re actually trying to leave your options open with this guy. In that case, don’t mention the boyfriend, and do express interest in meeting him another time, even if you don’t mean it.

What's the most natural way to do this and write the text then? I always feel like over text, it comes across as awkward.

I don't want to keep my options open with this guy, I just don't want it to come across forced/make it seem like I'm being presumptuous to think this guy assumes it's a date.

5/10

You are obviously trolling and you have gotten many responses. However, it is so easy to troll so your score is not high, especially because on this website some guys who think they are interacting with a female get aroused.

jiiaf wrote:

5/10

You are obviously trolling and you have gotten many responses. However, it is so easy to troll so your score is not high, especially because on this website some guys who think they are interacting with a female get aroused.

You got me. It was an experiment but you got me. How stupid are you people?

Ugh ^ the poster above is not actually me. I am a real woman and do read this messageboard and figured I will get some funny replies and some actually useful ones and get the male perspective as well.

PIcs? This thread is USELESS without pics.

Maybe I am subconsciously attracted to the guy, hence my user name. I like to think I would not cheat on my boyfriend, but who knows? I am confused but I swear I just want to get along with the guy because we practically live together.

I would like it if there were more replies. Anyone?

5/10 for this many replies. Well done.

If you are both black, go to a Starbucks and ask to use the restroom.

It's socially expected of you to try to hide it for as long as you can and try to take advantage of him for as long as you can.

That's what he gets for being nice right?

Seriously if you don't want to come out as a b**ch just say you don't want to so everyone can go their merry way without wasting their time.

Ps: Guys don't try to make friends with girls, at least in a premeditated way. Any female friendship a guy keeps is just because he believes he will have a romantic shot in the future even if he's being delusional. Just stating the facts for you.

confused runner chick wrote:

Ugh ^ the poster above is not actually me. I am a real woman and do read this messageboard and figured I will get some funny replies and some actually useful ones and get the male perspective as well.

Ugh^ definitely the same poster who trolled as xc chick a few months ago.

Say Saturday morning would be perfect but you're busy the rest of the day after 11. Then meet him at your local coffee shop in yoga pants. Enjoy your latte and intense flirting session. When you're ready to go tell him you're about to peg your bf and you're not sure of the pronunciation but you believe it's ménage a trois.