So my GF just told me she is pregnant

You are one dumb fuck.

Shocked and stunned wrote:

I wish it was as easy as saying she is lying. She already showed me the test and I doubt she has pregnant friends that will give her a positive piss test to trick me.

What is weird is the steady ramp up marriage hints. I took her to my dad's shore house and she fell in love with it. She told me twice that it was perfect for a dream wedding. I know the place is impressive and my concern is she sees money and her little girl dream wedding and not me.

Anyway, we are meeting at her place to talk tonight. She said she is upset at me acting like I am sitting on the fence about this. How should I play this tonight?

Sounds like you got this rich girl pregnant on purpose after one of the condoms you poked a hole in "broke." Now you are pretending to be on the fence while in fact measuring the rooms at her daddy's beach house to see how your gaming chair will best fit in front of his flat screen before you move in their and live off her poppa's money.

basement room wrote:

One of the girls we went to high school with came up a couple weekends in a row and ended up sleeping with two of us. I was the first weekend. He was the next.

- But we were both beside ourselves

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Actually it sounds like you were right after each other instead of next to each other.

basement room wrote:

When I was 19, I was living off-campus with a group of close friends from high school. There were actually two 4-bedroom apartments to house 10 of us. We lived right next door to each other.

One of the girls we went to high school with came up a couple weekends in a row and ended up sleeping with two of us. I was the first weekend. He was the next. A week later she told her friends she was pregnant which later made its way back to us.

- I used a condom

- My friend used a condom

- We were both NOT morons

- But we were both beside ourselves

It ended up she was lying just for the attention. You need to evaluate the situation like you have and find proof before you decide to go into train wreck mode.

Morons? Maybe not. Selfish? Yep - misuse of your sexual faculties.

It was HIS dad's house.

This thread needs to be merged with "Living in the South" thread.

try too keep up wrote:

contrarian wrote:

Sounds like you got this rich girl pregnant on purpose after one of the condoms you poked a hole in "broke." Now you are pretending to be on the fence while in fact measuring the rooms at her daddy's beach house to see how your gaming chair will best fit in front of his flat screen before you move in their and live off her poppa's money.

It was HIS dad's house.

Oops

At least I didn't claim that I am not a moron.

Shocked and stunned wrote:

Should I confront her on my fear of her motivation?

What is that going to accomplish?

Unless you want to break up with her, then this is a good way to accomplish that.

You are going to be a father either way.

One way - you break up and she becomes a single mother and you a single father.

You either decide to help raise the child and be in the kid's life or not.

Another way - you stay together, or at least try

If you may go that way, then do not confront her about her motivation.

This was planned on her part. She is 30 years old. At this point in her/your life "oopsie" babies usually don't happen.

How do you know it is yours?

If you are against this, you want out, and are determined to only provide what Uncle Sam mandates, demand a paternity test.

However, doing this will almost 100% be burning a bridge that you can never mend.

You know what i Mean wrote:

This was planned on her part. She is 30 years old. At this point in her/your life "oopsie" babies usually don't happen.

Do you write for "The Onion?"

Dont worry, 'dad', I have great genes. I did the nature, now you dont fvck up the nurture and 'your' kid will go sub 13 for sure, just like his bio dad.

I'm gonna tell you right now dude, there is a high probability she did that on purpose.

I was in a similar situation at one point, and it turned out the girl I was dating (age 28) was also hooking up with 2 other guys at the same time unbeknownst to me. She swore she was on birth control when we were dating, and of course one day turned up pregnant and had already decided to keep it. I absolutely do not want kids and she knew this, so I was terrified.

One night I was in a group of people at a bar, and some of her friends were there. They got drunk and told me about she had planned this whole thing for a while because apparently she was dying to have a baby. She was never on birth control and had every intention of getting knocked up.

I was absolutely furious, but a paternity test revealed it was one of the other dudes. I never spoke to her again after that, and it taught me a valuable lesson about being more responsible on my end, and more importantly, just what desperate chicks are capable of doing.

Get a paternity test.

dad talking wrote:

not sure why you think the risk is all on the female in sexual relationships

The point is that she sabotaged the precautions, and purposely got pregnant without being truthful with her intentions to him.

Therefore she should be held 100 percent responsible.

good luck man wrote:

Dude, I'm about as misogynist as they come, but that is just a backwards way of thinking. You think that you should be able to tell her to kill it because you don't want it?

This has nothing to do with misogyny, but the fact that she purposely sabotaged their agreement, and lied to him about taking the birth control pills.

Youra Gebrsdaddynow wrote:

There is no need to ask about support. The government will make sure you do.

Yep, that sums it up.

That's not the point ` wrote:

dad talking wrote:

not sure why you think the risk is all on the female in sexual relationships

The point is that she sabotaged the precautions, and purposely got pregnant without being truthful with her intentions to him.

Therefore she should be held 100 percent responsible.

This was exactly my point, and what was so terrifying if you read my post. There are absolutely zero repercussions against females for doing stuff like this. The male will be ruined financially, and the child will end up with an absolute basket case for a mother. It's a sh*tty situation all around.