Story of My Life wrote:
Thinking of moving in with my significant other, and was wondering what others' experiences are here on the boards. We will have been together for only about 4 months by the time we would move in together, which I imagine is a bit on the fast side of things. Anyone have experience with moving in together so soon in a relationship? And any practical tips on things to settle before moving in (obviously we will talk finances, house work, etc.)? For added context, I am 27 and she is 23.
Serious and non-serious responses welcome.
I'm almost 3 years into my relationship and I've lived with my significant other for 1.5 of those years. We are both leos. Let me tell you how this will go:
1. You both will go through the bumpy road of being absolutely annoyed with each others habits. It takes some getting use to. Compromise is key and being able to accept things you don't like with help with the longevity of your relationship
2. Your stuff is now hers, the living space is now hers. Like getting married your girlfriend will start nesting. You will realize after a while that she is making the household decisions. This is common. You will insert your dominance. If she is an Alpha you are going to headbutt.
3. She will expect you to equally spend on household items. Toiletrys, Kitchenwares/Groceries, Furniture, etc. The whole nine yards.
4. You will invade each others space. I hope you love her and can accept that you no longer can run home and hide from her after a fight.
5. Porn is a no go. She is a hawk, watching your every move. Start plotting her work schedule and get in ample sessions.
All in all it's a first look at marriage. I suggest it because you will find out half a year in if this girl is sustainable long term. My girlfriend and I share similar tendencies so for me its about compromising, accepting that I cannot control the relationship 100% and making sure I don't let my bad habits invade our living space.
Best of luck!