Men: why are promiscuous women considered undesirable?

They aren’t considered undesirable wrote:

OP, the answer to your question is promiscuous women aren't considered undesirable by real, normal men. Real, normal men are comfortable and secure with women’s sexuality.

The real question what kind of pervert considers a women who is a virgin desirable? Sex with inexperienced women is terrible—any man over the age of ~23 knows this.

Thus, it can be definitely said that if your a dude over 23 and still claim to prefer a virgin over a women with experience you are either 1) a repressed homosexual and can’t tell the difference because you’d rather be banging a dude anyway 2) a pedophile 3) a virgin yourself. These are the only possibilities. Everyone agrees.

Blah, blah, blah...

Greater # of partners = . Increased risk of contracting an STD

You want to lay down with someone carrying an STD, that's your personal choice.

I choose to struggle with how I go to sleep at night knowing there are people out here who think I'm a repressed homosexual, a pedophile , a virgin, or take your pick.

Actually, I lied. I sleep just fine at night.

This is the last paragraph of the article. It clarifies that there isn’t really that much of a difference despite the tone of the article. “Either way, it doesn’t seem like all the prenuptial bonking is hurting marriages writ large. In Wolfinger’s study, most people—64 percent—reported having a “very happy” marriage, meaning that for the most part, we still live happily ever after.”

Hardloper wrote:

HeyKitty Girl wrote:

Would love to see these alleged studies (and not just one biased one.) From my experience with different circles of female friends, the VAST majority of women were unhappy staying with their 'first.' The happiest women/most stable relationships? The ones who waited a little longer, learned what they wanted in a partner, learned who they were as a person.

But I seriously only know of two women who stayed with their 'first' who seem happy.

This was in the Atlantic the other day:

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/10/sexual-partners-and-marital-happiness/573493/

Coming from a promiscuous women! Because being promiscuous can have bad consciousnesses. Stds, pregnancy,lots of kids, death, a bad reputation. And a lot of promiscuous men and women that suffer these consequences give sex a bad name. For good reason! Its not something to fool around with! Fooling around alot is bad because its risky! In less your very smart and safe about it and you dodge all of those bullets ( consequences ). No one wants to be with someone that has slept around and ends up with STDS or lots of children maybe from different men or women. Or someone they think is very open minded about sex and may also be open minded to other life style choices that a lot of people are not okay with. Men and women that are not promiscuous dont have those problems and are a safer less risky " better" option! Who would you rather be with a virgin or someone with very few sexual partners with no stds or kids and a great head on her shoulders that you can trust more not to end up with any or someone that has slept around a bunch and now has stds a few kids and still wont close her legs?

I happened to dodge all of those bullets. Im 27 and have had 20 partners.No stds,or children, been vaccinated for hpv as a teen, get tested yearly, use birth control and am saving up to have my tubes tide! And I have a boyfriend. 7 months and counting and dont sleep around when Im taken because im very loyal . My promiscuity has never been a problem for me when it comes to guys liking me for more then sex because I go for guys that dont really care and like me for who I am. But there are tons of guys that do care very much . And a lot of them are really great guys that im just going to have to miss out on. But Im perfectly fine with that because there are tons of great guys that dont care to :) its a win win

Who said promiscuous women are undesirable? To me, it means they're experienced.

A key that opens many locks is a master key, yet a lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock.

Also there are plenty of fat ugly whores but not fat ugly studs. Women can getvsec when ever however. Men have to put forth some effort. Meaning there is more skill on the mans end making it seem like something to cheer.

I think most men who consider this aspect are looking for long term partners. More partners would appear to be damaged goods in some way. Same goes for men. Society sees neither sex being promiscuous as a win. Youths viewing sexual conquests as a win is not society.

For the same reason why majority of the women do not like "The Nice Guy®".

Something with that guy is a turn off, right? You can't really pin point what. It just is a turn off.

That is not entirely true I really don't think that is true at all actually. I cannot act as if I have never seen a man leave his wife and family behind a slut. As a matter of fact I have seen this more often than not. Now, how long a relationship like that will last is questionable but sometimes it lasts forever. Who would of thought right? If you meet the right kind of woman with that right something whatever the circumstances maybe you just may try it and take that chance of committing to a slutty woman. If you never have and never will then I would have to give you your props and say that you are a real man that knows what he is doing. Very few are actually like this that is why just about all the women you meet or see now days are very permiscuous and just out right slutty. For many the sluttier the better. If someone can prove to me that the average guy would prefer the good house wife who really knows what sacrifice means, then I would sure like to give him a pat on the back and a high five for being such a strong man. I don't agree with your statement at all. Men rather have trash it used to be that they at least had enough pride to have a good woman at home and keep the slut in the streets where she belonged but now they are marrying them. A lot of of them are not even pretty sluts because I've seen some of the most ugliest ,trashiest, nasty, bottom of the barrel sluts have a really descent men that is loyal to them. I bet someone is going to think that I'm a bitter woman for writing this but I'm actually heartbroken to see such uselessness . My only problem is not settling for less because that's the only way I feel better about me. I'm not that insecure or codependent on anyone it's not healthy.

You don't want to go to your kids baseball game and be hanging out with four dudes who all nailed your wife.

Sleeping around is an indicator of low self-worth. In other words, if sex is all someone has to offer, then it's ALL they have to offer. Pursuit of anything more wouldn't be worthwhile. These people have very little self-worth and would be completely untrustworthy in a relationship.

If you've had 20 Partners at your age your shelf life is already over. You are already not relationship /marriage material.

That's my opinion as a chaste man who values relationships and people over just putting it out.

If you're sleeping around, it's a matter of when, not if a person gets an STD and how many. The girl with 20 partners most likely is a carrier for herpes, probably has a strain or two of HPV (the shot is only effective against 4 of the 40 or so sexually transmitted strains of HPV) and possibly other stuff she is not aware of.

Here is a recent article on the STD epidemic:

https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/americas-sexually-transmitted-disease-rates-are-out-of-control/ar-AAIAW4M?ocid=spartandhp

Regardless of any religious affiliations one may have, sleeping around is a bad idea as it has a lot of health and financial implications that go far beyond the simple act of sex. Good for her for wanting tubal litigation, as at least she won't spread what she has to any kid (herpes and syphilis do horrific things to babies).

As much as people want to protest that they are just affecting their body and that their promiscuity should not be a public concern, it is worth noting that their body is also their future child's body and when they ask for public assistance in the forms of Medicaid for them and their fatherless children, food assistance through WIC, any other forms of public assistance and even government mandated non-exclusion of pre-existing conditions on health insurance it affects everybody that pays taxes or buys health insurance. Essentially making their body, all of our body.

Their body, their choice. If she's still into risky sexual behavior, then no. But people are allowed to live and learn, if it's part of her past then sure you want to have your eyes open for remnants of that behavior but if she consistently lives the values you do at present then grow up and find a place of acceptance. You sure aren't perfect.

Think about. If someone sh1ts in a toilet before you, is that toilet now less desirable?

Of course not, it’s more desirable. Fecal transplants are the way to go to improve gut microbiome, so consume a diversity of poop, orally or better still rectally.

Why do people like a new car instead of a used car?

A promiscuous woman is the same threat of independence as a man who lives off the grid so he doesn’t need a job or a black man who votes so his interests are represented. Those who hate these examples want control and obedience

No one likes sliding a hotdog down a hallway.

Put a Vienna Sausage into a hotdog bun, everyone laughs.