Bachelor Party snafu

Thedirty wrote:

Tell him to run away from that crazy chick! Seems like she has trust and jealousy (and control) issues.

I second this motion.

Granted, he fessed up later, but you REALLY see no problem with him lying to begin with right before the marriage? Why not own what you do from the start, and if this is a problem, its not the right relationship for either person. Too many people just look for the security of having someone, so they lie about who they are. The guy definitely sounds immature, as do those giving him no flack for lying.

Duh, how do you trust someone who lies? Of course she has trust issues. She should either forgive him or end it, no limbo. News flash, kids, lying guts relationships. If he wasnt lying and she acted like this, then yeah, she's the problem.

Your friend is screwed, at least you had one last fun night out with him.

Yea my second or third post said I agreed with Insanity Meds about the lying. Totally unacceptable. I'm on the bride's side there...

The fact she thought the bachelor party should be about their marriage, and not about the groom (which is typically the intent) is where I was rubbed the wrong way.

That and the fact that she was disrespected by him even entering a strip club.

Protect Yo Neck wrote:

Yea my second or third post said I agreed with Insanity Meds about the lying. Totally unacceptable. I'm on the bride's side there...

The fact she thought the bachelor party should be about their marriage, and not about the groom (which is typically the intent) is where I was rubbed the wrong way.

That and the fact that she was disrespected by him even entering a strip club.

You're on the brides side????

You get your bro drunk and chip in to hire a stripper and now you're on the brides side? Guess what she is not on yours. What a loser friend you are.

You put your buddy in a position where he may have felt he had to lie about it to his girl. He chose you. And you are not on his side. What a loser you are. You should man up and apologize to the bride and tell her you guys made him do it. Otherwise no need for you to go to the wedding. Just lurk from afar. Guys like you are the worst.

And you are clearly trolling with the still developing 45 minutes later post update.

We may need a better definition of the term "lying."

They guy told her that had a party, he just didn't tell her all the details.

He didn't lie, he omitted some things.

Lying is when you say something that isn't true.

He filled in the details later and the chick got upset.

He did not purger himself.

What he did was have some fun that she didn't want him to have.

Sheesh, it may be hard to follow I'll break it down..

1) Party at bachelors house (Friday)

2) bachelor party (strip club is in this part; Saturday)

3) Monday hear the bachelor told her the stuff we did for the party

a) bachelor tells finance about strip club

b) bachelor tells the wife he lied about the strip club

c) bachelor then tells her exactly what happened (tried to get $ back)

So yes, I'm on the brides side about the lying. Don't do something if you are uncomfortable with it, or unable to deal with the consequences... and definitely don't lie about it. He is in control of his reaction and what he tells his girl. We did not strap him down and make him do anything. If he is adult enough to get married, he is adult enough to say what he is and isn't comfortable doing. So maybe he isn't.

Still hold the same stance about the bride in terms of her being too thin skinned and self centered about the actual situation, just not the lying part.

we all chipped in for a lap dance which the groom went back and tried to get our money back and didn't accept it. allegedly.

This is what the chick is upset about. Either he fessed up to her that he did get a lap dance (oh my!) or she just never really trusted him anyway and even if he denies the lap dance she thinks he did get one (oh my!)

PS- the (oh my!s) work best if you use an Aunt Bea from Mayberry RFD voice.

You do not get it. He is afraid of her reaction so he lied - maybe. That is between him and her. You do not have to pick a side here. Not should you. But you have. Hers.

There are 5 sides you could choose from:

His

Hers

The relationship

Yours

Neutral Switzerland

You chose hers. Without needing to. You are a class 1A loser of a friend not because you took him to a strip club or because he lied but because you are choosing sides in someone else's relationship. You have a lot to learn. Wingmen protect the relationship. You didn't the minute you picked a side. Just calling it like it is.

If you don't get this you just don't get it.

Lol, why would someone take back a lap-dance bro? They're OSFA

So if they break off the engagement OP you expect to go around saying the bride was right and your buddy lied to her and you are on her side?

Would you be willing to date her if they broke up?

You want to help your buddy his girl and their relationship right? Be a good guy?

Either stay out of it or go all in. If you can't keep your mouth shut then call the girl tell her it is all harmless and nothing happened, offer to take her to the club if she really is bothered so she can see for herself how harmless it is and get over it. Get her a lap dance when she is there to show her not that big a deal. Offer for her to grind on you if she wants to see it is no big deal. All good. But you gotta either shut up or go all in.

from a fundamental standpoint that lying is wrong I'm on the brides side. I have not told either of them my stance on this, and don't plan to. When it comes to their relationship I want my friend to be happy. end of story. So I'm not allowed to have morals while also supporting my friend?

So what exactly was the lie he told?

He just told the group in a facebook message that he told her, and then he lied afterwards, and tried to recover from there.. which failed miserably

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You guys really let your hair down, huh? I can picture you nerds right now, white tennis shoes, poorly fit Levis with your button down shirts tucked in, nursing Michelob Ultras, trying to get lap dance refunds and making sure you're home by 9. Get outta here!

I just asked you questions to try to understand what was going on.

I still don't think you have made it clear what the "lie" was.

Absolutely good idea to play the morals card. Good thing you didn't lose that at the club. Cause it is possible that some women would feel that on the cusp of a serious commitment that taking that guy to a strip club is not exactly the respect and honor women way to go. Some women, including the dancers, might think differently.

To each his own.

HAHAHA you guys ever see those "where's the lie" memes... those are funny AF.. You sound fun Protect Yo Neck... Protect Yo Dignity brah