jayceeb wrote:
In response to those who say men/women or any two people who might potentially have a sexual attraction can't be friends; that's nonsense. In response to the person who stated that if you're married your spouse won't be o.k. with going out for drink/hanging out. Also nonsense.
I've worked with folks in a high pressure chaotic environment where things get emotional and we can get close quickly. Many of those friendships endured for years, around my romantic/sexual relationships and for the years of my marriage. Ditto the guys in my running club.
Some folks seem to have very narrow lives.
So let me get this straight... You are married, yet you call up women - with whom you've shared chaotic experiences where things get emotional, no less - and you go out for drinks with her? Alone? That, good man, is not the norm, but good for you.
I'm a married man and I have my share of female friends, but I typically interact with them in group settings. I wouldn't call them up and go out with them sans the wife (or at least other folks). I don't consider myself to have a narrow life.
You are obviously proof that it can happen, but I would agree with others that the OPs chances of continuing a close friendship with this woman (once she finds a boyfriend) are very, very slim.
Also, what do you do for work? It sounds interesting. I'm guessing not a lot of trolling LRC :)