Asked For Father's Blessing To Propose, He said...

That's because you associate with shallow sheeple who don't know history. They are probably thrilled in getting a diamond engagement ring too. Actually, thrilled isn't the right word there. Not sure what the word is, but it would mean that they would not marry a man who didn't give them a diamond ring first.

I mean, tangent/rant here, but how ridiculous that someone would spend their life with a person who didn't give them a shiny object with no practical value. Right, hombre?

Funny story, I knew two women who were pissed because they were ring-shopping right around the time that the Blood Diamond movie came out and for like ten days it was unfashionable to want a diamond. So they had to wait a couple extra weeks to get engaged.

Wow, lighten up dude. The guy proactively asked for forgiveness if others had already posted a similiar thing. Try to act like jesus or something and actually forgive the man.

Dirt Bag wrote:

Ronald McD wrote:

I haven't read much past the OP, so forgive me if I'm repeating here

OMG THIS COULD NOT BE MORE RUDE! IF YOU CAN TYPE OUT A REPLY, YOU CAN READ THE 95 REPLIES ALREADY WRITTEN. HOW TEDIOUS CAN YOU MAKE THIS FORUM? MY GOD, I CAN REMEMBER A TIME WHEN PEOPLE USED TO READ PREVIOUS REPLIES PRIOR TO POSTING. IF SOMEONE SAID THE SAME DAMN THING THEY WANTED TO SAY, THEN THEY DIDN"T BOTHER TO REPEAT IT. THE LETSRUN MESSAGE BOARD COULD BE SUCH A GREAT AND INSIGHTFUL PLACE, FULL OF WISDOM, IF NOT FOR JACK-A-LACKS LIKE YOU!

Don't know much about History wrote:

That's because you associate with shallow sheeple who don't know history. They are probably thrilled in getting a diamond engagement ring too. Actually, thrilled isn't the right word there. Not sure what the word is, but it would mean that they would not marry a man who didn't give them a diamond ring first.

I mean, tangent/rant here, but how ridiculous that someone would spend their life with a person who didn't give them a shiny object with no practical value. Right, hombre?

Funny story, I knew two women who were pissed because they were ring-shopping right around the time that the Blood Diamond movie came out and for like ten days it was unfashionable to want a diamond. So they had to wait a couple extra weeks to get engaged.

Wrong about them being shallow people. Some of these women are close to what I would consider to be feminist so are more independent and wouldn't want others to think that a guy would control them. Others are more traditional. It was just a little extra thing that they liked and they liked the traditional aspect of asking for blessing (not permission) behind including her family. Note that this has a different connotation than it used to have. I think most people understand this case unless you are trying to be argumentative like you are now.

In all cases, the couples had already discussed marriage in the past and it was a matter of when they would get married. In all of these cases as well, they were extremely close with their then boyfriend and in a good number of cases they were best friends (including more so than with their female friends). The ring, the size of it, etc. was not what mattered. It was being with the person they were with and the fact that he was also accepted by her family was a great addition to this.

NYU Runn3r wrote:

Update.

My girlfriend's father called last night. He said I have this full blessing to go ahead and propose. I think I just caught him off guard and I don't think he thought his daughter and I were that far along or at that point yet in our relationship.

He just took some time to think it over and talk with his wife which I respect.

Thanks for the advice. Now she just has to say yes.

Congrats! Glad it worked out -and you're pretty impressive to wait patiently. Clearly a bit of a character for a father in law!

I'm a gal on lets run and have been following this. Clearly everyone is different, and power to you for knowing what works for you.

I live on the other side of the country from my parents and my now husband had only met them a couple times prior to us getting engaged. He didn't ask my dad, and I would have been pretty angry if he had. I agree with the "I'm not property" angle...

That said, my girlfriend's how-husband called her dad with the "out of respect" ask and she thought it was really sweet of him, and was really glad he had.

My kid brother, having grown up with feminist-me, asked his now-wife, and before she said yes, she wanted to know if he'd asked her father... he said no, and so made him go ask her dad, and then she accepted. I was furious at how that all went down - but she said it was out of respect to her family.

I don't understand it at all... but I guess as everyone ends up with the in-laws generally on their side... that's what matters in the long run!

congrats wrote:My kid brother asked his now-wife, and before she said yes, she wanted to know if he'd asked her father... he said no, and so made him go ask her dad, and then she accepted.

Deal breaker. Isn't it enough for this lady that her boyfriend had to put it all on the line and ask her to marry him? She already has total control whether she is going to say yes or no, and then she actually made some demands of the poor guy? How about some respect for the man she is going to marry? I mean, really, giving a guy a conditional yes is crap.

I would have explained why I don't believe in asking a father's permission, explained that's who I am. Then I would have thanked her for saving the both of us a future divorce and gotten out of dodge.

NYU Runn3r wrote:

Update.

My girlfriend's father called last night. He said I have this full blessing to go ahead and propose. I think I just caught him off guard and I don't think he thought his daughter and I were that far along or at that point yet in our relationship.

He just took some time to think it over and talk with his wife which I respect.

Thanks for the advice. Now she just has to say yes.

Wow that must have been a very tough decision for them. They call you back after 4 DAYS, just leaving you hanging wondering what their answer is going to be. Future dad and mom must have had a number of discussions and they just couldn't decide. Finally future dad probably said, well I can't just leave him hanging for another 4 more days, I don't know what to tell him but I'm just going to say yes and leave it up to princess. Hopefully she'll make the right decision.

By the way, very nice troll! I'm one of the few that know the truth.

I agree with you 100%! I told him to take his ring and go home. I am not a fan of this gal, and have told my kid brother directly what my concerns are. Did it when they were dating, and did it when they got engaged. They've been married a year now, and will it last? I don't know. But once he said is vows (in a ceremony style of her choosing that did not reflect him at all), I figured I'd made my case, he's an adult, and have tried to just stay out of it.

Well OP, what did she say? How were the 4 nights at the future in-laws?

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