Anyone dated a girl with a borderline personality disorder?

Chicks w BPD are crazy bros. U can’t reason w them. Avoid them like the plague, even for a fling. They’re always showing up in our ICU, overdosing and s***, suiciding etc

I don’t understand how dudes here are dating these chicks for more than a couple weeks? Ignoring red flags or is it not apparent at first? There are tons of normal women out there.

Frequent changes in hair color, lots of new tats, daddy issues, escalating relationships too quickly, previously married ...all major red flags bros. U can do better.

This is Letsrun.com, if a chick looks even sorta "HAWT" then the brain shuts off, the ego becomes a doormat, and the wallet falls open. The demographic visiting this board isn't the most discerning customer for relationship partners, pretty much by necessity as it holds below average appeal between the slight physical build and concomitant raging insecurity.

Yeah if you read nearly all the stories on here, they all seem like the “perfect girl” for the first 6-8 months and the sex will be mind blowing ... that’s all before before the red flags start to creep in... but by then it’s usually too late (you are probably living with them or they have baby trapped you by tricking you into getting them pregnant), I didn’t even have a clue what BPD was a few years ago so I had no idea about it until I had the misfortune to experience it myself (worse thing that ever happened to me in my entire life)

bpd-survivor wrote:

Yeah if you read nearly all the stories on here, they all seem like the “perfect girl” for the first 6-8 months and the sex will be mind blowing ... that’s all before before the red flags start to creep in... but by then it’s usually too late (you are probably living with them or they have baby trapped you by tricking you into getting them pregnant), I didn’t even have a clue what BPD was a few years ago so I had no idea about it until I had the misfortune to experience it myself (worse thing that ever happened to me in my entire life)

I think we are partly to blame. I think a few of us here are either fixers, didn't have a lot of relationship experience, or maybe see things in these woman that we had seen people we previously loved. This can even be family members who had mental issues. You think you have the tools to fix these people and maybe there is even a sense of comfort there with this craziness.

It's funny, but I didn't actively seek "crazy", but it's hard to deny when someone is really into you and bends over backwards to satisfy your needs. I think it's a pretty impressive skill for someone with BPD/Bipolar to bring this type of energy and compassion. It feels "special" because stabile people don't normally behave like that.

But reading more about this diagnosis, this type of effort is very chaotic under the surface and it seems that people with BPD/Bipolar are really fragile at this point. They are more confident and less stressed when things are secured, and they are free to bash and treat you like crap because they have you. I noticed this around my ex. Absolutely flawless and perfect around new people and co-workers, but an absolute b!tch to her immediate family and romantic partners.

Another thing I find absolutely fascinating and equally appalling is how they can easily discard you like trash with little emotion. All the effort you put into the relationship and catering to them meant nothing. They are onto the next guy, banging them, and rubbing it in your face.

Yes very true... I didn’t have that much experience when I first got into a relationship with a BPD sufferer, I thought she was absolutely amazing for the first 6 months and I couldn’t believe how lucky I was.... that was until the violence, craziness and controlling behaviour started of course (which stared off small and slowly got worse and worse... until she was full on attacking me (full on punches to the face and everything) literally over nothing

And yes it’s honestly unbelievable that they can go from loving you and telling you that they can’t live without you etc .... to sleeping with a new guy literally within 1-2 days after an argument and feel no guilt or remorse whatsoever, I’ve given up on trying to make sense of it now though

THIS is the official LRC Bipolar Personality Disorder thread.

No that is not what it is.

20 pages of testimonials vs. the myriad of smaller, lesser threads says otherwise.

No I shouldn’t have to explain why you are wrong. Can you not read?

Can you? Take that stick out of your ass.

Idiot. There is no stick. Please learn how to read.

The fact you think you're witty is so cute. This is the de facto thread for BPD conversation. If it bothers your autistics sensibilities, I'll petition the mods to slap an "official" label on the thread title.

By the by, when you tuck yourself in tonight, know that you're a moron. And an a$$hole.

You are really stupid and I am taking you to the woodshed. You are so stupid you don’t even understand the point. I corrected you because you do not grasp the difference between borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. You said this thread was the official bipolar personality disorder thread. That is not what it is about. I am trying to educate you because you are ignorant.

Lmao. Auto correct got me in the first post. Why would I read my own post after posting, autist?

You're still an a$$hole. And an autist. And you wasted time fighting with an anonymous person about an autocorrect error. Who really is the idiot here? Your prose is trash too, FYI.

It was NOT autocorrect you liar. Get an education if you want to interact with me. And work on your character you liar. What a laughingstock you are little man.

Apparently Johnny Depp married one.

Bipolar Disorder (Manic Depressive) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are very different conditions.

Bipolar Disorder can be effectively assuaged with medication. There are periods of relative normalcy and moderate sufferers can fly under the radar.

BPD is always on. There is no pill for BPD. It's uncommon for persons with BPD to even acknowledge their condition. The condition tends to subside in middle age.

Both conditions benefit from Behaviour Therapy - Cognitive and Dialectical. These are not easy or inexpensive fixes, so most with either condition don't put in the work.

A relationship with a person with BiPolar disorder might be salvageable or workable if they're being effectively treated - but it'd be a bumpy ride.

A relationship with a person with BPD, unless you're a masochist, best to run for the hills.

Hey man. Sorry to hear about your experience. I just recently left a 6 year relationship with a girl I still really care about who had strong traits of BPD. I can relate to you. It's devastating. The day I left was hands down the hardest day of my life and after 8 months separated it still haunts my mind. 6 years together and I didn't leave in the most graceful way. She deserved better. I frequently feel tremendous guilt for it.

She moved on to another guy just 5 weeks or so after I left, calling each other the "love of my life." I know I didn't leave in the best way, but I was there for her a lot during our time together. I tried my best to always be there for her. I got exhausted and the nature of the conflicts combined with catering to emotions to avoid triggers destroyed my confidence in a life long relationship. Nobody understands and they just think I'm some heartless monster who left a sweet girl.

After all the memories and love we shared, it's the most surreal thing to see her with another man so soon.

She's moved on but I can't seem too and still feel guilty for how I broke things off. I loved her sweet side. I think about it all the time. She was extremely sensitive, moody, verbally abusive episodes, would hit herself in the head and scream, punch me in the shoulder and pinch, slam doors and cry in bed, yelling at me to leave then stay. Lot of crying with me always apologizing. While triggered in public she would pout and walk away from me while I trail 30 feet behind. I always took on the role as the bad guy to get through the problems, or else they persisted.

She didn't lie, cheat, call cops, key cars or anything that extreme. She just couldn't regulate her emotions properly and often projected her hurt onto me.

I know we weren't right for each other, but I wish after 6 years it had a better ending, because I know what she was like when she wasn't projecting her pain. It's just sad me to me.

Do you think you and I could talk privately sometime?

Thanks you

ps. hope you're doing better.

With all due respect, the people in this thread are rattling off "BPD/Bipolar" as if they were related disorders. They are not. BPD is a personality disorder. Bipolar is a mood disorder. They both fall under the broad category of "mental illness," but that's about it.

Moreover, Bipolar disorder actually has two classifications: bipolar 1 and bipolar 2. Bipolar 1 is usually marked by full-blown manic episodes, in which the person suffering from it can lose touch with reality. The hallmark of bipolar 2 is "hypomania," a state in which the person suffering from it has marked symptoms (off the top of my head: excessive talking, elevated mood for no reason, a high sex drive, poor impulse control/risk-taking behavior, etc.) that do not involve complete loss of touch with reality.

Here is an easier way to draw out the distinction: someone with bipolar 1 might walk our into traffic under the false belief that they can stop time and it is safe to do so; someone with bipolar 2 might act like they have consumed a little too much alcohol, despite not drinking anything.

I'm not suggesting that one variant is "safer" or "better," but people with bipolar 2 tend to fly under the radar when it comes to acceptable behavior. They are often quite successful. Alexander Hamilton was likely bipolar 2, and a lot of people think Bill Clinton is, as well.