My bad in all of this - it's the same frickin' school, she's just training with the Boys (and their coaches?)?! I don't necessarily agree with this as I have seen bad things come from chasing boys in HS workouts, but it is the same HS and there is a problem? Why is there a girls program (with a male coach) and a boys program at the same school? (I thought that was only for College - and that is a problem there in my opinion for some developing runners).
I agree that it is her decision and ALL the coaches at the school need to get on the same page. Either the girls coach should get some humility or the guys coaches need to explain why they are coaching a girl. Sounds like it's messed up and egos are now involved. The problem at the HS level, is that it should be about participation and serious competition isn't for everyone. Too many HS coaches living through their athletes, instead of helping athletes who want and need their help - too often ignored for the prestige of coaching the stars (like Mary here).
I thought all of the hulabaloo was about her ditching the HS coach for a club coach, not being coached at the same school!! It should be her decision who coaches her at that school, or the girls coach should decide why he is coaching at all.