Ladies, it's 2009: should a woman take her husband's last name?

taking your husbands name isn't antiquated. its a tradition like giving your children a middle name or addressing a married woman as 'Mrs'. i wouldnt call it progressive to forgo either of these norms.

whats antiquated is the idea that its somehow oppressive, sexist, or old-fashioned for a woman to take her husbands last name in 2009. the feminist movement is over. we won.

hyphenated last names are stupid. if you want to feign being progressive on a trivial issue, try retaining your last name and not dragging on hyphenated names throughout the generations.

ladies and gentlemen, mr. and mrs. smith-johnson-bekele-guerrouj-klein. progressive in 2009 or ass-backwards?

There are such things as neofeminist nazis.In this day and age, I still expect men to ask me out, pay for dates, surprise me with gifts, etc. I have my own succesful career, but that's the way I like it anyway. I am very feminine by the way, and definitely not American.

true true american wrote:

The neofeminist nazis (and I, although I am not one of them) believe that a woman should do all of those things for a man as much as the man does them for her. In this day and age, nobody expects the man to buy all the meals, pay for all the dates, open the door all the time, always ask the woman out, and be the only one surprising with gifts.

Absolutely none of the women I know think this way.

Do you know what incestuous mean?Hint: if you have sex with your fiancee and she's not related to you, it's not incest.One of the stupidest posts I've read on letsrun. Well done, mate!

john the smythe wrote:

I suggested that my fiancee not take my last name when we get married. I like her the way she is and to me it would feel weird for her to have my last name (almost incestuous).

european girl wrote:

There are such things as neofeminist nazis.

In this day and age, I still expect men to ask me out, pay for dates, surprise me with gifts, etc. I have my own succesful career, but that's the way I like it anyway. I am very feminine by the way, and definitely not American.

European's are having around 1.1 children per couple now, when they need 2.1 just to mantain population. The "european girls" of the future will all be veil wearing Muslims or very conservative Christians. A good example of feminism in America is Hilary Clinton, 1 child, 0 grandkids. Real women enjoy being "owned" by a man.

Shalane Flannagan, Alice Schmidt, Hazel Clark, Leshinda Demus, Jen Rhines, Carrie Toffelson..... accomplished professional women don't always change their names it is becoming more and more common

perspective wrote:

taking your husbands name isn't antiquated. its a tradition like giving your children a middle name or addressing a married woman as 'Mrs'. i wouldnt call it progressive to forgo either of these norms.

whats antiquated is the idea that its somehow oppressive, sexist, or old-fashioned for a woman to take her husbands last name in 2009. the feminist movement is over. we won.

hyphenated last names are stupid. if you want to feign being progressive on a trivial issue, try retaining your last name and not dragging on hyphenated names throughout the generations.

ladies and gentlemen, mr. and mrs. smith-johnson-bekele-guerrouj-klein. progressive in 2009 or ass-backwards?

Actually taking the husbands last name is definitely antiquated. It would make a whole lot more sense for husbands (and kids) to take the wife's last name. Though I suspect that there are quite a few posters here who would feel their manhood being threatened by such an arrangement.

I guess you could argue that the entire idea of marriage is out dated... but some things exist for the normal functioning of a civil society.

we no longer bend to the rule of law because we think our leader is the annointed representative of a god on this earth, and thereby his appointees are representatives of Him... but you still probably pull over when the police flash their lights your way.

john the smythe wrote:

I suggested that my fiancee not take my last name when we get married. I like her the way she is and to me it would feel weird for her to have my last name (almost incestuous).

ahahhaaaaaaaaa wrote:

Do you know what incestuous mean?

Hint: if you have sex with your fiancee and she's not related to you, it's not incest.

One of the stupidest posts I've read on letsrun. Well done, mate!

Try again. That poster used 'incestuous' in a way which isn't incorrect and which suggests he knows what it means. It's like if your name is John Smith and one day you meet and have sex with an unrelated person whose name is Jane Smith. If a person did that and said it felt 'almost incestuous', that could be an accurate way of describing that awkward feeling.

Dead End wrote:

Real women enjoy being "owned" by a man.

Yes, and real men enjoy dressing in a wet suit, tied in chains and hung from the ceiling with a bondage ball taped into their mouth while a leather-clad dominatrix crams a candle up where the sun don't shine.

See? That's a little funnier. My suggestion is that if you're going to take the time to type something ridiculous, you really need to turn it up a notch.

not too farfetched dude = john the smythe

stupid post the first time. stupider post the second time!!!

Actually, it does make sense.

jizzmo wrote:

I guess you could argue that the entire idea of marriage is out dated... but some things exist for the normal functioning of a civil society.

we no longer bend to the rule of law because we think our leader is the annointed representative of a god on this earth, and thereby his appointees are representatives of Him... but you still probably pull over when the police flash their lights your way.

And your point would be...?

yetanotherchick wrote:

That's exactly how I'd feel about a man who is of the mind set that he would refuse to take MY last name.

I have a feeling that is not a significant loss, in fact its probably a plus.

actually it does not make sense.

captainwildcat wrote:

I would argue that both men's and women's names are their father's names. It is possible for a last name to belong to more than one person. I currently think of my last name as my own, my father's, wy wife's, my mom's, my cousin's etc. I don't have a common last name and don't know anyone who isn't family who have it, but I'm sure there are people out there and the name belongs to them too. My wife thought of her maiden name as her own as well as her father's (and mother's) and now thinks of our last name as her own as well as mine.

How is it any more creepy for a woman to have her father-in-law's last name than it is to have her own father's after she is married?

It's not. That's my whole point. People are saying that it's strange for a woman to want to keep her father's name and not take her husband's name.

I also think of my name as my name, not my father's.

Isnt it kind of gay that guys have their fathers' names they should get their own names f******.