Almost 50% of marriages end in divorce, how much are really happy though ?

Marriage cannot last without God in their life and neither can happiness buying stuff and jokes won’t make you happy

Going on 41 years, best move I ever made. I wouldn't want it any other way. Not always easy, but that's the way life is.

>>jokes won’t make you happy<<

Yes, they can. Not only is laughter the best medicine, but it helps your mood in many ways.

Almost everybody likes to be around a person that is happy and joking seemingly all the time. Life seems so much more enjoyable.

If my wife and I didn't joke about ourselves or each other, I don't think we would have lasted the 30+ years, and still going strong.

Probably less than 10% are happy. And I mean happy in the sense that the couple likes each other for the most part, not deep romantic love (which is absurd) like most people aspire to. Another 5-10% are tolerable. The next 20-30% are miserable. 50-60% of marriages end.

And yet the country's highest divorce rates are seen in the U.S. "Bible Belt" across the Deep South 2021 statistics show Alabama, Tennessee, Louisiana and GA have the highest divorce rates. The lowest rates of US divorce as of 2021 in the same pew study are found in Massachusetts, PA, Vermont, Maine and Washington, states with populations self identifying as the lowest in terms of organized faith.

Warning - Almost all the single women in my supposed dating age range are divorced, almost all of them have children. A lot of these women, especially in nice areas, have money yet have no job or a very average job. Yep, her ex-husband is paying for her new life and he pays well. The biased courts of course are going to side with the woman unless she's an absolute train wreck. Her new life includes riding the carousel, vacationing with the girls, partying, shopping, and maybe even bad-mouthing dad in front of the kids. No, this didn't happen to me but I've seen it firsthand through friends, co-workers, and I've met plenty of these women who are out looking for their next wallet. GF is the way to go. If things hit the fan you can leave, she can leave. No courts. No Lawyer$. No golden parachute for her.

These stats are bumped up by people in their 3-4th marriages

Depends which state. In NJ and I'm sure other states too, both incomes come into play during divorce settlements. There is a formula figured into the alimony. If she makes the same she probably won't get an alimony, if her income is more, then the husband will get an alimony.

If you take out those who have been married and divorced multiple times, you will see the statistics show closer to 20% of married people actually divorce. It is people who marry and divorce every two years or so that are skewing the stats.

Seconded in a major way. One of the things my wife and I appreciate about each other is how many things we laugh at. To the OP's post, I know about the high divorce rate but I know far fewer divorced people than I do ones who've been married for decades and seem at least reasonably happy.

Yes. An old friend of mine married someone, got divorced twenty plus years later, married someone else for two or three years, got divorced and remarried his first wife. Another old friend has been divorced twice. This sort of thing will pump up the divorce rate.

If I go into a bar a shoot 30 people who end up dying then according to your logic only 1 person died?

I suspect that atheists and agnostics are more likely to cohabitate without marrying, so the end of their relationships tends not to be recorded statistically.

Im here to answer your training advice question, what was it again? i mustve glanced over it.

I am with you. Life throws a lot of curve balls. Misery that is not caused by one's spouse is still misery. My wife complains a lot. She thinks I am supposed to fix everything. I fix some, not all. So is this a happy marriage? The marriage, itself, is not the cause of unhappiness. I can't fix all the problems. It is just the daily rubbish in life. Sometimes she tells me that she loves me and that I am solid. It has been 25 years for us. Married life is still tough. We just hugged each other. I heard a bunch of complaints about everything from work, to extended family to our kids who do not want to get married (ever). Good, I said, let them experience life alone for a few years to make the decision regarding companionship for themselves. Then we went in our own direction. What else do you want? Uncorking the champagne bottle? Everyday? No. That's not how it is. But that does not mean that it is unhappy.

I am 34 years old and when I get to see my married friends (which is rare because their wives are bossy) they all tell me they are jealous because I never got married while they are miserable.

Their wives made them sell their motorcycles, their wives won't let them smoke marijuana, their wives spend all their money. They are forced to go to Broadway shows and crappy movies that they hate.

Even the ones with kids regret it.

Based on this message board I’d say 90% of unmarried guys are unhappy.

No. What does this even mean?

Don't just 'say' stats, then think you are correct. Provide those stats please, otherwise you are just guessing