I'm 35, still dating, and tired of the local bar/social scene. So many of the women I tend to meet and date have put a huge focus on career and as a result have put on the pounds after college as they got unfit over the course of a decade. I like seeing a little curve, but not a potbelly and saddlebags. Just doesn't do it for me. So I figured the best place to go looking is Fitness Singles. Should be a draw for fit ladies wanting fit guys and vice versa, right? However, the problem is that there are almost no women under 50 on there. There are more 70+ women than there are <40 women. What's up with that? Is there a better alternative that isn't the viper pit that is Tinder and other apps like that? Why doesn't LRC start a RunnersDate app?
Why are Fitness Singles ladies so dang OLD??
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Does your town have a local running club? There is always a high female-to-male ratio there. I’ve been to two weddings of couples who met in local running clubs where I was living.
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I agree with Lenny. Below is a link that shows the NYC 1/2 Marathon finishers by gender. 25-34 yo group is skewed very female. Join a running club but don't be a creep.
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Hope you can hold your breath going down. The screaming is all real.
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OK Boomers wrote:
I'm 35, still dating, and tired of the local bar/social scene. So many of the women I tend to meet and date have put a huge focus on career and as a result have put on the pounds after college as they got unfit over the course of a decade. I like seeing a little curve, but not a potbelly and saddlebags. Just doesn't do it for me. So I figured the best place to go looking is Fitness Singles. Should be a draw for fit ladies wanting fit guys and vice versa, right? However, the problem is that there are almost no women under 50 on there. There are more 70+ women than there are <40 women. What's up with that? Is there a better alternative that isn't the viper pit that is Tinder and other apps like that? Why doesn't LRC start a RunnersDate app?
Fit younger women don't tend to advertise on "Fitness Singles"? Why would they?
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all of the above
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From what I've heard from my older single runner friends, it's because if you are an athletic/fit older woman, it's hard to find men around your age who are as well on regular dating apps. You're complaining about unfit people in your 30s, but it gets even more drastic the older people get. I have a friend who is in her 50s, but has the energy and body of someone at least 20 years younger. A lot of the men her age who aren't runners/athletic look and act much, much older.
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By 2025 over 50 percent of Americans will be obese. Something to look forward to. Health insurance cost's will continue to rise out of control. Something for all of to look forward to.
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I was 24 when I was changing for a night out in an old school mate’s living room and noticed that ALL of my core group had become skinny fat, or very close to heading that way. Not an ounce of muscle tone, and little bellies forming.
By 35 the contrast between the perennially fit and the rest is a chasm.
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Literally every man on the face of the planet likes skinny girls in their 20s and early 30s. They get taken off the market quickly. They don't reappear until they get divorced in their 40s and 50s. Your chance of finding a skinny, young girl on Fitness Singles is extremely low, they get plenty of attention in real life. Unfortunately the best chance to get in a long term relationship with someone like you are looking for was HS in college.
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OK Boomers wrote:
I'm 35, still dating, and tired of the local bar/social scene. So many of the women I tend to meet and date have put a huge focus on career and as a result have put on the pounds after college as they got unfit over the course of a decade. I like seeing a little curve, but not a potbelly and saddlebags. Just doesn't do it for me. So I figured the best place to go looking is Fitness Singles. Should be a draw for fit ladies wanting fit guys and vice versa, right? However, the problem is that there are almost no women under 50 on there. There are more 70+ women than there are <40 women. What's up with that? Is there a better alternative that isn't the viper pit that is Tinder and other apps like that? Why doesn't LRC start a RunnersDate app?
The young fit ones have boyfriends or families, so they don’t have much time for Fitness Singles, whatever that is.
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For fit, young women, hit the gym. Not so easy to meet them there, but you will find them, and running clubs, too, as stated before.
And my suspicion is results tend to be that in the urban centers, their tends to be less overweight people. Not 100% sure about this because it's been years since I been home to the sticks, but was certainly true back then.
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Hard to believe you’re still single at 35. Most of the high quality women you are looking for got married in their twenties. All that is left for you now is retreads. Dating apps are designed to take your money. Most of the subscribers are lonely males, which is why there is a dearth of young single women.
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Lenny Leonard wrote:
Does your town have a local running club? There is always a high female-to-male ratio there. I’ve been to two weddings of couples who met in local running clubs where I was living.
He's right. I'm 64 and single. I hang out with people in the local running scene. My main group is 6 women. We group chat on facebook and go out- bars, dinner, etc.
A couple of them are really big into selfies with the whole group after races.
One of them said- every time a picture is posted at least 5 of her friends ask who I am.
Just go to races, hang around after, start talking and it happens.
In my case, a male friend invited me to a group dinner the night before a race. It was the two of us and 5 of them.
I've been friends ever since. I'm not looking but if I were (or ever are) it'll be easy to meet someone.
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txRUNNERgirl wrote:
From what I've heard from my older single runner friends, it's because if you are an athletic/fit older woman, it's hard to find men around your age who are as well on regular dating apps. You're complaining about unfit people in your 30s, but it gets even more drastic the older people get. I have a friend who is in her 50s, but has the energy and body of someone at least 20 years younger. A lot of the men her age who aren't runners/athletic look and act much, much older.
When I was 59 or 60 I met a woman on a dating app.
She said the first thing she noticed about me was that I was as fit as in my pictures. She said other guys posted pics that were obviously before their gut grew to the hanging over you belt size and they had hair in the pictures when they didn't in real life.
She was 54 at the time and looked in her 30's and thin- very healthy.
She finding fit guys her age was almost impossible.
On the other hand, I dated a 27 year old (when I was 60) she said finding fit guys her age was almost impossible and that most of them were very childish.
You're fit, that's a major plus. Be a gentleman and don't act like a child and you're in with any age group.
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