Got smiled at on my run this morning, made me think...

You're only as ugly as you feel.

Do you appreciate the fact you can run? Hope so.

Are you jamin posting under a different handle?

Somebody was nice, smiled and waved. It made you happy. It was supposed to. That’s why we smile and wave at people. Enjoy the moment. Don’t over think it.

Stop being a beta

Learn the ways of the Alpha!

and now im depressed that i just wasted 80 seconds of my life reading this

I’m not that what you’re imagining actually happens to many people. Like…beautiful women fawning over you everywhere you go…I think that’s a fantasy.

I'll bite.

For the most part, I feel like 'play the cards you're given' and don't overthink it,

But at the risk of overthinking it, I used to train all the time with this guy who was having a really hard time hooking up with a girlfriend. I'll leave it at that, but the years were starting to tick by and he wasn't getting the action. It bothered him and a lot. I don't think he would be pissed if he read this, either.

He eventually met a woman and you couldn't open up your Facebook account without hearing how much this meant to him. They got married, settled down, and had kids that he goes absolutely nuts over.

Would he have been so adoring if he was some irresistible stud that was full of himself? Maybe, but the point is that he valued what he got so very much, it became the most important thing in his life and gave it a depth other people might not reach.

So who's the lucky one?

The one who gets things easy or the one who has to try a little harder, gain some appreciation, and get more satisfaction from what they eventually get?

oldschoollrc wrote:

Are you jamin posting under a different handle?

+1. I'll admit, my first thought too, but in a friendly community sort of way.

I had a European friend who was literally a chick magnet. I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t witnessed it time and time again. He was a typically happy and confident person but I don’t think he attributed much value to his talent…🤷🏻‍♂️

GettingFasterDude wrote:

Somebody was nice, smiled and waved. It made you happy. It was supposed to. That’s why we smile and wave at people. Enjoy the moment. Don’t over think it.

That's the right answer. Sometimes things are exactly what they supposed to be.

Just enjoy the moments and next time be brave and just ask if it's okey to join her on her run.

You have nothing to lose. Can just be a yes or no. Nothing to be afraid of. Probably you will get a yes and get acquainted with her.

Let women see your light shine. For that matter, let everyone see your light shine. Hang in there dude.

Catch the moment wrote:

Just enjoy the moments and next time be brave and just ask if it's okey to join her on her run.

You have nothing to lose. Can just be a yes or no. Nothing to be afraid of. Probably you will get a yes and get acquainted with her.

This sounds logical enough, but wasn;t there a thread on here about a year ago how women really don't want the attention when they run, and don't want guys assuming they would welcome interacting at all. And so specifically go out of their way to not encourage it.

But the problem is, when they do give off that disinterested air, they are accused of being cold, unfeeling, b-tches.

So they can't win no matter what they do.

I mean really, bro. Let's call this for what it is. You're suggesting some guy stop a random single woman out running alone in some deserted wooded trail, chat her up, and agree to go out on a run together? Around here, your odds of even getting another runner to make eye contact in the safety of a busy urban park is just about nil.

But let us know how it goes!

FWIW, it sounds to me like the woman simply mistook the OP for somebody else that she vaguely knows.

I thought this girl liked me, but she had a boyfriend. She smiled and looked at me too.

Sham 69 wrote:

I thought this girl liked me, but she had a boyfriend. She smiled and looked at me too.

Yo, _69,, would you say she's "just another girl?"

GettingFasterDude wrote:

Somebody was nice, smiled and waved. It made you happy. It was supposed to. That’s why we smile and wave at people. Enjoy the moment. Don’t over think it.

CORRECT!

Honestly, I think it would have made my day too. But I don't think you should feel bad that this made your day. I think you have a false conception of what its like for 'attractive guys'. They don't have girls falling at their feet when they walk (or run) past. In general, yes they may get more interactions, but who knows... you might be that guy. There's this saying that's like: When a girl is told she's attractive, she forgets about it tomorrow. When a guy is told he is attractive, he remembers it for his whole life. The thing is, if you haven't noticed, girls get verbally 'hit on' more than guys get hit on from girls. You don't know what its like for less attractive guys, they may never get talked to/waved at.

That's a really nice story, I hope he is happy now.