Everyone wants to @#$% the crazy girl, but no one can fix the crazy girl. You are not a God that can work this miracle. Stop looking for another person to fill that gaping hole that existed before you met your femme fatale. What you are looking for cannot be found in a broken human or another casual fling. This culture spins out broken humans like an assembly line. Find the narrow path.
You need closure. If you can find a kind way to get in touch with her to talk it over and put things to bed, try that. Get a therapist's help, even. Don't hold out hope that she's changed at all and that you can rekindle what you thought you had with her. She's not open to grow into her best self, you breaking up with her wouldn't have moved that needle. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that and you should love yourself enough to know better. The other option is to let it all go, know that nothing you can say will have any significant positive effect and that it's her responsibility to deal with those things and not yours at all. Honestly, your best option is just to live your best life, that's your greatest responsibility. She's an adult and will have to figure out what to do with the resources she chooses to have in her life. Believe me, I know how this goes as I was with someone like that and all she did was find a doormat enabler to marry her. Nothing I could have said would have had any impact as I'm not a trained therapist, same as you.
You must be young. You will get over it. Move on. There are many special someone's out there to disappoint you again and again.
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You need closure. If you can find a kind way to get in touch with her to talk it over and put things to bed, try that. Get a therapist's help, even. Don't hold out hope that she's changed at all and that you can rekindle what you thought you had with her. She's not open to grow into her best self, you breaking up with her wouldn't have moved that needle. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that and you should love yourself enough to know better. The other option is to let it all go, know that nothing you can say will have any significant positive effect and that it's her responsibility to deal with those things and not yours at all. Honestly, your best option is just to live your best life, that's your greatest responsibility. She's an adult and will have to figure out what to do with the resources she chooses to have in her life. Believe me, I know how this goes as I was with someone like that and all she did was find a doormat enabler to marry her. Nothing I could have said would have had any impact as I'm not a trained therapist, same as you.
This is an old thread, stinky.
The OP has most likely moved on to having relations with livestock.
I agree with the people who say do not contact her. You still care for her and she will probably not feel the same about you.
I was in a similar situation I was with a woman for 6 years, who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Who about 3 years in to our relationship I realized was in a fight with depression. I asked her about getting help that drove her further down the hole. Things got so bad she could not get out of bed or do anything. Then she started getting help and decided to move. It had been a year and a half and she came back to get her stuff. I realized how much I loved her still. But she could careless about me and told me about some of her relationships sense she left. She is still in the same cycle she was in with me. That visit was crushing in so many ways. She is still the most amazing person I have ever dated, it will never work until she gets some real help and not just hear what she wants to.
Good luck! I still feel lost and not sure what to do. We had so much of our future planed out.
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