When I was a college freshman I had a huge problem with all of my teammates. Eventually I left the school transferred. 2 years later and some maturity and growing up on my part I realized my teammates were great dudes and the problem was me. I transferred back to the school the issues were gone because I changed. To this day glad I went back because the teammates I had are still some of my best friends and consider them family. My work ethic I still say comes from thoise guys.
This is one example of why it’s a horrible idea to come to this site for social advice.
Either say what happened, which I'm sure is nothing, and move on. Christ y'all are in college. Unless the 10k specialist showed your mom he was the real "long D specialist" and video taped it to show the boys then its not that bad.
reach back to the glory days wrote:
I was on a college team with plenty of people I didn't like. Could train with them but would not talk to them at all or hang out outside of practice/meets. Was not a problem, and as someone else said very similar to the real world. I work with plenty of people who are terrible but I just deal with it at work and never think about them outside of work.
This guys answer is the best. Take this guys answer to heart. He is right like I said in my case I was the issue and realized it. To this day I am successful and get things done. Part of life is you are going to have to work with people you don't get along with or like. You can leave the door open all you want to work things out and they may never walk in. They may not like you that's not part of being teammates. If you want to be successful in life you are going to have to figure this one out. At work my salary is close to $150k a year my wife and I work at the same place she brings in another $60k guess what we like our bosses and they like us but there are employees that we don't get along with all that well. There is also a few that are bosses can't stand they still have a career they are not going to get fired over the boss not liking them. What I am saying is it's part of life it might just be the first time you are dealing with someone that doesn't care for you I say use it as a good life lesson don't bring it up to your coach that will make your teammates think you are a tool and a tattle tail, if you bring up them not liking you why not throw in you don't think they take running serious because they get together and drink we had one do that and if our school had protective custody his not in our top 7 but w oulkd have been in it. Sorry to make this long winded moral is be an adult not everyone is going to think you are awesome and dumb to be around so people are going to find you less appealing then there future mother in law that comes for the holidays and won't leave
IwouldLoveToWatchThis wrote:
[quote]reach back to the glory days wrote:
Sorry correction: FUN to be around so people are going to find you less appealing then there future mother in law that comes for the holidays and won't leave
Appreciate all the advice, was honestly expecting way more of the trolling this site seems to be known for, but some of that was kinda funny too.
At the end of the day all of us want to be better as a team and none of us are good enough to do that by ourselves, so I'm pretty confident it'll eventually work itself out to some extent just based on the common ground we all share. In a way, the fact that the original argument had more to do with improving the team itself than anything off the track related (no moms or GFs were banged) is proof that everyone involved is passionate about doing just that.
It's been a tough time in general with very minimal racing opportunities for awhile so some people might be getting antsy about not being able to see our development on paper compared to other teams on real, but I think that as we get closer to the opportunities January is meant to bring we'll all have something more positive to direct our energy towards (and APPRECIATE) instead of harping on everything that could be going better (which is admittedly a long list for a college athlete in America right now). This whole situation feels really major at this point, but it's also taught me a lot of things that I'll unfortunately probably be needing again many times over for the rest of my life.
I personally would be happy to go right from campus every time, but I'm surely not doing it alone.