I’m a stay at home dad AMA. It’s easier than women say.

fulltimepapa wrote:

Nope not part time. Wife’s job allowed me to save and invest every Penny I earned. I don’t think I’m better. I just see why so many women lament being a stay at home parent. Like it is some huge burden or difficulty.

Samesies.

OP, your world is about to be rocked when they're older. I have three as well: 13,9,5. They are SO HARD at this age. Younger was SO MUCH easier. Granted, once school goes back it'll be easier, but you're not the big swinging d-ck you think you are right now.

Plus, I think you're trolling b/c hardest parts of the day are AM and PM, and you seem to have conveniently left out those duties. Is your wife doing wake up/bedtime while you're running/lifting? If so, she is getting a raw deal. Then again, maybe you just know how to finesse!!!

Questions and comments:

1) You are either a troll or a leach or perhaps just a loser boyfriend.

2) Vizslas require a TON of exercise and attention, and they stay SUPER active until they are close to death which can be 12-15 years. They will also stick to you like glue...so, be prepared for that if you get a vizsla.

3) How is your situation at all like a stay at home dad? I guess I just refer to #1 and pick.

Hey what city are you guys in?

Probably not California? I still say housewife is not a real job so thanks for confirming this.

I had a feeling it was one of those things women claim is so hard but really a smart guy who can budget his time can do way better.

Check out comedian bill burr on YouTube regarding this subject. Quite hilarious

How old are the kids? I'm sure it was much harder when they were babies. Once they hit 5 its a piece of cake

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I think it's easier if you aren't breastfeeding. It also depends on how easy the kids are and how well trainex they are. My wife informs me that takes a lot out of here. But to be honest she got fat and lazy and after we married so it's unclear to me whether she is taking advantage of me, is in sit health or if that is really the case.

First off, I would say you left out a lot of things stay at home moms are responsible for. These include general coordinating and scheduling of things like practices, appointments, family events, getting gifts and presents for events, planning events such as birthdays and vacations, and shopping for groceries or other needed items for the kids and family. I’m not saying that in all situations that all of these fall to the mom but I would say a good amount do and historically, like in the 1950’s they certainly did.

Secondly, I don’t think all stay at home moms get to hit the gym or go out when there spouse gets home. That break is huge in terms getting a mental break and time for yourself. Again, definitely didn’t happen historically.

And third, I think the biggest thing overlooked in your statement is that all kids are not the same. And, all spouses are not the same. So while your situation has worked out well for you and it’s been easy it’s certainly not the same for everyone. I think when a parent has a kid that matches their personality it is way easier to parent that kid. When they don’t match up it can be way harder and you have to do way more work physically and, maybe more importantly, mentally to guide and raise a kid. Now, add another kid to the mix and things can become much harder even. Imagine you have two kids who respond to different parenting styles. Or they don’t get along at all. Then you have the spouse factor. They could be a huge help or their style could be different then yours and you could be sabotaging each other.

So what I’m saying is you are trying to compare basically thousands of different jobs under the same title, stay at home mom, and say it’s easy because it’s easy for you.

PS: Lastly, maybe the stay at home mom job suits you, meaning you are good at it, but some people struggle with it but maybe don’t have a choice to switch to a different job.

Are you breastfeeding that 8 month old? Are you waking at night with the baby to nurse? Did you physically birth that child and have all your hormones shift massively afterwards?

I didn’t think so.

I left out those things because they are assumed and you should have asked as this is an AMA. So what is your question? Or just trying to virtue signal for the moms that can’t cut it.

My wife and I split duties for the first 5 years with 3 kids in that time , shortly after I took over as Stay at home dad. Helped her get a contract at work and do a masters program.

I do all the stuff the Spiter posted and more.

I also self manage a rental that I built while the kids were little and recently remodeled it, take care of our a big house inside and out , a very big property with everything from killing gophers to tractor work when needed, do most upkeep and car repairs on three cars, (very few females ever did that). I handle almost all clubs and sports. Pick up kids from 2 different distant charter schools. Wait around a lot because it's to far to come home between many events. I handle everything with the pets.

Lots of time to run and go to the pool/gym during soccer when I get stuck waiting around.

I manage to go fishing twice a week while kids are at school, or now that they are distance learning, no problem.

My wife does help inside the house and bill paying a bit during the week when she can and a lot on weekends, other than that it's me.

I still think I have it pretty good compared to a 40-50 hour a week job where I would end up doing half the stuff I do now anyway.

My kids were not better or worse at any age. It has not been harder , or easier at any age. That stuff just sounds made up to me.

I bring more value than most typical stay at home moms because of the high dollar things I take care of( building houses and stuff like that) . Yes , I know a lot of people do some of those things on top of their jobs . In that case, a stay at home parent who only did the historically normal female stuff would have it a lot easier.

Someone working and doing the extra things I do could never give the quality of nurturing, support and guidance, I have done. So somebody has to do that or not , I guess.

How old are your kids? I am a stay at home dad with a toddler and new born.

It is really freaking hard. A ton harder than when I worked a normal job. I can't imagine how you can find it easy. Both kids need nearly constant interaction.

fulltimepapa wrote:

6, 3, 8 month.

I only have my own children to go off of. But if your kids are like mine. You either:

1) are lying

2) are a terrible/negligent father

But maybe your children are the polar opposite of mine.

Mr Reasonable is back wrote:

fulltimepapa wrote:

6, 3, 8 month.

I only have my own children to go off of. But if your kids are like mine. You either:

1) are lying

2) are a terrible/negligent father

But maybe your children are the polar opposite of mine.

He hasn't been at it long enough to do AMA, so being that's he's arrogant, he likely is also

both 1&2.

oldcrowbar13 wrote:

Check out comedian bill burr on YouTube regarding this subject. Quite hilarious

"The hardest job in the world"

I love that bit.

And I was SAHD for the first year so I'm allowed to laugh.

Icouldbeyourmom wrote:

Are you breastfeeding that 8 month old? Are you waking at night with the baby to nurse? Did you physically birth that child and have all your hormones shift massively afterwards?

I didn’t think so.

Maybe he adopted.

I get what you're saying, but we've had one of each (adopted and bio), with my wife's health so compromised/at-risk that BF wasn't an option for the bio child, either.

She's no less of a mother, nor were the two-Dad's and single mom in our adoption classes.

So as ignorant as many men are toward motherhood, also frustrating is BF/birthing martyrdom being mixed up with parenting.

Everydog wrote:

Mr Reasonable is back wrote:

I only have my own children to go off of. But if your kids are like mine. You either:

1) are lying

2) are a terrible/negligent father

But maybe your children are the polar opposite of mine.

He hasn't been at it long enough to do AMA, so being that's he's arrogant, he likely is also

both 1&2.

Agree. This guy is not telling the truth, unless he's been blessed with a bevy of angels. This whole take just isn't true, so I'm assuming he doesn't have actual human children, or it's a troll post, or there is something very wrong with him (as suggested above). Maybe a leaching psychopath who has no real feelings or empathy for his kids would think this way.

Kids are very rewarding, but also very hard work (especially if more than one, at least in my experience..).

tj wrote:

Everydog wrote:

He hasn't been at it long enough to do AMA, so being that's he's arrogant, he likely is also

both 1&2.

Agree. This guy is not telling the truth, unless he's been blessed with a bevy of angels. This whole take just isn't true, so I'm assuming he doesn't have actual human children, or it's a troll post, or there is something very wrong with him (as suggested above). Maybe a leaching psychopath who has no real feelings or empathy for his kids would think this way.

Kids are very rewarding, but also very hard work (especially if more than one, at least in my experience..).

Maybe he is one of those people who has dogs that they think are kids?