Why do super hot attractive girls in their 20s go for pasty old washed up dudes 10 years older than them?

I'm guessing their parameters for dating material are different than what you expect. You see older and washed up, they probably see more mature and experienced.

the fact that you don't even understand why is probably a big clue

well...for starters wrote:

the fact that you don't even understand why is probably a big clue

yeah so explain it for me bro.

That dude wrote:

well...for starters wrote:

the fact that you don't even understand why is probably a big clue

yeah so explain it for me bro.

there

explained.

troll

That dude wrote:

well...for starters wrote:

the fact that you don't even understand why is probably a big clue

yeah so explain it for me bro.

You’re an arrogant prick who thinks the world revolves around him. Older guys ask the younger girls how their day was and what they are interested in. They open doors for them and give them the attention they want. You tell girls about your interests that inevitably don’t interest them and you never ask them about their interests. You honk your horn to tell them to come outside in your car that you had the exhaust silencer removed to make it sound like a lawnmower because the engine is less than 2L.

And yes, money is a big factor. They take girls on lavish weekend trips where they can take narcissistic pictures of themselves to make their friends think they are successful.

The moral of the story is you don’t want these gold digging girls. You’ll end up alone and a bank account with thousands of dollars less than you should have.

sbeefyk2 wrote:

That dude wrote:

yeah so explain it for me bro.

You’re an arrogant prick who thinks the world revolves around him.

woah man. No need to get judgmental now. Just asking a friendly question.

Ever heard of money? Real money? Like owning a nice home and a nice car, and having money to go on expensive vacations. . . . Nope, you haven't got a clue.

The OP is clueless and simply does not understand that women like men for different reasons than what men like women for. Men like women for looks. Women like men for how they make them feel. A good personality goes a long way. So does a big bank account that can pay for adventures and security.

That dude wrote:

I don't understand it. Is it because of money? Old guys more likely to have job security?

Wouldn't they rather be with a younger guy with more swag?

Not going to name any names but I've seen it more than once and it confuses me.

Provider figure. Money + security while banging Chad on the sidelines.

Some rare exceptions where the girl is actually quite attracted the guy, but that's a small minority in my experience

I'm 59 and single (divorced). I have a lot of younger women (28-42) who pay attention to me.

The reasons (as I have had them explained by a couple women friends of mine:

1. We're just "classier"- not childish, video game playing, backward hat wearing geeks.

2. We are not selfish in any way- as in listening to them talk and in bed.

Those are two of the main points.

I kind of get the older dude thing. Don't get the attractive girl going for the ghetto thug type of thing. Seems so incredibly stupid. Why do they do it? Is the sleazy thug culture bored into the minds of weak teens and early twenties that they can't get out? Pressured into it? Low IQ? Thankfully, I'm 32 and extremely glad I was able to avoid too much exposure to that.

That dude wrote:

sbeefyk2 wrote:

You’re an arrogant prick who thinks the world revolves around him.

woah man. No need to get judgmental now. Just asking a friendly question.

You haven't spent much time on these boards, have you? That's pretty tame, almost like saying "Hello" by LRC standards.

That dude wrote:

I don't understand it. Is it because of money? Old guys more likely to have job security?

Wouldn't they rather be with a younger guy with more swag?

Not going to name any names but I've seen it more than once and it confuses me.

2/10 for all the responses so far.

Because we're smarter than you, and have a lot more experience with, and a greater understanding of the inner workings of female biology.

If you pay attention really well, and listen to and learn from the ones who WILL settle for you now, you'll get there one day. ;-)

Also, a guy who is 10 years older than a 20-something young guy if he stays in shape is hardly "washed up." Sure, when I was 25 I could still run a sub-50 400 and dunk a basketball, two things I can no longer do now that I am in my mid-30s, but absent a pro contract for doing either of those two things-- and I was not nearly good enough at either to garner such attention-- no woman in her right mind would be more attracted to 25 year old me than 36 year old me.

At 25:

Income: $30-$40k

Property: None

Living situation: Renting a room in a crappy house w/ crappy roommates

Vacations: None

Free time: Totally consumed with grad school and finding part-time work

Physical Fitness: Excellent

Relationship: None

At 36:

Income: a lot more than at 25

Property: Home

Living situation: see above

Vacations: not ballin' outta control, but we go nice places when we have time off

Free time: Lots more of this

Physical Fitness: Good

Relationship: Yes

Money!...$$$....?

runn wrote:

I'm 59 and single (divorced). I have a lot of younger women (28-42) who pay attention to me.

The reasons (as I have had them explained by a couple women friends of mine:

1. We're just "classier"- not childish, video game playing, backward hat wearing geeks.

2. We are not selfish in any way- as in listening to them talk and in bed.

Those are two of the main points.

Are you loaded? Are you buffed? If so, do you take any of that testosterone replacement therapy stuff?

no comprende wrote:

I kind of get the older dude thing. Don't get the attractive girl going for the ghetto thug type of thing. Seems so incredibly stupid. Why do they do it? Is the sleazy thug culture bored into the minds of weak teens and early twenties that they can't get out? Pressured into it? Low IQ? Thankfully, I'm 32 and extremely glad I was able to avoid too much exposure to that.

BBC and/or intense, aggressive personality. Not attractive to all girls, but is physically a turn on for most. Goes along with the classic "brash douchebag gets the lady" motif. Like it or not, most girls find this sort of personality attractive in a short term fling situation. They aren't looking at these guys thinking "what a great choice of partner"...it's more "OMG I shouldn't really feel this way but this guy is really turning me on".

Ahem. Physical Attractiveness. You haven't let yourself go so you still look okay, but I'd almost guarantee you've lost a chunk of how good you look already. Not the end all be all, but it's definitely an important factor. You probably get more women interested in you now, but they are more interested in you because of what you bring to the table; not because they actually are into "you".

In other words, most women aren't particularly attracted to you in a sexual way, but they are interested in you intellectually (not guaranteed, but likely) and as a provider. Same goes for the guy that's 59. There is almost no chance he gets any initial interest from women walking around, shopping, etc....but once he talks to them and they begin to see what he has to offer, then he starts getting some attention.

I still can't decide if this is a good thing, bad thing or neutral. It definitely explains a large part of the post nuptial shutoff thread though. Why do you think this happens? When looking for a mate, women tend to put looks/turned-on ness/attraction slightly lower on the scale and focus on someone who is stable and a good provider. Upside is a more stable, long term commitment and potentially deeper relationship. Downside is a much greater likelihood of cheating and of course the possibility of less or no sex because she was never particularly attracted to you in that way.