I have a good job. But I hate where Iive. Thoughts

no i dont work for an oil company. The thing is in my country work is not its bright side. Very difficult to find a job at the moment in italy. Not because of Covid. Now of course even worse but in Italy you work twice as much，and get paid exactly half or less with the same position i have in Northern Europe. Thats just how it is . It doesnt matter the work is fine. I like it but being here is not something that makes me happy. If you are born here its different. But i have seen the bright side of the world where we have sun and life every day. I have tried finding a job in italy. i didnt move here to spend a vacation i would never do that. I cancomplainabout everything here but the system works and at least before Covid there was plenty of work in any field. A waiter here gets paid higher than my uncle who is a doctor in Naples. Italy. Its crazy.

Hearing from your life experience is amazing！I have always dreamed to pass by one day these locations. I was offered a seasonal job when i was in Asia in Borneo. I guess its quite similar to Papaua New Guinea. Bit i never really tookthe job because i was studying at the time and didnt have the possibility to leave. It must be a very different place to be. Was it Port Moresby？

Anyway yes i have travelled and lived in a few places so i thought it wouldnt make the difference one place or another anymore especially after having lived in Beijing whichhas a difficult climate too. But no i was wrong here its different . You are right its not just about the cold. Its the cumulative lack of light which stsrts to affect you in a very negative manner over time. At least for me. Buffalo is a lot more south than where i am. Is it 60 degrees north？my latitude is about 67 degrees north.

I guess there is a reason why population is low here. Who wants to live in a place where its cold and dark for 9 months？I will work on saving up and leave after this summer to the latest. I cant take it anymore. Not for me.

Honestly if i had the same job as right now in my home country for example i would be very happy. I like it. I have worked many low paying jobs in the past like waiter and food service. So i appreciate to have a jobwhere i can sit in an office in my comfortable chair. I get to do things i like. I was talking about the location not my job position .

I had no job and hated where I lived until I finally moved 2 weeks ago.

I knew after living there for 1 month that it sucked and I ended up staying for 9 months.

9 months too long.

You will be much happier when you finally move.

where is the city located? can't be worse than where I am stuck for the next couple of years.

I dont wanna offend but since so many of you ask，the city is Kittila. Now there are many tour guides who want to work.here so for many people this is a beautiful place. I could not work as a tour guide here simply because i dont like it. People are different. Its not a place that reflects my life values. What about you where do you live？I cannot imagine you live in a place worse than this so i think i am curious now.. Whats your city？

Yeah i have no doubt that i will be much happier when i move. The job is inportant but if i can find an equivalent elsewhere i will move because as others have said there is only one life. Now i am 22 y.o. its not that i am gonna be this age forever and i cant take the risk of wasting my life here. Of course coronavirus will make it difficult right now to find work. I also talked to one partner i have in Namibia，he said there the coronavirus situation is just as bad. i dont know this thing is sucking bad. really bad.

Well, it's not cold and dark for 9 months there. You have more daylight than just about any of us for the next half year.

Billmax wrote:

I dont wanna offend but since so many of you ask，the city is Kittila. Now there are many tour guides who want to work.here so for many people this is a beautiful place. I could not work as a tour guide here simply because i dont like it. People are different. Its not a place that reflects my life values. What about you where do you live？I cannot imagine you live in a place worse than this so i think i am curious now.. Whats your city？

Have you just moved there and started the job? I know its a cliché, but try to give it a little more time. You will almost certainly never love the place but it might start to feel like home the longer you give it. Try giving yourself a target time to stick it out - 3 months, preferably 6 months. 2 years would be ideal, because to future employers, that makes you very employable in the same field.

You've achieved a lot just by moving there. Many people would be too scared to leave their own country for a job, and that's a great experience already just to have done that.

I don't know the town but I've looked at in on googlemaps, and not only is it very small, it is really far north and its not even on the coast. That said, you have summer coming up and it would be a shame not to experience it because summers that far north are so much better than the rest of the year. Its really worth sticking around for.

Do you have work colleagues? Obviously not great for socialising at the present time but this lockdown won't be forever. Ironically, you're in one of the best locations in the world to ride out the storm and to keep earning money. And you will know what the economy is like in Italy just now and how hard it is to find even a low paid job.

Day to day, I would be looking at things like setting a routine and finding places locally that you can run to that make you feel secure and slightly at home - maybe a certain hill, or certain viewpoint. Are there good tracks to run on that you can explore further or is the running all on road? Make sure you get take high strength vitamin D, magnesium and vitamin C. Can you go out cycling to explore further?

Your diet is great so think what you can do to pass the time. You could add tiktok - learning some of those dances will keep you occupied for many hours and also help your running. You are stuck in a very negative mindset and interpreting everything associated with your location as negative. If you try to change this thinking in small ways - as I suggested above, finding a particular place you like, it might help you to get out of this. Get to know the place. Find out everything you can about the people there, the culture, the history. I disagree with the finding a woman thing - you're clearly not in the best place to give it your best shot right now, and it could prove more trouble than its worth.

Some people just can't adapt to living in the north, that said there is a big difference between living somewhere like Uppsala at 60 degrees north or in the south of Norway to being stuck in the middle of Finland in a small town. Me personally, I struggle with living too far south and couldn't live in Italy. I don't especially like the culture and I hate the scruffiness of some places - you know when you get those advertising hoardings along all the roads, interspersed with light industry? I probably could live happily enough for a year or two in Kittilia but I'm not sure if I could have done it aged 22 as I have more coping mechanisms now. Strangely, I have a friend from Sicily who loves the north and who spent a year living in Iceland learning Icelandic and who now lives in Sweden! Some places are bad - I have never been as disappointed in a place I've visited as Tromso, and I struggled living in Aberdeen in Scotland for a time (I work in the oil industry), but Alta in the far north of Norway was a great town. Its a pity you can't buy or hire a car right now and do some travelling in your spare time. But seriously - join tiktok.

Billmax wrote:

I Hope you are joking and even if So this is very bad taste. Mafia like in Italy Its everywhere. Dont mention America，China，world superpowers. So just find another one please. I Consider this very offensive But i wanna Hope for you you are joking.

Every mild joke is in “very bad taste to you”

You sound like you’re a real joy to be around. Just lighten up and maybe people will befriend you. If so, this will make life better.

Billmax wrote:

my latitude is about 67 degrees north.

I am trying to figure out where you live.

Tromso is at at a latitude of 69. Narvik is at 68

You must live in Bodø o r Fauske, Norway or Gallivare or Jockkmock in Sweden.

There is not too much choice up there.

Romaniemi, Finnland would be another option.

So where exactly is it?

Boulder bro

Very interesting to hear from your experiences really！I guess in your field of work you also get to travel a bit... Scotland i guess i wouldnt like it either ahahahahaha that rain of scotland reminds me of Northern Norway.

Yes basically its been a few months I have been living here since I have connections from Helsinki which is the city where i studied many years ago. I have connections and i know things work well in finland and they offered me a job the opportunity came up and I took it. Winter was very hard！Its not like Helsinki you are right there is adifference between living up at 60N. and almost at 70N. And the difference is even greater if you go to Northern Norway. I have been to Alta too，I like it actually because its a town and it being near the coast i guess i could have an easier time adapting to. I have been in winter in Alta it was with a friend who wanted to go there to join the football club. Needless to say the natural beauty of the place is incredible. But after a while the climate hits you with depression. I dream every day of life，to see the green trees . It will soon be over thank God. It wont be a Mediterranean Summer sure but Summer here will never be like Winter. I have no problem at all with the Midnight Sun！I cant wait for the time all the forests will be green and the Sun up 24/7.

I find this the only real aspect which i cannot adapt to. The climate. The people are actually lovely my manager at work has made everything possible thing she could do to make me feel comfortable. She has offered me even free housing for many months due to the coronavirus we dont get salary at the moment so she offered me free housing. I must not complain about the people because i had a very positive experience. I only started running outside of the gym these days as the roads have melted and i can finally have my glorious moment of running outside，time flies compared to the treadmill.

There are many trails to Run yes but in the Summer... Right now only road running which is having a high impact on my body，not bad its good stress to the body and bones but trail running would be better and i am waiting for he summer.

Running is my passion of course. I bring it with me wherever i am in the world，and youare right i should be looking at more trails instead of doing the same every day！i can help myself with the bike i have been offered by my manager from work （yes my manager is that amazing.）.I am also looking for making some road trips with the bike to the mountains nearby，but i always end up running because i just love running like nothing else. I am gonna run a solo race i am waiting for the temperature to warm up even more. I can help.myself with the bike.

So right now that i have no work due to coronavirus i am just focused on training and diet. I try not to relapse into restricting calories and losing an.unhealthy amount of weight （i had an eating disorder but i manage it well now despite the ups and downs.）. I anyway eat everything whole and healthy plant based diet which is powering my runs amazingly. Wholegrains，copious amounts of fruit anx vegetables i can all find here. Beans are my main protein source for taste reasons i dont like meat weird yes but true. I never eat red meat，never anything processed . No refined grains，simple carbs like sugars and no red meat. Fish sometimes weekly salmon is great here，chicken twice a month. I have lost a bit of muscle from running actually. I dont know why .

What is tiktok bro？I was thinking to join the Marathon in Tromso but of course everything is cancelled which is making me very isolated and depressed. Running alone is nice but i miss the sense of community you have in races and at the gym. Yes i heard from my parents too they tell me that in these times i am in the best place in the world. Even tho i complain but its like crazy what i hear is going on in the world because of this virus. I dont have any human contact at the moment. Which actually sucks more than i thought. Even that outing to the gym，the everyday chat you have with your collegues at work is something we shouldnt take for granted. Just being outdoors training away from town （i help myself with the bike as needed）and then just alone time at home or on the bike. i am waiting to start work again .

I am seriously not paying respect to my planned rest days because i hate them. I just feel with all this free time i wanna run all the time. Not even the bike makes me as satisfied .

Dunno bro about finding a woman because i consider myself too boring and negative to be interesting to anyone. Not to be dramatic but its better if i am alone at the moment for this reason.

Come on dude

Its a few hours from Rovaniemi yeah. A bit more north

I'm late to the response train, but I think it would be good to stay for at least one full year. Just build up the resume a little bit with this experience. And also, it's going to be a heck of a story later in life that you lived in a ridiculous location for a year or two.

You're still young, I assume. Probably in your 20's... Obviously don't stay there your whole life, but a year or two won't be too terribly long and it will be good for your future self.

Come on noone is too late bro . Thank you for sharing your opinion. Sure lets see what life brings

Late to the show, but stick it out one year wrote:

I'm late to the response train, but I think it would be good to stay for at least one full year. Just build up the resume a little bit with this experience. And also, it's going to be a heck of a story later in life that you lived in a ridiculous location for a year or two.

You're still young, I assume. Probably in your 20's... Obviously don't stay there your whole life, but a year or two won't be too terribly long and it will be good for your future self.

I agree with this. Work it for a couple years, get that unique job experience, and move on. You are 22 and you might feel that you are wasting your life but I can promise you that by age 30 you will have forgotten all about that time.

My only other advice is to spend your time now working on a real plan for your departure. Don't say "I'll look at jobs next year" or something. Set a goal of maybe one year from now and take steps to actually make it happen. Decide what the next step in your career should be and work towards it.

Sodankylä?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sodankyl%C3%A4

We have to figure out were you live in order to help you.

Learn Finnish, do a lot of sauna, cut some trees. Make the best of where you are.

Watch some Ari Kaurismaki movies, one of my favorite directors.

Start with Leningrad Cowboys

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leningrad_Cowboys_Go_America