RunningHubby wrote:
Curious about your perspectives on if / how you try to impress your spouse or significant other...
Were you more inclined to do this earlier in your relationship? For those who don't try to do this, what's your secret? I feel like I'm on a tightrope in my relationship and trying to learn how not to care / worry as much.
Thanks!
I'm pretty sure you're describing dating: that is when you try to impress your potential mate, impress his or her friends, impress his or her parents, etc.
You're married and feeling like your on a tightrope? Come on, bro. If you feel like you're on a tightrope and you're married, then there are a lot of issues that you need to deal with, co-dependence being among them.
I'd suggest CBT or mindfullness training. It will really help you let go of unhelpful emotions/feelings (anxiety, fear, stress, etc.) that will, hopefully, allow you to get off that tightrope.