Dr Ruth wrote:
She’s already banging some dude in her new ‘tier 2’ city.
truth! dont even bother calling her. unfollow n move on
Dr Ruth wrote:
She’s already banging some dude in her new ‘tier 2’ city.
truth! dont even bother calling her. unfollow n move on
I chose the girl and got cheated on. Bad decision. Choose the career. It will open up even better girls to you.
O.D.W. wrote:
She'll only respect you if you don't follow her. And given she probably has a dominant personality, she won't respect you regardless.
Some women love destroying the dreams and prospects of their boyfriends/husbands.
She knows you're on the fast track to having the control in the relationship, and she resents you and your job for that.
She wants to drag you away from your dream job, and then she wants to belittle you for earning (much) less in your new tier 2 city.
And then she'll just break up with you anyway, because she couldn't possibly stay in love with a chump who dropped his dream job for a girl that literally moved away from him and his dream job.
Even if she wants to love and respect you, she won't be able to.
This is the way someone psycho-analytically minded might think, and it's actually really useful to be willing to look deeper into the unconscious. It sounds rather distasteful but man, how naive can you be. This stuff is way, way more real than people admit.
Like Really Bro wrote:
O.D.W. wrote:
She'll only respect you if you don't follow her. And given she probably has a dominant personality, she won't respect you regardless.
Some women love destroying the dreams and prospects of their boyfriends/husbands.
She knows you're on the fast track to having the control in the relationship, and she resents you and your job for that.
She wants to drag you away from your dream job, and then she wants to belittle you for earning (much) less in your new tier 2 city.
And then she'll just break up with you anyway, because she couldn't possibly stay in love with a chump who dropped his dream job for a girl that literally moved away from him and his dream job.
Even if she wants to love and respect you, she won't be able to.
This is the way someone psycho-analytically minded might think, and it's actually really useful to be willing to look deeper into the unconscious. It sounds rather distasteful but man, how naive can you be. This stuff is way, way more real than people admit.
Genuinely cannot tell if you're agreeing or disagreeing with the guy you quoted. I think agreeing.
Starcrossed Lover wrote:
I’m a mid-20s guy currently working at a NYC investment fund. I love my job in a way I never thought I could love a job, and am well-positioned to make Partner in the firm / industry which is obviously long term lucrative.
My longtime girlfriend recently moved to a Tier 2 city (think large enough to have a pro sports franchise or two) and insists that I follow her along in relatively short order. My industry doesn’t exist down there in a meaningful way and I don’t like the city itself, so the only reason I’d be moving would be to be with her. She’s fantastic and someone I could see myself marrying, but at the same time I worry I’d be sacrificing too much to do it. I’m still young and social enough that I’m not overly worried about dying alone, but at the same time would I be an idiot to throw a good thing away for career?
LRC gurus, what would you do?
Dump her for her own benefit so she doesn't end up with some prick that refers to cities as "Tier 2". She deserves a "Tier 1" lover.
Swaglord wrote:
HOOWIE wrote:
As an advocate of longevity and mental health I would recommend just getting the hell out of NYC in general. NOBODY THEIR IS HAPPY
Why do you think people stay there?
Because they are scared and weak. All because it's a flourishing city does not mean they are happy.
HOOWIE wrote:
Swaglord wrote:
Why do you think people stay there?
Because they are scared and weak. All because it's a flourishing city does not mean they are happy.
It's because they can spell THERE, and you can't.
LM wrote:
sbeefyk2 wrote:
I've never seen a better description of women in the year 2019. It's perfect. They are psychotic.
Agree ODW is spot on. I dont think you are. Why? He used the keyword "dominant". That describes a dominant women to a T.
Not all women are like this by any imagination, but almost all dominant types are.
Worth noting that any woman that describes herself as a "strong, independent woman" is not independent. She is dominant. Independent types are those so focused on their own life and mission they dont obsess or worry over what you do. Less common for women but definitely some like that.
OP: This woman is demanding you move with her. Ask why? Not only did she just up and move away from you, but what prospects did she have that she would demand you leave. That demanding is perhaps the most concerning thing.
I really worry about some posters on Lets Run. Many of you sound like future mass murders or serial abusers.
The OP did not post enough information on his girlfriend for any of you to take the leaps of logic you took. Why did she move to another city/ The OP does not say. Maybe seem moved to take care of a sick parent.
All we know is that the OP refers to cities as 2nd tier. Heck, we don't even know his 5k time. How can we help him decide if we don't even know that.
Actually ... wrote:
HOOWIE wrote:
Because they are scared and weak. All because it's a flourishing city does not mean they are happy.
It's because they can spell THERE, and you can't.
I corrected myself immediately afterwards. But thanks for your dry and meaningless contribution of ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
mancoach wrote:
The two of you obviously talked about this and agreed that it was a good decision for her to move. If she just up and moved that would be very weird and you wouldn't be considering staying with her. So I'm guessing you agreed to move and are now getting cold feet or you agreed thinking she wouldn't actually move.
Some people might tell you that you need to be honest with her and tell her how you are feeling. Do NOT do that. She will likely feel betrayed and feel like you don't value her. Instead take some time to let your feelings settle. Actually look into moving. Maybe there are remote options. Maybe there are companies you don't know about in that area. Let her know you are looking. Visit her whenever you can. In six months you will know the answer. Don't do anything is haste.
Seriously! OP must be a troll. Nobody up and leaves.
Starcrossed Lover wrote:
I’m a mid-20s guy currently working at a NYC investment fund. I love my job in a way I never thought I could love a job, and am well-positioned to make Partner in the firm / industry which is obviously long term lucrative.
My longtime girlfriend recently moved to a Tier 2 city (think large enough to have a pro sports franchise or two) and insists that I follow her along in relatively short order. My industry doesn’t exist down there in a meaningful way and I don’t like the city itself, so the only reason I’d be moving would be to be with her. She’s fantastic and someone I could see myself marrying, but at the same time I worry I’d be sacrificing too much to do it. I’m still young and social enough that I’m not overly worried about dying alone, but at the same time would I be an idiot to throw a good thing away for career?
LRC gurus, what would you do?
If she insists you move and you do, imagine what other things in life she will insist that you do. Don't think about this as career vs partner but rather is this the sort of partner you want going forward.
Some women won't come out and say it but that's true--money does provide security and an advantage.
Watch the movie "Blue Valentine" for example. Ryan Gosling is a good actor. His character makes less than the female character and the relationship crumbles.
Even at the end of the day, feminists want a man who can support them (even subconsciously). I've noticed anecdotally feminists who are married are calmer and a lot of single ones are more angry and bitter.
LOL at taking inspiration from the RYAN GOSLIN film. NEEEEXXXTTTT
jecht wrote:
Some women won't come out and say it but that's true--money does provide security and an advantage.
Watch the movie "Blue Valentine" for example. Ryan Gosling is a good actor. His character makes less than the female character and the relationship crumbles.
Even at the end of the day, feminists want a man who can support them (even subconsciously). I've noticed anecdotally feminists who are married are calmer and a lot of single ones are more angry and bitter.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. FUNNIEST POST OF THE WEEK. I'M GONNA GO FIND INSPIRATION FROM THE FILM POCAHONTAS AND LET IT DICTATE MY THOUGHTS
HOOWIE wrote:
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. FUNNIEST POST OF THE WEEK. I'M GONNA GO FIND INSPIRATION FROM THE FILM POCAHONTAS AND LET IT DICTATE MY THOUGHTS
No meltdown. Just sh!t posting in a thread that was a disaster from the beginning. Carry on.
I would choose a career if I were you. Career is money. Money is a good and comfortable life. The girl can leave you tomorrow and you will be left with nothing. Especially without career growth, you will have a small income. And your girlfriend will always be mad at you for lack of money. And eventually you will break up. When my brother had the choice of flying to work in another country as a welder or staying with his girlfriend, he decided to fly to another country. Arguing that it is not for nothing that for many years he studied at a cool College as a welder. And so often sat on https://weldingnearyou.com/california/, to understand this profession in more detail.
I wanna hear what he chose lmao